Im so nervous, I'm trying to find a way to break-up with my boyfriend who I've been with for 9 or 10 months. He's very sweet and is always giving me gifts, but the thing is that he cares about me TOO much. It's very disturbing. And lately my friends have been telling me to leave him. I want to but he's EXTREMLY sensative. I want to move on, but I don't want to see him being torn apart and crying. But its HIS fault why people are teasing me. Can you please help me?
2006-12-27 11:16:28 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
there's no easy way to break up a relationship sorry
2006-12-27 11:18:46 · answer #1 · answered by maya 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to break up w/ him because he cares about you 'too much' and because your friends are teasing you about him caring too much?
Either you think of your bf as an accessory that must change with your friends' taste or your bf lacks serious confidence and must overcompensate his manhood with gifts and sweetness... No matter the reason, the fact is you don't want to be with him.
It's best you break it to him straight. Explain to him why you're breaking up, but expand beyond the fact your friends are teasing you. Say something to the effect that you feel you're at a different stage in your life and your feelings have changed for him over time.
He needs to be a man and handle the truth you don't wanna be with him anymore. It's part of growing up. People go there separate ways. That's life. Hopefully, they get stronger from the experience.
DO NOT just let things pass... and allow time to choose for you. It's the cowardly way to go. Also, it'll make your bf feel more upset because of the time you both wasted in a ruined relationship. You're more likely to cheat in the process and cause further needless drama.
If you really care about him, tell him sooner than later. Time's precious.
2006-12-27 11:30:54 · answer #2 · answered by Ebones 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, think about it for a minute and find out if the reason you want to break up with him is because you don't want to be with him or because they make fun of you. Don't make any decisions until you realize this first. Second of all, if you really don't want to be with him, sit him down and explain to him why it is that you want to end the relationship. Either way it's going to hurt, but it's always best to be honest. And besides this way you can end things on good terms and still be friends.
2006-12-27 11:22:21 · answer #3 · answered by Cris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to really think this through. Breaking up with someone because they are nice and caring and you're friends say you should isn't really a good enough reason and you know it.
You need to be sure cos once you've broken his heart it will never be the same and you could have potentially have mucked up the best thing ever... just a thought...
2006-12-27 11:52:37 · answer #4 · answered by Fay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you leave a guy because he is too nice to you? when you leave him you will discover that guy like him do not come a dime a dozen perhaps the way you think they do.
what do you do with 9 to 10 months? through it out the window because he is TOO nice. GOOD FOR YOU!
tell me you found some other guy or something; tell me that your ship sets sail and you have to go to Alaska.
otherwise, if it is your friends, then you want to wrong a guy who has done you no wrong. you sacrifice your man on the alter of your 'friends'. how original!
you are cramping their style because a man loves you.
WAKE UP! YOU'RE FRIENDS ARE JEALOUS OF YOU.
2006-12-27 18:04:32 · answer #5 · answered by rumuodani 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
firstly when someone loves you they can never care about you too much thats what love is...and secondly do you do everything your friends tell you too do.
If you want too break up with this guy do it for a real reason if you find his behavour disturbing tell him if his extremely sensitive isnt that what all women/girls want or is it something else you are looking for.what made you fall for this guy in the first place and as for it being his fault for people teaseing you let me guess the people teaseing you are your friends...right... it sounds like you care more about your friends than you do your boyfriends feelings so you might aswell ripe his heart out and put it on the table in front of him.breaking up not matter what age or sex you are is never easy.if you dont love someone enough too stay with them then you dont love them it is as simple as that...the things is though listening too you friends isnt alawys a good idea either this decision comes down too you yes your boyfriend will get upset he sounds like that kind of guy but eventually he will get over it and find another girlfriend hopefully one thats not embrassed about him.people fall in and out of love day after day its nothing knew and its one of those life lessons that all of us have too learn one day a boy you might like may dump you on his friends say so that is what friends are for doesnt mean just because they think badly of the boys you choose too go out with that you have too decisions at end of the day come down to you..if you value this boys feelings dont let him hope for a second chance tell him straight out the hard cold facts and maybe he will learn something too from this relationship youve had for the past 9mths.there isnt any other way of doing it because eventually it comes done too the same old thing if you love someone for who and what they are you stay with them if you dont and your looking for something better then you move on.you might break many hearts on the way and your heart may get broken afew times too but it is said that for every person in the world boy girl woman and man is a partner who will love them as much as they love you.this boy may not be the one your looking for and despite what people had said the teasing and all.its your choice just ask yourself do you love this boy or not if you dont then be honest and end things with him that is the only way you can move on.but remember dont always lsten too people around you you have your on mind and feelings look inside yourseldf for the answers your searching for and 9 times out of 10 you will usually find the right one.
2006-12-27 14:41:46 · answer #6 · answered by mitch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go to his house (this is so you can leave at anytime it starts going south) and sit him down and be honest with him. Tell him that he is way to sensitive for you. If you tell him the truth he might not want to listen to it now but from experence he will think about it later. I usto be the same way. The same thing happend to me and that is what she did and now we are best friends. Her telling me what was wrong was the best thing ever because i was able to fix it.
2006-12-27 11:22:14 · answer #7 · answered by matthiggins86 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don'tm break up just because people are teasing you. if you love him, then stay with him.
but if you totally have to get out, then you just gotta do it. face to face. in person chat. try to look him right in the eye when you tell him the bad news.. it will hurt no matter how it is done, but he will at least have some respect and have his dignity if you do it face to face in privacy and if you give him your reasons.. and be honest.. nothing worse than dumping someone and not giving them the feedback. he needs to learn from his mistakes so he can improve himself and do a better job in his next relationship..
2006-12-27 11:22:09 · answer #8 · answered by Jeff 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are going to regret your decision because it is hard to find a good guy most guys now a days are jerks...Can't you think for yourself and whatever makes you happy??? why do you have to break up with someone who treats you good doesn't abuse you and it's thoughtful enough to get you things??? all because of your friends??? If you ask me that is a stupid choice but hey one day you will find out the hard way....we (all women) did!!!
2006-12-27 11:23:01 · answer #9 · answered by NINA 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like your friends have the problem, not your boyfriend, and i wouldnt leave him just because they tell you too, or because people are teasing you, just tell them to f*ck off, that goes for your friends too, tell them its your personal choice/life, not theres. it also sounds like your friends are jealous, and want you to leave your boyfriend, so as one of them can eventually get with him.
whatever you do, don't leave him.
and btw, you can never care about someone TOO much, and you won't realise just how much love there is in your relationship until you do leave him, but by that time, he'll be hurt, and probably tell you to get lost, pretty much in the same way any guy would.
so my advice is don't leave him.
2006-12-27 11:35:17 · answer #10 · answered by Brutal_Yet_Beautiful 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say,
'I'm sorry, i'm not grown up enought o have an adult reletionship, and my friends trease me, because they're jealous, so i think its best that we finishso you can move on and find some one that will treat you, how you deserve to be treated! Oh and when i come crawling back, after i have realised what a terrible mistake i have made and that i should never have given you up! make sure you tell me to **** off!'
There that should get your message across!
2006-12-28 00:30:16 · answer #11 · answered by GeorgieP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋