I ended up beating up my best friend in front of his wife and kids 2 days ago. What is the best way to say I'm sorry.
2006-12-27 12:31:36 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
ur screwed
2006-12-27 12:32:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
What's an old coot like you getting in a fight for anyway? I just turned 60 on Christmas day, but unlike Jesus I find it very hard to turn the other cheek. About 4 weeks ago I took issue with some things a co-worker said and we nearly came to blows. After I cooled down I realized how absurd it looked to have two very mature men yelling at each other the way we did. The scary thing is that I was so angry I was prepared to take it to a physical level, and that would have been very bad indeed. Now there is a wall between us that cannot be torn down. And we used to take our breaks together and so on. Now we only speak if it is necessary. So, you probably took your problem with your friend too far. Particularly since you beat him up infront of his family. You might send him a letter explaining that you regrett what happened and that you are remorseful, but I doubt you will renew your friendship to the level it was before. Try to learn from this mistake, and move on.
2006-12-27 12:43:27 · answer #2 · answered by Tom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Send a registered, signature required letter to his place of employment (his wife is likely to refuse it or tear it up). In it abjectly apologize, etc., and ask him to meet you for coffee NO LIQUOR, or at some place you both know at a specific time. If he shows, you two can talk it out and see what happens next. If it comes back as refused, or he doesn't show up, you know it's over. You could try again next year.
No matter what happens between the two of you, you owe the wife and kids a pricey apology card ("You may never forgive me, I just want you to know that I'm overwhelmingly sorry for my stupid behavior.") and a delivered flower arrangement for your asinine behavior, and stay out of their lives until they ask you back. If ever. Do not sent anything lasting. They don't want a lasting reminder. It will end up creatively shattered.
2006-12-27 12:48:54 · answer #3 · answered by Casperia 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him... However, you should not be apologizing just to him, but to his family also...If the two of you are as best of friends as you say you are, then I would assume that the fight was because of an extremely serious reason... You need to explain to him that you apologize for your actions... If your friendship is worth continuing through this, you will remain friends, if not you won't...
2006-12-27 12:44:32 · answer #4 · answered by Phoenix 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Attend an anger management class... Give him time... Let him "see" (or hear about) a change in you... Send a mutual friend over with a message that you are sorry and want to make things right... You were wrong. Heal yourself first... Do not stop by in person! Call him on the telephone (he may be afraid of you now...) Your friendship may NEVER be the same (deal with it.)
2006-12-27 12:37:12 · answer #5 · answered by TurnMeOut 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
first apologize to the wife and kids. but that really is unacceptible, dont call like a maniac, call once and say " i am really sorry, it was a stupid fight, i should not have done what i did to you, ecspecially in front of your wife and kids, i hope you can forgive me, your friendship means alot to me buddy" and if he doesnt forgive you just say "okay well i am really sorry and if you cant forgive me i understand, i did a terrible thing"
2006-12-27 13:45:28 · answer #6 · answered by Ciara 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Uh, I don't think "I'm sorry" will cut it. You need to walk away from the situation for a while. Maybe write a letter immediately, and tell your friend to call you when he's ready to talk.
2006-12-27 15:59:45 · answer #7 · answered by Sandy Lou 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was your fault, man up and apologize straight forward to your friend and his family. Just don't believe that he has to accept your apology or continue to be your friend just because you apologized. You may have lost a friend, but you can still do the right thing.
2006-12-27 12:38:41 · answer #8 · answered by David 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call him and apologize. If his wife or kids answer, apologize to them first. Be humble and don't get defensive. No matter what he said to you, there's no way to justify the violence. God, men can be stupid. At any age apparently!
2006-12-27 14:03:43 · answer #9 · answered by LindaLou 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
give him and yourself time to cool off, if it got physical, im assuming it was an ongoing problem or something serious. then just talk it out, while talking be calm and rational and give each other time to talk, and listen and be attentive. if u guys are really best friends things will work out, Good Luck!
2006-12-27 13:05:18 · answer #10 · answered by solaciouscrumb9 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't have done that, especially in front of the kids. Your friendship will probably never be the same. Just talk to him, if he'll even speak to you.
2006-12-27 12:34:08 · answer #11 · answered by barefootmodel 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋