I found marijuana packaged for sale in my 17 yr olds bedroom. In our state 17 is a legal being convicted as a

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an adult. Therefore if I should call the Police it will be a felony: for distribution 10 baggies with mj and the amount in the single baggie 1/3 full. should I give him a stern warning or turn him into the police?

Answer 1

I don't think you should turn your 17 year old to the police... but i think you need to to something more than a stern warning. What is that anyway? Something like that needs more of your attention than you seem to be willing to sacrifice.

Answer 2

wow thats a tough love situation your facing and some good suggestions by others.
Knowing what could happen its scary. If it was me I would confront them and if you have someone else in the family or family friend... one that perhaps your child respects if you have one perhaps be with you.

A real pivotal point here in that 17 yr olds life. Confront them and yes a one and only chance. And maybe even have the kid be the one to flush the stuff.
In fact you may want to ask your kid... should I call the cops right now or are we goin to have an agreement that this is never goin to happen again.. and tell them you are going to have them drug tested periodically also.
If you dont feel they are serious about forsaking that stuff then yea call the lawyer and get some advice on it.. hope it doesnt come to havin to call the police.
Good luck on that.

Answer 3

Do you care about your son? IF you do you wouldn't even begin to think of turning him in to the police. ARE YOU INSANE? You will **** up his life turning him in. Understand that I have NEVER done any illegal drugs and I'm 47.

Tell him while you understand that many kids smoke a little weed, you don't approve of it and that it is illegal. Then explain to him that if he is caught with a large supply like this then he will end up doing jail time and that will ruin his chances at a decent life.

Finally, tell him that if you find a supply of drugs again, you will be forced take away his house key and that he will be under "house arrest" until he is of legal age. In other words, he will be let in and out of the house before and after school and he will not be attending any party's or having any non approved friends visiting.

While this is serious, try and not overreact. If this gets him under control great. If not, then you may need to seek drug treatment. I suspect that he may have viewed this as an easy way to make a little selling to friends and be able to smoke a little for free. Approach this entire thing as calmly as possible, and remember you need to love him regardless.

Answer 4

First off I'll mention that I am 17. I smoked pot for 2 years with no trouble, but definetely glad I don't anymore. I'd say, sit your kid down, let him know that he's in deep ****, and make him turn his game around. You have that power/right. Turning him in will put soemthing on his shoulders that will carry on all his life for a lesson he should have learned sooner. It's not too late to teach your kid, before his cell-mate in jail teaches him lessons.

Also, for all you people that think pot should be legalized because it's "harmless and recreational"...your bullshitting yourselves. Not only is it gateway, it can control your driving, your work ethic, your cashflow, and your appearance. It's more harmful than you think, or maybe than you want to accept as reality. Which would be the other aspect of life you probably don't understand. Reality. It's what happens while your stoned out of your mind.

Answer 5

this is a serious offense, if he/she was busted at your home, you could lose the home, the car(distribution of the pot), you contributing to, and conspire to sell and distribute. since it seems that this is the first time you have caught this kid doesn't mean that the kid hasn't done this before, he/she knows how to package and sell it, not a first timer. is the kid a trouble child?
is the kid bring home good grades? does the kid respect you and the others in the family? if you answered NO to any one of these
questions that i asked then it is time to face reality and let this kid
know that there are actions that cause consciences.
the actions that you take are really up to you, do you want to send the kid to jail, which you can, if you don't want to go this route put your foot down and disallow this type of behavior from the house, while the kid watches you flush the stuff down the toilet. just a note: if this person is doing this in you own house, it does,not seem to me that he/she has much respect for you and the one's that live in the house. so for all intents and purposes
the kid only cares about themselves. good luck and god knows, you need it.

Answer 6

Wow that's a hard one. packaged for distribution is pretty major. I work counter Narcotics in the Coast Guard and we deal with Federal and international. I do a program where we show students how body packers move drugs into this country, i don't give an opinion I just show them what we see. I show them how dirty it is and how many families it destroys. Some time young kids only think of themselves and as parents we need to show them the big picture. Turning him in will make this discourse impossible, going to jail at his age will either shake him up or more likely give him access to better dealers, and just result in a teaching experience for him. You may want to consider an intervention, and a tour of the local federal penal system. If this fails, then off to the poky. It's hard but our children we relay have to show them we love them no matter what.

Answer 7

Well if you turn him in to the police then he will probably miss many opportunities over it. I also bet it would cause irreparable damage to your relationship. But if you want all the previously mentioned then go for it. I think it would be better to remind him that is your house and as long as he lives in it your rules are to be followed. I can't believe you just asked this though. Your mind must really be clouded with rage. You should calm down before you confront him.

Answer 8

Bound and hubby here:

First off, since you obviously have knowledge that there are distribution baggies of pot in your home, you are now an accessory to drug dealing. Specifically, an accessory before the fact.

You are as criminally liable for the crimes your son is committing as he is. Is all that you have worked for in your life worth losing because your son wants to do his own thing? In theory, if your home is raided while you are pondering what to do (turn him in or not) you face not only being charged but also losing your home ... is this what you want? If you have more than this one errant child under your roof, and your home is raided and drugs are found, you risk losing your children.

You have to consider not only what your son may have to lose, but what you have to lose. Besides ... if you take most of the free advice here, and flush the drugs, do you really want to put up with drug dealers and distributors wanting you to make good for their disposed of product?

This is really a non-question, no matter how much you love your son. Turn him in!

Answer 9

That's a very tough decision for you, I'm sure. But, how much do you think a "stern" warning from you would do? If he is selling, then he's more than likely using also, and you know that will only lead to more drugs and possibly more severe penalties/consequences than in this case.

I'd suggest you consult with an attorney IMMEDIATELY about this.

GOOD LUCK in your decision and with your son.

Answer 10

This is a really tough situation. I'm not sure what I would do. I think I would talk to an attorney before taking any action. So, maybe let it go tonight, talk to an attorney tomorrow, and take it from there.

Do not let your son know that you are on to anything yet. Be careful, even though this is your son, the people he is working with can be violent.