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see a relationship counselor!

2006-12-27 11:18:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 1 0

Well, there is a method of "fighting" that can actually be healthy.

When you realize it's beginning to become an argument, grab a stick and something to tell time with. One person gets the stick, the otter person gets the time piece.

The person with the stick talks for 3 Min's max. When they are done, they hand the stick to the other person and they hand the time piece over. Now the other person talks for 3 mins max.

Continue this patter a couple of times. If the situation is not resolved. There will need to be compromise. The 3rd time talking is when the compromise comes in. Each person talks for 3 mins discussing how they will change to give a break to the other person.

One other thing. Just thought you might want to read the definition of love.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

2006-12-27 19:24:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

My boyfriend and I went through a stage like that for a couple months. We evaluated the situation and it was because of our work schedules. We live together so it is pretty hard when we fight but we really love eachother... We know we are stonger than anger, and it usually blows over by the next day at the most. Try sitting down and really talking and thinking about what is causing you two to fight. It may be something way out of the ordinary.

2006-12-27 19:19:07 · answer #3 · answered by telenanher420a 3 · 1 0

Sit down and figure out why you are fighting so much. There is a problem deeper than the two of you can clearly see. If you can't talk things out then write each other letters. That way no one can ignore the other, no one is shouting, and no one can interrupt. If you're serious about saving your relationship it's going to take the both of you to do whatever it takes to make it work. Example:

Say you're upset with him. Write him a letter and explain in detail exactly what he did that pissed you off. Don't assume he knows what he did. Sometimes we do things unaware that it bothered someone else. After he has read it he needs to take time to think about it and understand it. Then the two of you can calmly come together and talk about it and work it out. Then instead of fighting you can enjoy each other and respect each other more.
We as women can sometimes be too picky so think about the situation in his point of view. Did he really mean to piss you off or is he just being a guy?

Hope this helps. It works for me.

2006-12-27 19:26:30 · answer #4 · answered by giggleymisses 1 · 1 0

Hey. See, love is a beautiful thing. Anything as beautiful as love is, is worth fighting for when its real. So hold on baby-girl if the love is true. Communication is the key. As long as you know you both are on the same page as far as the future of your relationship is concerned, working toward that common goal should be a breeze. If not, sometimes you have to love enough to let go and grow. Feel me? Choices are sometimes all we have left after everything else has been tried. That's when we have to chose. Chose to live happily ever after, or proceed pursuing a life of the living dead. And remember, prayer changes things. A couple that prays together increases their chances of staying together in my opinion. I hope you guys work things out. Take care!

2006-12-27 19:30:52 · answer #5 · answered by MrAbstruse 2 · 1 0

I think that you should try and pin-point what it is that you seem to fight most about. When those areas come up try and be very careful how you proceed with the rest of the conversation. Try and find the role that you play in the arguing and stop playing that part. Realize that not everything is worth arguing about, sometimes compromising or just letting things go(to an extent)is the best thing to do.(after all, you can always know that your right in your thoughts,he never has to know what you are really thinking!)

2006-12-27 19:23:37 · answer #6 · answered by gilbyquen 1 · 1 0

Sit down and discuss about it. Tell him that it is unhealthy if there is always a fight. If you both really love each other, I'm sure you will work on this problem. Remind yourself not to fight all time. Try to be friendly and loving to each other all time. Good luck! You can do it! All relationships have problem, it depends on how you both gona solve the problem.

2006-12-27 19:27:48 · answer #7 · answered by Crazy in love 2 · 0 0

You to should have some kind of counseling to see what's going on that makes you fight. If that doesn't work just become friends and leave the sex out. Or if you like sex just do that and stop hanging out together just have booty calls. sounds good to me either way your still seeing each other but not so much that you have to fight.

2006-12-27 19:21:47 · answer #8 · answered by Passion Sky 1 · 0 0

Live in seperate places and see each other only 2-3 times a week.

2006-12-27 19:16:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Sounds like you to need to sit down and maybe talk about what is the arguments about. Try to work through the problems and don't give up. Find out what's bothering each other

2006-12-27 19:19:07 · answer #10 · answered by fiestylady 3 · 2 0

Stop saying it will get better, cause its going to hurt alot more when he just breaks up with you. Trust me. Take a break and see whats all out there.

2006-12-27 19:18:46 · answer #11 · answered by jamielee1205 2 · 1 0

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