This guy that I've been dating for about a month now has got me boggled.. He's 29, I'm 26. Things are great and yes we've been intimate. He then invites me to an exclusive Xmas eve family dinner.. I decide to go and Xmas eve I show up w/ his gift (nice sweater) and he puts it aside.. Finally, I ask.."Aren't you going to see what it is?", so he does, and he likes it.. he then proceeds to tell me that he left my gift at home so I'll have to wait. Crappy answer. I'm frustrated but I don't say anything.. then he goes on to say that he had 2 things in mind but that he might go back to exchange the gift he got me for another. But he brought all of his gifts for the fam. I meet his entire fam and they are great and they feel the same way about me. His sis even pointed out that I'm the 1st grl he's ever brght and he must really like me. Since Xmas, I haven't heard from him. 0. It's been 2 days. What's his deal? Why hasn't he even contacted me to say hi?? We usually at least txt 1x/day.
2006-12-27 13:50:15 · 6 answers · asked by soulMate360 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well all of the stuff you had to say about the family & Xmas Eve didn't sound very alarming. I figured he didn't open the gift right away, because I tend to wait until Xmas Day to open all of my gifts. It is normal in my family for all of us to meet up somewhere Xmas Eve, & exchange all of our gifts, then we all take our gifts home & open them Xmas morning. Later we meet up for Xmas dinner, & thank each other for the wonderful gifts. So I figured that sort of thing was going on with him, & he didn't have your gift with him because he was planning on seeing you later, & give it to you then.
But then you talked about his reaction to your gift, & the fact that he hasn't called you since then. Now it's becomming a little more clear (to me) what might be going on.
HE DIDN"T HAVE A GIFT READY FOR YOU XMAS EVE!
lol
And I wonder if he was planning on getting you a gift in the 1st place. (after all you said you two have only been dating for a month)
I think you caught him off guard when you gave him a gift, & that's why he may have reacted the way he did when he opened it, & why he started to lay down some cover with the lame stuff about going back, & exchanging the gift he says he got for you.
I know you didn't intend for it to happen, but whenever I find myself caught in a similar situation, I really feel like a DOG!
Now he probably has the mind set that he isn't going to see you until he has something special cooked up for you, & with all of the Boxing Day madness, he hasn't been able to get into the stores & do his shopping the way that guys typically do it.
I think that is what "his deal" is so txt him tomorrow afternoon if you haven't heard from him by then. I'm sure he is thinking of you & doing his best to please you with a perfect gift.
Merry Chrismas!
2006-12-27 14:26:00 · answer #1 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wonder if he faked his way through the "gift conversation." LIke he never really bought you a gift but wanted you to think he did. And maybe he's feeling guilty or embarrassed about it.
But it's hard to know unless you ask him. If you are accustomed to having contact daily, I'd go ahead and contact him and ask him how he's doing, say you had a great time at Xmas (if in fact you did), and tell him you are glad he liked your gift. Just try and get things moving again. This might be a minor stall, or it might be a total engine blowout, but it's hard to know unless there's some communication about it.
Of course, if he doesn't communicate with you after you make contact, you have your answer. Good luck!
2006-12-27 13:54:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are strange creatures and I believe this guy may really really like you...especially if he took you home to meet his family.
But, here's the catch...you and the family got along well....now he may be feeling a little pressure not only from you, but from his family regarding the status of your relationship. Of course they're going to ask many questions about YOU..
As for the the Xmas present that he promised, if he never presents one then you know that he never bought one....it's your call on that...if he doesn't present you with a gift....
Lastly, but not least I would definitely give this guy a call...do not pressure allow him time and space to sort out his thoughts as it relates to you.
Good Luck
2006-12-27 14:06:36 · answer #3 · answered by Ebonee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are reading too much into his actions. Just back off a bit.
If he had invited you to Xmas dinner, that's all there is. Nothing more to it than that.
He forgot your gift. Plain and simple. He is way too embarassed to admit it.
Could he forget? No. Can he forget? Yes. Is he serious with you to the degree you are with him? Questionable.
Go with the flo and just see what happens. Don't push it. It would appear that you are way too anxious and get moving to the next level but he is not.
Perhaps he feels that you are coming on strong. He has cut you the slack. Get a message.
2006-12-27 15:20:05 · answer #4 · answered by Nightrider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-11 17:18:40 · answer #5 · answered by zagel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he isn't sure yet of what to give you, and he is affraid you might ask... don't worry too much... maybe he is embaressed for not giving it to you... He really likes you so don't worry.
Please answer my question:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20061227182438AAJ0lSY&r=w
2006-12-27 13:58:09 · answer #6 · answered by Latina Hottie! W.Chocolate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋