Ok well I have been dating this guy for a year. Lately he has been really serious about our relationship. He really wants us to last and be together forever. I don't love him as much since his attitude has changed. He has been really obsesiving with taking me to fancy places and getting my nice things. I like it better when we have fastfood and have a good hollywood video movie. He is always upset when I hang out with my guy friends and asks me if I am cheating on him. He is embarresed to take me around him friends now since I'm not shy around them anymore and I like to kid around. I am afraid to break up with him because when he gets upset about little things he doesn't talk to me for days. I'm afraid this could also end our friendship!!! HELP
2006-12-27 13:43:45 · 7 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am not by any means a relationship expert, but from the sound of things it sounds like this guy really does care for you and love you. If he has been acting more serious towards the relationship, it is indeed because he indeed wants to progress the relationship further. I think he may be asking you if you are cheating because he feels insecure when you hang out with guy friends... perhaps he senses that you are distancing yourself or are wanting to distance yourself from him and this may be part of the reason he is asking that. That is no excuse tho for him asking you in that manner if you are cheating, but sometimes people are terrible at expressing how they feel and what they really mean. Perhaps he wants to get your feelings about him and whether you want to continue the relationship as he senses that you are distancing yourself. Maybe that is why he is trying to take you out to fancy places and restaraunts instead of fastfoods and movie rentals because he may be trying to do more for you so that you can stay with him. If that is not something you want from him, just tell him you'd rather him be the same person he was at the beginning of the relationship and for him to just take you to fast foods, movie rentals, etc. like he used to. But if ending the relationship with him is something you seriously really want to do, you should be upfront about it. Don't lead him on as that may cause him to for sure end any possible friendship with you afterwards because that would be the same as toying with his emotions. If you do break up with him, break up with him gently and tell him you will always care for him and love him, but you feel the relationship between you better when you guys were just very good friends. Good Luck!
2006-12-27 14:03:10 · answer #1 · answered by DaUniQue1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite him to somewhere casual, like the park.
Sit him down a bench and tell him you liked it when things are simple. That you don't like fancy things and you would rather go out for fastfood. If you really loves you, he will accept that fact and he will change.
2006-12-27 13:51:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok i really think you should break up with him because he is jealous and a control freak. just be honest and tell him in person unless you're worried he can't control himself. if you want to break up with him you shouldn't be thinking about being friends in the future. he obviously doesn't trust or respect you so you should end it before he proposes. he could be putting on a show for you because he is changing and you'll fall for him and then when you're married he'll change again. he's not a stable guy. so leave while you have the courage to.
2006-12-27 13:49:31 · answer #3 · answered by Shookoolate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like he is getting really serious all of a sudden. If I were you I would just talk to him. Tell him that you like him, but that you don't feel comfortable moving this quickly. Tell him you enjoyed being with him more when it was casual. How old are you? If your young you have your entire life in front of you. Just don't let him make you do anything that you don't want to do.
2006-12-27 14:11:58 · answer #4 · answered by Maddie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to him. Tell him you feel he is changing and you feel you are growing apart. If you don't like him, he will become a barrier in your life and will hold you down. Do what is best for yourself, and in the end if he doesn't speak to you.. it's his loss, not yours.
2006-12-27 13:49:12 · answer #5 · answered by Maddie H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's take tis nature course,juz be a friend instead of breaking off.It is a period for Cooling off.
2006-12-27 13:51:56 · answer #6 · answered by Goosters 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him striaght forward be honest wif him.. tell him tht he needs 2 stop being soo obbsesive and wht not.. let him no u dont want to go out to fancy dinners tht u just want to rent a movie and eat yummy fast food....it will be hard to tell him but u just have to do it.. u no u got to do wht u got to do.. and if he loves u alot he will understand and chage back to his normal self ....
2006-12-27 13:49:26 · answer #7 · answered by Gabby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋