Two women, and i can't choose, what do i do?

Question

i left my ex of 1yr. because she did not appreciate a good man that i am, i gave her everything, and in return i got crap! after leaving her, she realized what she lost. but my mistake was to get with someone whom i got attached to and care alot about, 2 weeks after i broke up with my ex. after 2months and a half, my ex still wants me back. i want to get back with her cause i love her, she said she changed so much and i have gone out with her to see it myself and she is different, better different. but i got a g/f who loves me sooo much and doesn't want to let go of me and i do not want to hurt her by leaving her. i'm in a twist. what should i do?

Answer 1

u said u Want to get back with your ex, and that you don't want to Hurt your current gf BUT SHE doesn't want to let u go.... so it sounds like what YOU WANT is to see what will happen with your ex...!

do the new girl a favor and let her go.. even tho u hurt her now, u fantasizing or comparing her to the "possibility" of what the ex represents to you would be more hurtful in the long run... u are only staying w/ the new girlfriend because of pity, not because u are truly CHOOSING her.

remember, even if u rekindle w/ ur ex doesn't mean u will end up Marrying her. so see it as tho u are breaking up with your new girlfriend because she is not "the one"... and u are possibly seeing if ur ex, or indeed a New girl, may be "the one". but u have to make that decision.. if u don't see urself marrying the new girlfriend, don't string her along.

Answer 2

I know this sounds bad but "date" them both, sleep with none and maybe you can answer this yourself. You sound like your flopping around like fish out of water. Stop and put yourself back in the water and take the women out one at a time. The ex needs to except that there is another woman, the girl friend goes back to a date and you start all over from square one. No sex, no overnighters, nothing and why? Because your the one confused take the time to find out if both are really what YOU want. If they can't handle the situation then whats their rhyme or reason? Neither will want this but if on here asking you need it.
Beware if one walks that doesn't make the other the winner you still have to start over to figure your own head and heart out if you don't you'll regret ever thinking about this in the first place

Answer 3

I say... you left the ex for a reason...Sometimes it's easy to forget that fact that the relationship was bad enough to make you leave. 2 weeks or even 2 months is not enough time to get over somebody you love. It's great you have a new girlfriend if you're not having the same problem with her that you had with your ex...You have a better change of being happy with her....It's ok to fear the unknown....Also, if your new girl knows about this little problem you're having and she still wants you...Seriously stick with her...Because most girls would say if you don't pick me that exact instant that you had to make up your mind then he does not really want me....There girl of your choice should always be your #1....:) no second thoughts...

Answer 4

Be a man and make up your mind. Go with the one whom you truly want to be with. One is going to get hurt no matter who you choose. Just remember if you get back with your ex you should make sure she has really changed 2 1/2 months is not long enough. However as long as you have feelings for her let the other one go so she can find someone who loves her as much as she loves them.

Answer 5

BEST ADVICE EVER!

Go out with your ex one last time. Don't let her know that though. Go out and have fun, bang her silly one last time. At the end of the night after you've cumm, whisper in her ear....I'm never ever going to get back with a b|tch who didn't know a good thing when she had it. Then just leave. Never call her or pick up a phone call from her EVER! She's done for.

I'm iffy about your current girlfriend. Why do you need a girlfriend right now bro? Are you that insecure that you need to have someone there by you at all times? Wouldn't life be easier if you just stayed single and dated whomever you wanted? Man up! Start dating chicks left and right. Let the current one down easy, she seems nice enough to let her go without all the drama.

You'll be a much happier and HEALTHIER MAN after taking MY advice.

Answer 6

Dude, that sucks. If you still have feelings for the ex, then you should explore them because it's not ever going to go away if you don't. You aren't married, so you better get this out of your system now and make a decision.

Answer 7

Tell both girls that you need space. You need to figure this ur own. My relationship is pretty the same like your situation now. My bf told me he likes my friend a lot, and he still loves me. He told he needs time to reevaluate this relationship deeper. Follow your emotion, which one do you love the most then pick her. You cannot love two person at the same time.

Answer 8

I promise you that the "old" girlfriend only wants you back because you are taken. If she didn't appreciate you when you were together, why would she appreciate you now, or better yet, 6 months down the road? You guys did your thing, it didn't work.. you moved on.. stay there.

Answer 9

A few thoughts:
- people rarely ever really change.
- you don't sound like you like this new girl nearly as much as she likes you.
- you are still in love with your ex; even if she probably hasn't changed, you may need to KNOW that in order to get over her for real.
- until you get over one person, you can never really be with another.
- it's never nice to drag someone else into your previous relationship baggage.

Answer 10

Well, if you love your current GF enough then you will see how it goes and then just wait and see if it will work out. If it doesn't then see if your ex will want you back still.