2006-12-27 13:43:51 · 22 answers · asked by ellie m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to learn to trust him, or leave him. You are not doing either of you any good for the inevitable.
2006-12-27 13:46:22 · answer #1 · answered by bukrub66 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you love him but is unable to trust him. Tell him specific reasons for not trusting him, in a gentle tone. Ask him how much does he cherish you and since both your lives are involved at this point of time, he needs to choose in this crossroads. Ask him back, if for the same reasons he do not trust you, what kind of actions and efforts would he expect of you to win back his trust? Let him put himself in your shoe. Have a heart-to-heart talk...
If he has a problem with honesty, but both of you really wants to give your love a chance, you can try going to a professional counsellor to seek advice on your relationship. Find out ways for him to regain your trust. However, you must expect this to be a slow process and things are not easy. There may be setbacks esp if he has some kind of psychological or addiction problems... It all depends on how much your love is for him and whether you dare to take the plunge again.
2006-12-27 21:54:20 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs Kee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know, I know -
You are attracted to him because of the cuteness. Some guys are like that. Deep down you have this uneasy feeling that he cannot be trusted.
Go with your inner feelings. Have fun, laugh and do everything. But stay cautious. He is not a longterm commitment material. He knows it too. So, just go with the flo. Have fun while it lasts. That's what life is all about. Having fun.
President Reagan once said: "Trust but verify". He said this during Gorbachev and Perestroika days.
It hold true for many things, even for love.
2006-12-27 21:55:46 · answer #3 · answered by Nightrider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, a lot of women are in a situation where they love their partners but are unable to trust them for various reasons. If you see that you will NEVER be able to forgive him enough to trust him then this is not the relationship for you... Love is trust & acceptance... To not have either one of them is to not love fully... Because there is apart of you that him that you don't particularly care for...
Real, lasting relationships are built on trust. Trust is foundational because it creates a safe environment for intimacy to grow. If your relationship is going to work you need to be able to trust your partner with your past, your present and your future and vice versa. Trust takes time and effort, is easily broken and hard to restore but if you're willing to work at it, the reward is the relationship you've always dreamed of.
Trust doesn't just naturally happen between two people, even if they love each other. It takes work and if you've been hurt in the past, it can be especially difficult. Building trust takes time, you need to show your partner that you are trustworthy and that you trust them in return. If your partner has trouble trusting, you can do a lot to create an environment where trust can grow. Listen to your partner, respect him and his opinions, and accept him as he is. Reveal parts of your own history, show him that you trust him and you will help him to do the same. If you are vulnerable it helps your partner to feel that he is safe to be vulnerable as well.
Don't rush it. If you truly love your partner and want what's best for him, you'll wait. If you're in a relationship with someone you feel you can't trust, don't ignore it. If you have trouble trusting anyone, you might want to seek counseling before you run away from what could be a great relationship. Your past does affect your ability to trust. However, if trust hasn't been a problem for you in the past and your gut is telling you to protect yourself from this guy, take it as a warning. Take a close look at who he is, how he treats others and how he treats you. Your gut may be giving you good information...
2006-12-27 21:50:34 · answer #4 · answered by I wanna have a midget :) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is an integrel part of a successful relationship. Don't get involved if you feel insecure, unsafe, or, as you put it, that you can't trust the other individual. This will only cause more problems and heartbreaks in the future. If you cannot come to trust him, move on.
2006-12-27 21:48:29 · answer #5 · answered by Earnesty_in_life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him and he loves you he will earn your trust. If that is not happening do not stay with him because it is very hard to be in a relationship that has no trust believe me! What happened that he lost your trust or did he never have it to begin with??
2006-12-27 21:47:23 · answer #6 · answered by Darling girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to decide if you can live without the trust, that is the hard question.
I have the same problam and I had to decide if being mostly happy was enough and after 2 years I am starting to build trust in him and it is getting better but it has not been easy
2006-12-27 21:47:10 · answer #7 · answered by G L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to say you love someone if you can not trust them. You may have deep feelings for that person, but baby girl that is not all love. I think you should leave him alone because with out trust their is nothing.It might hurt, but you have to do what you got to do. Matter of fact you should do what you think is right. What ever your choice is I wish you the best!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-27 21:58:44 · answer #8 · answered by MissSizzle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From experience first you need to look at yourself. Are you insecure? Guilty? Has this been going on since the beginning of your relationship? Is he giving you reasons or doing things to make you think he might be up to something. If you answer yes to these questions then you need to get out now. Yes it will be hard but concentrate on yourself and change things in you that will make you a better companion and to make better choices for whom you let get close to your heart. Good luck.
2006-12-27 21:52:17 · answer #9 · answered by Indianagirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on, nothing he can do will earn your trust and everything he does will make you suspicious. Eventually he wont be able to stand the tension this causes and leave you.
Do a favor for both of you and part ways friends.
2006-12-27 21:48:03 · answer #10 · answered by Old guy 124 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋