How do i get my confidence back after a long relationship?

Question

After a 6 year relationship i am now single but dont have the confidence to go out and chat up girls. I see girls that i think like me because they keep eyeing me up and smiling but i cant go and talk to them

Answer 1

They say it's just like riding a horse. You just have to jump right back in there. Of course it's not easy but you have to do it. Just force yourself and it'll get easier each time. Good luck!

Answer 2

First things first. Take time to heal from your relationship and enjoy your own company. If you have excess baggage (as most people will after long term relationships) it is important to identify these before seeking someone else. This gives us the chance to see what mistakes we made and (as well as the other person in the relationship). After this time, and it varies from person to person, you can look for another special someone. But depending on what you are after- a casual fling or a relationship, is depending on how to approach the gilrs. For a rebound fling, clubs are the best way to find a bit of fun, but if it's long term you are after, join a club. If you are into craft (?) join a craft group. There are usually plenty of women (although maybe older than yourself). Maybe not the best example but you see where I'm going.

I think the best thing is to take time out for yourself- if you find it difficult, then maybe others do too. Find something that you enjoy and join a club that way at least you always have conversation starters wth the ladies (i.e. how long you been doing..., know any tips, etc).

Anyway hope that helps and best of luck.

Answer 3

Six years is a long time to be with someone and starting over can be difficult. I am 32 and trying after a 13 year marriage. Give yourself some time to see where you are in life, then let yourself out to have fun. Don't be afraid, just go talk. Talking doesn't hurt and you might find someone interesting, and you have to start somewhere. Eye contact is a good indicator that she is interested. If you catch her looking at you, then go, don't pause or stop because she might think you are not interested and move on.

Answer 4

You get it back by putting yourself back out there. When you see a girl that you are interested in & she is smiling at you please smile back & say hello. Before you know it, there is a conversation & guess what....your confidence will come back. Take a chance.

Answer 5

Dive back in there, son. Nothing is ever going to happen unless you suck it up and start conversing with them.

Answer 6

have a drink or two and get loose. I mean, you're not losing anything if you go and get shot down, and if you get a number, date, e-mail ... you're having a good night.