i did nothing but cry for 2 days straight, i still want to cry but i physically can't whats wrong with me? i am very depressed i was also in love with this man, he was my first love we also dated for almost 2 yrs so we have a history together now whereever i go i feel reminded of him, and i feel so numb emotionally some times i feel like im dead. how do i cope?? im so lost.
2006-12-27 11:46:24 · 12 answers · asked by bobbo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can not expect to get over a death just like that. Like you said you had a history with him and you were also in love with this man. I know this is the worst kind of pain but you have to grieve for him because if you don't and try to skip the gtrieving process it will be worse. It is okay to miss him and feel numb...you need to slowly try to do things to keep you busy and know that he did not leave you he was murdered and that is hard to because he is gone but not because he wanted to leave. Someone took him away from you and his loved ones...if you are close with his family and other friends you should see how they are talk to them. TRy to keep his memory alive.
2006-12-27 11:51:50 · answer #1 · answered by Danielle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was searching google for something else when I just happened across this question. I know it might be a little too genuine for an anonymous internet conversation, but really I'm sorry that happened.
My older brother died when I was a teenager, so I do have some idea what terrible feeling you're talking about. Everyone said it would get better, but there was no way I could believe them at the time. How could it get any better I thought?
Really, it just does. And that's probably a good thing. What kind of people would we be if nothing mattered? The only thing you can do for your friend is to honor his memory with your pain, and take advantage of the time YOU have left on this earth. Make the most of what you have been given, because as you can see sometimes life just doesn't seem fair, and ends too quickly.
It will get better. I remember my brother every year around the holidays when he passed away, and if I think about it too much, I still cry, but I don't wake up every day feeling like someone is crushing my heart with an icy steel grip. Just let time take it's course.
2006-12-27 11:56:04 · answer #2 · answered by terro 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off, I'm sorry for your loss. maybe it would help for you to talk to someone...like a family member. i know it always helps me If I talk to my mother. She and I are very close, and it always makes me feel better. You may not feel better right away, because It'll take some time, but at least you can have someone to lean on during this difficult time in your life. I know it hurts to lose someone you love..I lost my father recently (it'll be a year March 18th) so I'm still grieving as well, but having my mom to talk to has helped me tremendously. I'm sorry I couldn't give you better advice, but I hope this helps. even just a little bit. I don't know how you feel about this, but I just want to say that God, is with you and I'll have you in my prayers tonight. God Bless.
2006-12-27 12:12:43 · answer #3 · answered by tweetybird37406 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omG i feel so so so so so srry foo u and the best thing that i thnk u shld do is just slowly start forgetin about it cuze if u start thnkin 2 much you'll start 2 miss him even more i suggest eatin a lot of ice cream and chocolate and more sweets and jst cry ur heart out i bet u r very depressed and i wld be 2 well jst try to continue with your life and dn't let him keep on draggin your life down but dn't forget everytin bout him jst keep him in da bottom of heart and never ever let him slip away
i hope some of tht helps :]
2006-12-27 12:01:56 · answer #4 · answered by lillllly :) 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-19 01:38:47 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he just died why are you expecting to get over it right away? My friend was killed about 20 yrs ago and I still find it hard to think about it. I remember when it was new and raw you just have to accept his loss and move on that is what he would have wanted. You can also go and get counseling.
2006-12-27 11:50:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you're feeling is normal, you just have to learn how to chanel those emothions of loosing somebody you held dear to you in a diffrent way rather then hurting yourself....It's ok to remember him...never forget somebody that special...when you think of him don't feel sad that he is not here, repeat in your head that you were lucky to have him while he was here...People that love you back want you to be happy....Surrond yourself with people that loved him also and even with people that did not know him...Mix things up a little..
2006-12-27 11:56:33 · answer #7 · answered by getembigger_85027 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you have to go through this but it will take a while to go through the grieving process. You might want to find a grief counselor for a while that does help.
2006-12-27 14:10:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do what you think he would want you to do. Myself i would want my girlfriend to morn for a day or so but hey i'm dead. Move on. It's just like when someone asks me if i want to be barried or creamated. What do i care i'm dead.
2006-12-27 11:51:48 · answer #9 · answered by matthiggins86 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hun had the same thing happen to me, trust me it's gonna take along time for this to Pass!
I got Medicines from my Doctor, i'm sure had i not had done that I'de went crazy, good luck it will get better
2006-12-27 11:50:07 · answer #10 · answered by rpoker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋