my nice is 3 and lives in a very bad home should i be worred when she is touching her self? plese help me
2006-12-27 11:52:44 · 10 answers · asked by mzlynn_111105 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I read just the other day a ltr to a dr in the paper a question about this very thing. The doc said it was normal & not to make a big deal about it but to tell the child that its not something to do outside of the child's home.
But if she is inserting objects then contact Child Protective Services.
2006-12-27 11:58:43 · answer #1 · answered by Judith 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had two sons The older never touched himself, although he was a determined thumbsucker. The younger had his hands in this diapers LOTS to the point of obvious sexual stimulation. They are in their late 20's now and the non-toucher is more promiscuous and sexually irresponsible than the toucher.
This is NOT a guideline of course, just an anecdote that might relieve your concern a bit...
Your niece has probably discovered by accident that touching herself feels good and soothes and comforts her.
So that is not the real problem. The "bad home" is another story. Without knowing more, it is hard to say what you should do. It may be that you should call child protective sevices asap, but it is also likely to hand control from the family to the state. Thank God your niece has you. Best of luck.
2006-12-27 20:04:15 · answer #2 · answered by and_y_knot 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is normal for young children to touch themselves. If she is in a very bad home, though, maybe no one is teaching her that it's not socially acceptable to touch herself around others. As her aunt, maybe you need to take her aside and find a way to explain to her that it's not yucky or bad, but it's something that should be done in private (like picking your nose ;))
Anyway, it's more common than you think, but people are so hush-hush about anything related to "masturbation" that they generally won't talk about it. If the subject is something that you are uncomfortable with, it's understandable. I really can't say for sure that what she is doing is *not* related to her home life, but it's not necessarily so. I know a few little kids who touch themselves who have a great home life (I was one of them!). But like I said, no one likes to talk about it. I guess some kids just happen to stumble across a spot on their body that they realize "feels good," and they do need someone to teach them the social boundaries of when it is and is not ok to play.
Good luck!
2006-12-27 20:03:53 · answer #3 · answered by Kendra 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My cousin was grabbing and touching her privates I told her mother when she came home from work she took her straight to the DR. It was a UTI so she was given Antibiotics so just because she is touching herself doesn't always mean the worse maybe you need to tell another adult she needs to be checked for an UTI or even a yeast infection if she does it constant.
2006-12-27 21:00:54 · answer #4 · answered by twister 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I only have boys so I'm no expert on girls. But, I do know that it is normal for boys to touch themselves at that age.
If she's in a bad home, maybe you should make a report to Children's services? If she is being abused in any way you should let someone know.
Good luck!
2006-12-27 19:55:49 · answer #5 · answered by breakfromthekids 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it hurts "down there". Or itches. If she is an abusive home, I would report them to the authorities for child abuse. But, that would be really hard because its probably your sister..huh.
Maybe you could try talking to her. And asking her why she does that. My sister, when she was that age, well, maybe a couple years older, she would put her legs around the edge of the table and pull on the table. I asked her "Why do you do that?" She said " Well, sometimes, its either itches down there or it hurts. I can't help myself when I feel like that." See...I guess it just depends on what she says. I mean, come on... wouldn't a 3 year old be honest? I guess....
2006-12-27 20:04:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Children touch themselves because it feels good to them. I'm not sure what you're trying to say here, because she lives in a bad home really makes no difference. If you suspect she's being touched by someone else that's different. Make sure you're positive before you report anything. ~~~~.
2006-12-27 20:00:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Every child that age I know of is curious about their body. I don't believe touching herself is an indication of any kind of abuse, but if you are worried you should contact someone. You can do it anonymously, and your mind would be at ease.
2006-12-27 20:09:48 · answer #8 · answered by panthergoddess_92499 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If she lives in a bad house something could be going on. Please pry and try to find out then report it to the authorities. It could also be that she isn't fully potty trained and her urine could be irritating her. Let's pray for the last.
2006-12-27 19:57:20 · answer #9 · answered by Pearl 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i think if it is a form or exploration so to speak then it is normal.....but if it seems more sexual then i would be concerned......
2006-12-27 19:56:25 · answer #10 · answered by askaway 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋