Ok, there's this guy that I like, and he knows that. I'm still a bit confused about how he feels about me, but he keeps doing things like offering me his coat, asking me this like how my day was, and just directing conversation to me all the time. I'm definately not a shy and quiet person, but it seems like everytime I'm around him it's like I get so nervous and I'm not able to say much. I'm scared that if I keep feeling like this, I'll completely miss any oppertunity for anything to really start in our relationship. Are there any ideas on how to be more confident around him?
Thanks!
2006-12-27 11:14:18 · 10 answers · asked by miss-kawaii 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That is normal. You may not realize it but your acting like this cuz you are afraid to be your outgoing self, afraid that he totally missed that part and is reconcidering whether he likes you. Well let me tell you this. Be yourself, let him see who you really are. Chances are he likes you better as outgoing self.
Here's a tip a friend gave me. Watch an recently made romantic movie and when he offers you his coat, try to remember that warm feeling when the guy gave her his coat. My friend told me that he will be able to sense those feeling in you and he will relax and it will make the tense go away.
Good luck
2006-12-27 11:20:21 · answer #1 · answered by Kat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You won't keep feeling like that, it's normal, even for the most confident person sometimes to get really quiet and shy around someone you really like in that way.
Don't feel initimidated, just enjoy the attraction side of it for now, as you start to eventually get to know him and relax more. I am sure he's aware of your shyness being part of the nervousness of attraction. I wouldn't worry too much.
He likes you, you like him, that's enough for now. No need to figure out how to act and what to say, so long as you're with eachother, the other stuff will come more naturally later on. It's frustrating I know, but if he really likes you enough, he'll be patient, so I hope you'll be patient on yourself as well.
Just let things come naturally over time and don't hate this shyness so much, it's just something you're not used to getting! ;)
2006-12-27 19:23:40 · answer #2 · answered by Gus 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's really something how alot of people think that by being nervous around someone they like, they are going to blow it. If he is a guy who genuinely likes you, it won't matter to him how nervous you are-but in good time, you will calm down as you get to know him better.
One method I can suggest to you to shake those jitters abit is to think about him as just another human, not some hunk from the heavens. Shake that lovespell long enough to wonder what the guy is like in reality. I'm sure if you look close, you can see something that is not so grand about him. This can be hard when you really like someone-but sometimes it can be helpful. You may see things you didn't see before when you were so focused on what a stud he is.
Try it. You have nothing to lose. He doesn't know what you're thinking. If all else fails, don't worry about being nervous. How do you know he isn't nervous inside too?
Good luck!
2006-12-27 19:38:16 · answer #3 · answered by dkuddle 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Does he know that because you told him you like him? Or do you just think that he knows that you like him because of your actions towards him? In otherwords, are you SURE he knows it?
If you are sure he knows it, then why not just ask him how he feels about you? That would be a super confident move. And it's not like you can embarass yourself by letting it slip you like him, that one's out of the bag. And once you get an answer, you'll probably be more at ease and able to deal with being around him, and won't have to worry about missing any opportunity.
If you aren't sure he knows you like him, maybe you should just ask him out? To be more confident, try focusing on other things, and not so much on yourself. It's easy to idealize someone you like and make it seem like you are not nearly as good / cool / whatever next to them. But he pays you attention, and seems to think you are worthwhile talking to - so you should to! Take it for granted that you are good enough, then direct your attention to other things and people around you.
2006-12-27 19:27:15 · answer #4 · answered by starlet_8 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a common interest. You need to stop focusing on yourself so much and direct the focus onto him. Try asking him some questions about himself that dont end with a yes or no answer.
2006-12-27 19:22:15 · answer #5 · answered by renew69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awwwww u have some mad felling s for him. thats a normal since he is being so nice to u.has any other guy treated u like this?? if not just be careful. dont be shy around him be yourself, but if u really want to know how is feeling ask him what is he looking for. becuz sometimes guys do things for girls but it might mean something else. so set it straight with him.
2006-12-27 19:19:12 · answer #6 · answered by superstar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a really really nice guy and to be more confident i think you should jus think positive and jus go with the flow
2006-12-27 19:18:00 · answer #7 · answered by candylicker_2010 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's no way for anyone eles to tell u how to be more comfortable but i think that u should ask him out even if u have to do in a note or sumthing like that
2006-12-27 19:19:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
think of something happy
2006-12-27 19:17:26 · answer #9 · answered by believerchick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just get drunk together..
im sure you guys will be comfortable before long =]
2006-12-27 19:16:44 · answer #10 · answered by jh_sakura 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋