for dinner, lunch, nor snacks, nor tips...... nor for movie tickets, etc. Should it bother me? She has a very good paying job and doesn't have financial problems.
I am always the one that suggests we go places, she never suggests we go anywhere, but she always is willing to go.
2006-12-27 13:57:51 · 24 answers · asked by JustPeachy !!! 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let's see.. I am sort of traditional and I think that in the beginning of a relationship, even dating, I would like the guy to foot the bill. Now, if he is having financial problems the girl should definitely help.. but he needs to let her know that he's having financial problems. Otherwise, it's regardless how much $$ she makes.. Now if she NEVER offers, that's a different story. I won't offer every time, but I'll offer every now and then.. If he's not in any financial bind and he lets me pay, I would question that. I believe that the guy should step up to the plate and do a little romancing/courting. If you really like her, then this is shouldn't be a big deal unless, again, you're in a financial bind. Also, if it really bugs you, you should bring it up. Ask her! There might be an explanation.. maybe she's having a hard time financially even though you think she's got a great job she may have other obligations.. Communication is key. It takes 2 to tango!
2006-12-27 14:24:26 · answer #1 · answered by soulMate360 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Its just what guys should do! in this day and age she really should at least offer tho, and even still you should insist that she keep her money. Maybe try somthing like inviting her to your house and asking her if she could pick up some food or drinks on the way over or something. This way she would have to pay for it herself. if she does it with no problem, thats good. If she throws a fit, or asks you to repay her for it get rid of her. Its not that she doesnt pay, its her attitude towards it.
2006-12-27 14:08:31 · answer #2 · answered by Aubrey 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
oohh, that is a tricky one..if she has a good job, there should be no reason why she' isn't offering to pay for something now and then. it is just human nature to want to give back to another, no matter what. Does she come off as very old fashion, as in believing men should pay all the time for very thing?..Does she expect the door to always be held opened for her..(although I like that too..i like chivalry in a man..makes me melt)..
you know what..forgot what i said up there..it was going no where..basically..tell her, would love to go for a meal or movie, but my fiances situation is bit off now..to many trips out ...or if that sounds to rude, say to her next time, want to split for a meal and movie tonite?..See if she takes the gesture, that she should at least pay for half. You might have to be open with her and tell her you would like it if he took You out for once...it could get you in trouble..and girless..but really..i do think, just out of politeness..she should of at least offered by now.
2006-12-27 14:06:42 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honestly if you keep asking her out, then of course you are going to pay... it's only been 4 weeks... Wait and see until you are officially in a relationship to see if she buys you something or invites you somewhere. I can't honestly remember paying for any dates with my boyfriends at the beginning until we were in a serious relationship to the point that we knew each other's finances and everything about each other... you are still courting her right?
2006-12-27 14:06:02 · answer #4 · answered by joy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you should stop asking her then. Let her ask, and then stick her with the bill.
Of course the right thing to probably do would to be to ask her about it, and suggest going dutch every once in awhile. Maybe she's testing you though, to see how much of a gentleman you are. Or she's just taking advantage of you. The only way you'll find out is to talk to her about it, and see what kind of a reaction you get. If she gets all pissy, then she's just taking advantage of you.
2006-12-27 14:00:39 · answer #5 · answered by wahkea 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dude she is taking you for granted. This is what you do to that freeloading woman, you take her to dinner and when its time to pay be like oh man no way I forgot my wallet at home, oh man can you get this for me if you don't mind? If she says no, or starts complaining than be like OK wait right here I want to see if I have an emergency debit card in my car and than just leave bro she is not worth your breath.Let me know if you do this, I did it once and never saw her again =O)
2006-12-27 14:02:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
She is probably a girl that thinks the men should pay for everything. Tell her how you feel even if you half the bill its better than nothing. She should at least offer to pay even if you said no
2006-12-27 14:03:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't suggest anything anymore.....take her back to your place...watch t.v and offer her only water to drink...maybe she'll ask you out and then offer to pay.......Good Luck but if it's like this in the beginning , just imagine what the future holds....hmmmmmm
2006-12-27 14:01:00 · answer #8 · answered by justmedrt 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe she is an old-fashioned lady and still believes the guy pays for the dates?
2006-12-27 13:59:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Color me unimpressed with this woman.
Sounds like she may be less than "into" you. She may be like this with all men, too. I doubt it's you personally.
This would bother me. I always try to take turns paying when I start dating. It's only fair.
2006-12-27 14:01:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋