Does a big age difference really matter?

Question

I'm 32 and he is 49

Answer 1

it all depends how old you are.... when your over 20 I'd say no but under 20 then a big age gap isn't right

Answer 2

From personal experience.....NO!!! I am almost 29 and my husband is 49. We love each other very much. We have been together for a little over 6 years and have 2 beautiful sons together. I think there's nothing wrong with an age difference. If it works for you two don't worry about what other people think.

Answer 3

I don't think we should allow society to dictate age restrictions in relationships. There is a 21 year age gap between my boyfriend and I (I'm 27). I have never been happier in my life. Just like with any relationship, it needs to have the essentials like trust, understanding, communication, interests, goals, etc. If those elements are in place, then nothing else matters. Love is the greatest feeling in the world, and age shouldn't stop anyone from experiencing it.

Answer 4

It really depends on how a big a difference the age is. But if you really love someone then it doesn't matter if there's a 10 year difference.

Answer 5

It all depends on the person's attitude about life and his/her values... and how young at heart he/she is. If i'm 27, I am able to accept maximum 40 for a guy, provided he's not a control freak or male chauvinistic pig or use his so-called worldly experience to put down a girl who has lesser life experiences. I feel that somehow older people tend to be more cynical and they have a little lesser enthusiasm and vibrancy/innocence about life. This is just my personal observation. If I'm too young and excited about almost everything, it could wear a much older guy down. And in the long term, there may be conflicts. It all depends on the chemistry between 2 persons too. Definitely it will work better between a matured but younger girl and a young at heart, but matured older guy. Matured in terms of priorities in life, but young at heart in terms of trying new food, open to opinions, knows how to have fun and appreciate jokes. To me these are important.

Answer 6

Well, my husband is 14 years older than me. It doesn't really matter for US, but I was 27 when we got married. It seems that there's a lot bigger difference between 27 and 13 than 27 and 41, even though either way it's 14 years. So,

1. If both people are of legal age
2. If both people are mature
3. It's nobody's business but your own.

Answer 7

Not in this instance. If you were in your early twenties, and he was in his late thirties/early forties, it would be another story. Both of you are most likely at a similar stage in your life, where you'd like to settle down and be in a committed relationship vs. the naive party days of your twenties. I say go for it! If others have an issue with it, it's their problem. At the end of the day, the question is not whether you are too old/young for each other, but whether or not you love each other and make one another happy.

Answer 8

No it doesn't. If you are in love, age doesn't matter.
But, you should think about the future. When you have baby and when that baby is a teenager, papa is already very old. You are just starting out to enjoy life. That makes for some difficulties.

Other than that, I do not see much of a problem.

Answer 9

Think it depends on how mature a person you are and whoyou are matching yourself up with. My boyfriend is younger than me . On some things he is so much more expereinced and in other things I get so angry because he just does not understand, We get along well.
Age is also experience in life. I have know 22 year old who are as mature as 44 year olds because they are street smart and working in a professional job already. I have known 36 year old women who still live at home and act like 16 year olds.

Answer 10

I believe it's all about maturity. People can be the same age and be on completely different levels of maturity. However, I think the larger the age difference, the more likely the two people will not be on the same level.

When two people aren't on the same level, it will cause conflicts and abuse.

Answer 11

yes it matters.
but it can be handled.
for example, an older person may not want responsibility for children when they are 70 but a 20 year old often wants children.
activities and interests change with age. you don't see 60 yr olds pursuing the same thing as 20 yr olds. it's natural. for example my boyfriend will retire and i have to work for probably 20 more years. so we are out of synch in that way. we can't retire together. it does matter but you can work it out.