I THINK my nephew is gay! i dont know for sure. but i am not going to tell you why i think he is gay! Well im thinking of telling my sister. But i dont know for sure. and if i dont tell her and my nephew really is gay and she found out i knew she might get mad that i didnt tell her. This is a bad situation! I mean, if i tell her right now, he may not be gay, and he may hate me! Believe me i know my nephew and i know he dosnt give people second chances. What should i do??? they live down the street from me! Should i tell my sister or should i wait to find out for sure???? Help!
2006-12-27 13:47:36 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Honestly Anne I think you should butt out of their business. I understand you love your sister... but this isn't your position to investigate the sexual orientation of her son/your nephew. Mother are intuitive, and if you think he's gay, I am sure she's had an inclination years or months before you have.... Let them be. And if he's gay, and what???? The fact is that they are going to have to deal with it on their own, you not included in the equation. I don't mean this in a bad way, but you are going to make things worse with one of them... either A.) if he's gay, he may be mad at you, or your sister may be mad b/c maybe she wanted to live in denial or B) he isn't and you are going to give him a huge complex and your sister is going to think of you in gosh know what way... Please take my sincere advice. Leave them alone. All these things any ways come into light on their own.
2006-12-27 13:56:32 · answer #1 · answered by joy 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Talk with your nephew about it. He may not be.
Some people act in a way that might make others think they are gay, but actually not. The girl who used to live right infront of my house acted as if she was lesbian, but I found out she wasn't afterall. Also, being gay or lesbian, what's so bad about it?
Many people don't share the common likes and dislikes.
And many many people actually go over the times they find themselves as gay and lesbian. It just that some people are
sensitive. Your nephew might be one. Don't tell your sister.
She won't be mad with you if you say that you never knew.
Just deal this situation with your nephew.
You guys would understand each other more.
2006-12-27 14:07:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ouch this is a toughie, I would say like the rest of the gang it is something between you sister and her son. How old is your nephew by the way?
It's his life. I have many friends who are gay and they needed to be the one to tell their parents. They can judge when is the right time to tell. Her hearing it from you will more then likely have a bad ending, for all three of you. Where him going to her and telling would be a trusting and loving situation. I don't know her reaction but she will take it better from him then you.
She shouldn't be upset with you for not telling her you think it's a possibility.
I wouldn't ask him outright either. If he tells you then you would feel obligated to tell her.
Just let your suspicions go to the back of your mind.You will find out one way or the other eventually.
2006-12-27 14:34:41 · answer #3 · answered by Jaderae 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its none of your business if he's gay, straight, or what. Stay out of it and keep your mouth closed. With the way you're acting, if he is gay, he'll feel alienated and unloved. Even if he is gay, that doesn't make him any less of a person, or any less of a nephew to you. Everyone is entitled to their own personal preferences without having their FAMILY condemn them for it. Back off!
2006-12-27 14:16:10 · answer #4 · answered by wahkea 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you tell her right now, he may not be gay? LMFAO, where did you dream that up at? Is being gay has nothing to do with that , ok. If he is gay, there is nothing you or you're sister can do about it ok. I suggest you stay out of it and let nature takes its course.
2006-12-27 14:15:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You said you, THINK, he's gay, you don't know for sure, so don't go telling your sister anything, unless you want a big family blow up, and even if he is gay, it is none of your business.
2006-12-27 13:58:01 · answer #6 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
wait to make sure it's true before u go telling his mother {his mother right?} that u think he's gay. And he'd have a right to get pissed at you if u told his mother that he's gay.
Good Luck.
2006-12-27 13:54:07 · answer #7 · answered by lilmissperfect_2013 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well you can talk to your nephew first and if he is gay don't tell our sister let your nephew do it when he is ready for her to know. and if he is not than there is nothing to worry about. if your sister gets mad than let her it'll pass but if your nephew gets mad than he won't forgive you just like you said. but give him a chance talk to him and let him know that you don't care what sexuality he prefers. GOOD LUCK!!!!!
2006-12-27 14:16:39 · answer #8 · answered by inmaria06 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honestly, I think u shouldn't say anything. Bcuz there is no way that she can find out that u knew if he was GAY from b4. So yeah, I think u shouldn't bud in.
2006-12-27 14:28:42 · answer #9 · answered by Night_Wolf 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should wait until you have proof that he is gay, it is better this way so you don't cause any harm to anybody. It should be his choice to tell people of his sexuality.
2006-12-27 13:53:03 · answer #10 · answered by masterflagman 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋