he wants me to stay out late with him but i have practice and school and everything and i have to work on weekends so it takes its toll on me and i try to tell him but he wants to hang out... i do like him a lot but it doesn't seem like he realises what he is putting me through. also he doesn't always listen to what i have to say and he asks me for money to get stuff sometimes which doesn't really bug me but hes old enough to get a job. and also we plan to be together when we are older but he promised his dad he would help him out with the bills and everything and i am not going to work just to pay someone elses bills... what should i do??
2006-12-27 12:55:12 · 25 answers · asked by drunken_monkeys101 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi, breaking up is never easy, but it is easier earlier, as opposed to later. Sounds like he's not good for you and you know it and that you just need a little support to break it off with him. Once you use your courage and end this relationship, a better situation will likely open itself to you. As long as you stay looking in one direction, you don't see what's going on elsewhere. This is good practice being assertive. Think/write down how you honesty feel and think and how to best verbalize that you want this to end. Honesty is the best policy...though you don't want to unnecessarily hurt him...the truth is clean. Hope this helps.
2006-12-27 13:05:56 · answer #1 · answered by angieblossom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a nutshell, yes, definately tell him to hit the bricks. I don't know how old you are but your school work and developing "healthy" relationships is more important right now than a guy that is sucking the life out of you. Young men need to understand that they have to respect young women and get to know them at a slower pace than the pace of this era and don't ever get sucked into a relationship that makes you uncomfortable. Be true to yourself, get a good education and be able to stand on your own two feet, not some nit wit hanging on the arm of someone that makes them feel good for all the wrong reasons. The adult life will be there for you when you get there, don't rush things.
2006-12-27 21:06:33 · answer #2 · answered by Chatty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me you already have your answer but it is one your really don't like. You have pointed out very good reasons why the relationship is not working out well. I suspect you are young and there will be many other opportunties for you. Your actually doing him a favour because when you break up he can find someone that fits his styles better. Education and practice is important. Take advantage of this time of you life and learn all that you can. Dating can wait. I know not much fun but you can always set up some fun days with your friends :-)
2006-12-27 21:01:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you should have kciked him to the curb a long time ago. It seems like he wants to able to control you. And now that he can get money from you why get a job. If he's old enough let him get his own money and help his dad not yours. I would just move on and won't even think about him anymore. But it's up to you. SO if you want more advice or want to chat more just IM me.
2006-12-27 21:04:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is right that he is making you compromise the stuff that you want to do or your obligations of school and practice. If you are unable to talk to him openly about what "he is putting you through" then you either need to open up to him or break it off. If he is pressuring you or bugging you, you need to either let it go, tell him or decide to break up with him. I can't say whether you should end it, but you definately need to decide what is more important and whether you can work it out.
2006-12-27 20:59:21 · answer #5 · answered by nonamebrandpirate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could get real philosophical but rather than waste a lot of words I'll make it short...You have the brains and the Willl to lose a little now and have a better future. All he wants is whats right now to hell with the future. Seem though someone wil cover his butt forever. DON'T BE HIS BUTT COVER ER......You have the right idea. You will have a good future..Open the door and when you close it make sure he is on the other side..I'll bet your mom and dad will agree with me.!
2006-12-27 21:06:31 · answer #6 · answered by buzzwaltz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like it is going to be a hard decision, but it sounds like u already know what u want out of life and ur bf doesn't. Its time to move on, u have ur priorities in order and he doesn't. Never let anyone hold u back, and u need to think about this if u decide to continue a relationship with him. U may be risking alot for him when he is risking nothing for u.
2006-12-27 20:59:04 · answer #7 · answered by 2good4hem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say break up with him...
In every relationship you have to have a balance between the positive and negative things...In your case it seems that he's getting the good deals while you get the bad ones!!! Leave him.. you'll be able to find someone who appreciates and understands you!!! Best of luck to you!!!
2006-12-27 20:58:58 · answer #8 · answered by Becca 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up with him asap, he means you no good, Find someone who will treat you better and respect the fact that you have to wake up early and can't stay out late at night.
2006-12-27 21:03:41 · answer #9 · answered by You Lames! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you guys are having problems like this already, then you two should not be together. You both are at different points in your lives and he needs to find some one better suited for him and vice versa.
2006-12-27 20:58:26 · answer #10 · answered by 2007 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋