2006-12-27 12:55:29 · 19 answers · asked by Lil Beauty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The only person that can answer this question is you. Some people prefer to wait because they want to save themselves for thier future husband/wife, and some people wait until they find someone they love and trust completely. That decision is up to you.
2006-12-27 12:59:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex is so personal, and should therefore remain a very personal decision. I am saving myself for marriage for religious reasons, but I'd say I'm pretty unique in the sense that I am not conservative about sex at all. I don't spread cliches about the perks of waiting, and I'm a realist.
I've spent countless hours personally studying human and specifically teenage sexuality. Less than 3% of all people wait until they are married to have sex, and trust me, there's plenty of people having good sex out there and it shows no bounds as to whether the sex is good based on whether it happens before or after a marriage. The trick is communication, which is exponentially more important if you get married without having sex first. Sex cannot be the enemy, you cannot be afraid to touch yourself or your partner, and you have to be open to new ideas. That means a good helping of talking about what you are and are not interested in trying sexually after marriage, including how often you think you'll be interested in having sex.
People who have sex before getting married get to test out first hand whether their partners are sexually compatible, but you can still find out whether you think you're going to be compatible even if you wait by asking those types of questions before tying the knot.
Whenever you decide to lose your virginity, try to remember that it's definitely going to be something you'll remember for YEARS, so it can and should be as pleasant of an experience as possible. As per usual, I'd definitely recommend putting it off a little further if you aren't sure. If you decide to have sex, please don't make excuses to not learn how to protect yourself though. Condoms, birth control, etc...learn about them and pick a method that is best for you BEFORE you have sex.
2006-12-30 01:09:39 · answer #2 · answered by antheia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until you married. You will enjoy it better. If you decide to wait until you get married and find that the sex is bad, then teach and tell each other what turns you on.
2006-12-27 12:59:00 · answer #3 · answered by Shay 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
After you get married all the way!!!!!
Say you have a baby and you just met the guy and then you brake up when he finds out your pregnant or something then your stucck with your baby and no BF!
Its pretty dumb ALWAYS wait till you get married!
2006-12-27 13:24:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your beliefs! If it has been your dream to be a virgin until marriage than you should wait. Because, you will be very disappointed in yourself and sex is suppose to be a happy moment in one's life!
For others, sex is shared with someone they love regardless if they plan to marry each other! And, for some the moment was great and for others, it was not sooo great! It just depends on what each person wants to do!!!
2006-12-27 13:02:00 · answer #5 · answered by September Sweetie 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is always better to get to know the person before you have intercourse because if you have intercourse first then the person will just do it with you, and your relationship will not last very long. So, it is always best to take your time..........and do it when you are married. And your mate will appreciate you better and respect you always.
2006-12-27 13:09:36 · answer #6 · answered by cherries_4_ever33 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u wont have to be worried about being a pregnant person if your married so wait till your married
2006-12-27 13:07:39 · answer #7 · answered by Kristyn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
either way works, waiting till marriage has many benifits and the guy will respect you alot for it but if you dont who knows how long you will have to wait and if it will be good or bad, nothing worse then bad sex. what ever you do do it with some one you care about and not one night stands
2006-12-27 13:00:30 · answer #8 · answered by Hoss 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I guess in a perfect world it would be wonderful to wait... but realistically... what if you married someone and the sex was horrible?? that wouldn't be very fun. So I'm all for the sex before marriage thing.
2006-12-27 12:59:34 · answer #9 · answered by Actually it's Ashley! 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Until you are married. There is a great emotional attachement that happens when you have sex. Some people say there isn't, but there is. It's a very hard thing to get back once you lose that emotional part of yourself
2006-12-27 12:59:04 · answer #10 · answered by asm 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋