like me and my bf have been going together for almost 9 months, and we,ve gave each other clues that we love each other, and said it at the end of voice mails,that we leave each other, but I just wanted to know how long you all would think someone should be in a relationship before you say I lOVE YOU!....?
2006-12-27 12:48:45 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It depends on the person you are with and who you are and how you feel... with each person it could be different... it could be a few weeks, months, even a year.... some people think they can fall in love over night... others think it takes time to get to know someone totally... and you have to be able to see how the other person is feeling.... it you say " I love you" too soon.. they could get freaked out and run.. on the other hand... if they are the fall in love at first sight it may be right... listen to you heart... but also keep your brain.. don't let the hype of a new relationship.. the thrill of it.. make you think.. "oh I am in love" you must really look deep inside yourself.. want to be with that person ... miss them when they are not around.. take the good parts of them,,, as well as the bad and the annoying.... step back... and look at the realationship and if you do love them and are comfortable...with saying it.. then say it :P good luck!
2006-12-27 12:54:57 · answer #1 · answered by kAtTs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be comfortable saying I love You to your mates face. Just saying it in a voice mail isn't the same. I would make sure you are truely in love with the person so if or when you break up they can't come back with the " But you said you Loved me" line.
2006-12-27 20:54:40 · answer #2 · answered by angela_hauff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I think that if you really truly love someone then you should tell them. No matter how soon in the relationship it is because sometimes it won't scare them off. Most people think that saying it too soon will be creepy, but you never know unless you say it how they will react. I say if you love him then tell him straight out as soon as the mood strikes you
2006-12-27 20:58:51 · answer #3 · answered by Telkan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like everyone else is saying, there is no set time frame. Say it when you feel it. But make sure you really know where your feelings are coming from. That it's not infatuation or lust, but true love. And know and be OK with the fact that you could say it, and they might not say it in return. Don't say it to them because you need to hear it in return.
2006-12-27 21:05:42 · answer #4 · answered by Q&A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you can look at each other's eyes and feel the love there. make sure that when you say it, it's a statement of fact that's known to both of you but just left unsaid, as opposed to a wish or hope that the love would be returned by your partner.
2006-12-27 21:34:45 · answer #5 · answered by Ranlian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no amount of time that it is proper. It should come natural. It doesn't matter when, where, or how. If you feel the connection, than tell him or her that you love them! Maybe they will say it back or maybe not!
2006-12-27 20:56:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say it as soon as i felt it and slept on it.. i was with my man for 2 months when i told him.. he's never loved anyone before so he didn't tell me when i told him.. but about a week later he told me on his own that he truly did.. and i think it all worked out well.. and i know that he truly does and i know that i soooooo do! good luck and best wishes! hope you two have a very happy new year!
2006-12-27 20:52:55 · answer #7 · answered by ~broken~ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i don't think that you should say it soon but I don't think you should put a time limit on it either. You don't want someone to say it out of lust or guilt and you want it to be genuine. Only you can sense when to soon is to soon and to late it a problem.
2006-12-27 20:51:23 · answer #8 · answered by from_me_to_you 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
o sweetie u have already passed that phase up. 6 months is the main time to start saying I love u. u r moving onto the sleeping in his bed phase.
2006-12-27 20:52:02 · answer #9 · answered by one tuff babe 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
As long as it takes to really get to knnow that person well enough.
2006-12-27 21:05:32 · answer #10 · answered by daydreamer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋