a 20 year difference in love?

Question

i was jus wondering is it wrong to love soeone just because they are older than you and why? im 15 and in love with a 36 year old and he is in love with me too. its not at all a sex thing hes paralyzed and he cant even feel anything down there hes told me a lot of things that are too embarrassing to tell even your closest friends. all of my friends say its gross ad its wrong and nasty but i really love him a lot and i dont see how age matters

i am planning on waiting until im 18 to get that serious with him anyway and if youre just gonna say its nasty please ive heard enough of that from my friends

i am told i have weird views on things by a lot of people tho so idk. weird views on religion on government on roles of men adn women basically i guess im sort of old fashoned i my views mostly

to angel...

do you honestly think that 15 year old boys would not try to take advantage of me?!?! thats happened enough for me to be sick of it already. theyre only nice to you till you tell them no... then theyre assholes

ive known him 2 years theres been plenty of lost tempers and even in the middle of it i could look hi in the eyes and tell him i love him and every time i think of him i just gotta smile : )

Answer 1

That's just too much a difference when you're only 15. You're a child and he's old enough to be your father. He could get chjarged with statutory rape.

Find someone your own age.

Answer 2

I was originally thinking, of course not. Love can be had even when ages are much different, but then I read your age. At 15, I'm going to have to guess you're not really going to know a whole lot about love....and a 36 year old that is "in love" with a 15 year old, might have some psychological issues. Even if that is not case, and the love is real, he could be facing some serious legal issues being involved with a minor, even without sex.

Answer 3

As far as age is concerned I can understand age differences. In your case however, you being 15 I can tell you that you have no idea what love really is or is not. I know you think you do but really you don't. This guy is paralyzed and you say you love him. Are you not just feeling sorry for him and wanting to help him any way you can? I think you are confusing caring with love and they are not the same. Love is demanding and can be rewarding. Love can be painful and cause a great deal of misery as well as a great deal of happiness. Love is being able to serve someone in the good times as well as the bad times. Love can be trying at times and spontaneous at others. You have not lived and know nothing about the world outside and you don't realize that he will be demanding and have reason to lose his temper at times and get frustrated at other times and that you will be his feet ALL the time. You will be his hands on the wheel and you will have to do practically everything for him. There will be good reports from the doctor and bad ones. There will be financial demands as well. Understand? Even the most able-bodied individual would find such a situation difficult. Please think about what you are feeling and saying before you commit yourself to this kind of life. It is understandable that he is drawn to you because you show him love and he needs that desperately as well as affection and he will desire and want it all costs if he just find someone who will be willing to give it to him.

Answer 4

"mary s" is right: you're just setting him up for trouble with the law. True love--IF that's what it is--will last. So be patient, wait three short years; then, if you are still in love (and that's a big IF, because, at your age tastes and preferrences change often) you'll be free to marry. Use the time to get to know him better, because when you live with, or see, someone regularly you learn something new about them constantly. You may not choose to believe this but--and I don't know what attracts him to you--compatibility is more important than physical attraction. If you want a long-term relationship you two need to get along, not just a few hours a day, but 24 hours/day, which will happen primarily if you're compatible. Looks fade, plus, when you live with someone constantly you eventually stop noticing their looks. Qualities of the heart will last.

Answer 5

Your not old old enough to know what love is about. Where is your parents? Paralyzed is not excuse to be messing with a 15 yr old minor child. If you were my daughter, he would be investigated by the police already. You need to stay away from this guy. Just because he has no feeling in the sexual organ area does not mean he is not fondling you, which is a crime also. Yes, it is wrong , are you nuts, get away from that guy. Your friends are right, it is gross, he is gross too, messing around with a 15 yr old girl. If this is your interpretation of love, then you have a lot to learn.

Answer 6

Normally I would say age doesn't matter but, You only being 15 and him 36 that isn't right and it's not legal.
Wait for 3 more years till you hit the legal age and then see how you feel about him or if he still wants to have anything to do with you.

Answer 7

I think you should watch yourself. If you love him. Stay away untill you are 18. Other wise you can get him in a lot of trouble. Have you told him your age. Because a grown man going after a 15 year old. There is something wrong with him. I can only think of one reason why he is doing it. And it ain't too good. Be careful.

Answer 8

age really does not matter, but you are 15 sweetheart, this can get him in a lot of trouble.... a whole lot!!
if you both loved each other as much as you say you do, you can wait 3 more years to be with eachother, and by then you will really know if it is just lust or if it is really love.
Just hold off a little while, you dont want him to get in trouble, and once your parents find out he really will be in trouble and it will be even longer before you can see eachother...
I hope you make the right decision for both his sake and your sake.

Answer 9

age doesn't matter as long as you are over the age of 18. If you and this older guy really have that kind of feelings for each other than play it cool until you are 18. I also want to commend a young person like you on seeing beyond someone's physical disabilities. good luck

Answer 10

Age doesn't matter when you are an adult and can make those type of decisions. You are a child and do not have the capacity to make that decision. If you still fill that way in five years, go for it. Until then, back off. It's illegal anyway. If you love him, don't send him to prison. Back off and if it's meant to be, you'll find your way back to each other.