I started dating one of my good guy friends of three years about two months ago. Well he stayed over one night and has not left since! He has his own apartment but has not even been there in two months! I was out in the garage this morning and realized how much stuff he has over at my house.. Its like he is slowly moving in! I want to continue dating him but need to know of a nice way to tell him to go home! Any suggestions???
2006-12-27 11:12:51 · 16 answers · asked by Mel P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yeah, look at him and say "go home".
2006-12-27 11:17:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest. What kind of relationship will you have if you can't be truthful with him? Simply say " I love you but, I am not ready to live together, I don't mind you spending the night on occasion but you need to take some of your stuff home when you go." If this bothers him then you know he is not the one for you since he does not value honesty. However you tell him make sure he knows that you still want to be with him just not in the same house all the time.
2006-12-27 11:22:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him about the dangers of being together to much, it is a membrane controled by the cerebrum (the min part of the brain) it makes you feel that you dont have enough space and soon you guys will be fussing every second tell him you need space for a little while but make sure to tell him not the kind of space that you dont want to see him anymore just tell him that you have things you want to do alone sometimes and you just need the space for a little while
2006-12-27 11:18:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you are not trying to be rude or mean. But being a woman you sometimes need to enjoy just being in your own space alone. You need to be left with your thoughts about everything that's going on in your life. Ask him if it would be okay if you come over his apartment sometimes. Then if he leaves anything when you stay over his house you can bring it to his house
2006-12-27 11:16:46 · answer #4 · answered by fiestylady 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should go to his apartment and stay there till he gets there and nicely say that i need my home to be some place i can go to think and it is very hard to do that with you slowly moving in if that doesnt work invite some girlfriends over and while he is sleeping paint his nails pink and put lipstick on him
2006-12-27 11:16:56 · answer #5 · answered by chris 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him plain and simple. You are not looking for or wanting a live in relationship. Let him know you are feeling pressured and you feel he's moving too fast. You like your space and want to keep it that way. If he can't accept this gracefully, you really haven't lost much.
2006-12-27 11:17:55 · answer #6 · answered by Vida 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you need some space, sometimes. You'd like to have time for your girlfriends and to do the things that you want to do that don't require a boyfriend.
He'll either understand, or he won't.
2006-12-27 11:16:14 · answer #7 · answered by <3 The Pest <3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mention how much the utilities are and that he aught to go water his plants. Then mention it would be nice to have a little space.
2006-12-27 11:18:35 · answer #8 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say:
if you really want this relationship to work we have to be in seperate homes for a little while until i can be adjust by the idea of us living together
2006-12-27 11:16:48 · answer #9 · answered by jemba 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
approach him and ask him what the living situation is.....be honest. ask him if he wants to move in and assumes that you want him to as well? be candid about it, dont let him overturn your home like that without your permission!! stand your ground and if you dont want him there then say something.
2006-12-27 11:21:35 · answer #10 · answered by nonyerbusiness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
better talk to him fast seems like hes already got plans on staying awhile...just say you like him but not ready for a permanent roommate yet
2006-12-27 11:16:56 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋