I just wanted some opinions on this matter because a lot of people i know don't like it when a friend of their's dates their ex, why is this a bad thing? just curious
2006-12-27 12:47:29 · 22 answers · asked by J-Lee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know this can bring up some bad feelings but, If your not comfortable with it talk to your friend about it.
2006-12-27 12:49:44 · answer #1 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I see how people have this problem. It is because your friend was pretty much by your side when your ex was dragging you through the mud. Or they agreed with you on how your ex had an attitude, problems, etc.
Then for that friend of yours to just turn around and start dating your ex, it feels like betrayal.
If you have this problem, you really need to bring it up with your friend and talk it out. Also making some ground rules between you and your friend on when it's ok (if it is ok) to date each others ex. Like a time frame and/or certain situations that allows for the relationship.
Hope that helps.
2006-12-27 21:00:50 · answer #2 · answered by littledragoon80 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on why you are ex's with the guy. There could be some awkwardness if you want to hang out together and there is bad blood between you and him. Some people are just jealous, and some just cant believe anyone would want to go out with some jerk who treated them that way. If you have no feelings about it one way or the other, why care what others think?
2006-12-27 20:51:44 · answer #3 · answered by rand a 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just kind of disrespectful, I think so anyway. Especially if the relationship ended badly. If the relationship ended mutually and your friend asked if it was "ok" to date your ex and you are ok with it, I don't see why it should be a problem. It really depends on the people involved and the way they go about it.
2006-12-27 20:51:54 · answer #4 · answered by dmc81076 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the person is truly your friend why would she want to date your ex. I bet you told her business about your sex life and some more you basically letting her in on having him basically. Haven't you ever been told never to bring a boy that you really like around your friends because they will go after him if he looks like something. Damn, right its wrong she should be slapped for real
2006-12-27 20:54:50 · answer #5 · answered by Allegra W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say it was a bad thing if 1. you still had feelings for your ex and your friend knew this. or 2. that your ex was bad news and you don't want your worse enemy dating them much less your friend.
If however, you and your ex are still friends just couldn't make it it would be okay i would think.
2006-12-27 20:50:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you dumped your EX nd your friend gets with them, you would be concerned for your friend, because there's a reason you dumped the EX in the first place. If the EX dumped you, it just jealousy, flat out!
Neurotically Yours,
NightSpawn
2006-12-27 20:50:14 · answer #7 · answered by the_nightspawn 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
IF YOUR comfortable with it and have no mind than thats all that should matter..its not a bad thing just if your still not over her or uncomfortable with it
2006-12-27 20:49:48 · answer #8 · answered by Hope 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well. ur ex.. possibly they assume that they still have feelings or something for them and well if one of them is on the rebound.. both of them need to be on rebound. its all about jealousy. and well. in a way.. his ur former man and ur friend sarah here just scoops him up after you dumped him.. well... its just.. not human like behavior of mutal respect. i;m in the same situation.
i hate the new gf. well not hate.. thats a strong word.. i want to shoot her with a bebe gun.
2006-12-27 20:51:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like I tell all my friends "If you want her, don't bring her back once you figure her out" And if you feel the need to take up a collection for my misfortune of knowing her I'd be glad to accept
2006-12-27 21:04:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋