how do i break up with her?

Question

I have a girlfriend but i don't like her anymore.I wanna break up. But i promised her that i wouldn't break her heart and if i break up with her i would be hurting her hurt. If i break up with her she wouldn't talk to me and i still want to be her friend. HELP

Answer 1

Time to grow up dude.
It's a lucky person who can go through life with out causing some hurt.
Which is worse, living a lie and using this girl, or being honest and allowing her the freedom to move on.
Do you want to stay with her so you don't have to feel like a scumbag by ditching her, in other words is it your feelings or hers you are concerned about?
Or are you just hanging on to some easy pus-sy?
The longer you draw this out the worse both of you are going to feel.
And as for Friends 'hell has no fury like a women scorned'. And anyway if you don't like her anymore why do you want to be her Friend?
So it makes you a good guy for dumping her.
Life ain't easy boy

Answer 2

Three important rules for breaking up:

1. Don't put off breaking up when you know you want to, prolonging the situation only makes it worse. Tell him honestly, simply, kindly, but firmly.

2. Don't make a big production.Don't make up an elaborate story. This will help you avoid a big tear jerking scene If you wanna date other people, say so,

3. Be prepared for the girl to feel hurt and rejected even if you've gone together for only a short time, and haven't been too serious, there's still a feeling of rejection when someone says he prefers the company of others to your exclusive company, but if you're honest, and direct, and avoid making a flowery emotional speech when you break the news,the girl will respect you for your frankness, and honestly she'll apeciate the kind of straight foward manner in which you told her your decision unless she's a real jerk or a cry baby you will remain friends.

Answer 3

Hello.....looks like you are a good guy and you don't want to hurt her but think about your heart first. If you are not happy you should move on. You are not only cheating yourself on being happy but her as well. Just set down and tell her that you love her just not in love with her like you use to be. Do it face to face that would be the best. And tell her that IN TIME you would like to stay friends. (but take it from me it's not easy and may not happen that way) I had a Boyfriend that we wanted to be "friends" but it is to hard to move on when that person is still around. I hope this helps. Just be honest with her and she will be okay.

Answer 4

braking up with someone isn't that easy to do esp. when you don;t wanna hurt her.. of course you would because since you had a relationship it means that you had mutual feeling before thats why you get in to thet relationship. If you really wanna break up with her tell her that you need a space to think for yourself or for the both of you. Well i hope that not involve third party because if you're breaking up with her because of some other girl ofcourse that would hurt her. You wanted to be friends even after your relationship.. you could be but thats not easy as 1 2 3 right? esp. when she had the feeling for you still.. but if you wanted to be friends even efter breaking up, dnt get into a relationship right after u break up with her, coz that would be hurting her and you wouldnt be friends if you did.

Answer 5

you should never make a promise you can't keep!! Especially one like that! Ok well if you don't like her there is no sense in being in the relationship you just have to let her down really easy and apologize like crazy to her. You probably wont be friends for a while unless she's really forgiving and can get over things really fast. And just to let you know things are going to be awkward between the two of you. good luck.

Answer 6

You are going to hurt her either way. One way if you don't tell her and keep her thinking everything is ok. Second way is just telling her. Just tell her you promised her you wouldn't break her heart but you can't control how your feelings have changed. Just be honest with her. Honesty is the best policy.

Answer 7

Promising not to break someone's heart is like promising not to die. It was a silly promise to make but you have to be honest with her. Honesty isn't always pretty. You might lose her friendship but do you really deserve it? She will be hurt but she will heal and learn from this experience. She deserves someone who truly loves her.

Answer 8

Please just be open and honest, don't try to be a dog about the sitiution. If your not happy no sense in staying in something that can't be worked out, which by the way have you tried to work it out? Make sure now this is what you want, at any rate after decided for sure.....BE HONEST!!! Word to the wise next relationship, don't promise anything!

Answer 9

You can either do the "jerk's" way, or the "Mr. Goodguy's" way. If you're a jerk, you could just say, "Hey b****, get the f*** outta my life!". The jerk's way is quick, easy, and direct, but it's a very mean thing to do. So if you're a good person, say something like, "Hey honey, I need to talk to you. It's about our relationship blah blah blah, we need to break up because blah blah blah, I'm sorry blah blah blah. It's more complicated to do and requires a right time, a right place, and a right mood. And you also need to have a lovely and polite way of saying it. So, good luck!

Answer 10

If she is not the one for you, then you have to break up with her. The more time you let go by could make it harder on her. I am sure that in time she will do as I have and find someone else to take your place and she will be fine with it then.