Is it normal for a teenage girl to feel this way?

Question

I am constantly feeling lonely and desperate to be with someone. I feel like a feeling of security, warmth, and love. I find myself wanting to be held and touched. My mom is always joking around with me saying I need a boyfriend because I'm always hanging on her but at the same time she won't allow me to date. I am a virgin and I'm trying to hold out on having sex but in a way I kind of believe that it's something my body needs. Can anyone explain to me why I feel the way I do?

Answer 1

I've been in the exact same situation before! I didn't have a boyfriend, and I was feeling lonely. I had no one to turn too. But as time went by, I realized I had GOD, and I don't need a guy to make me feel good! Sex is NOT the answer to your problem... so I suggest you keep yourself.

Answer 2

No, your body does not NEED sex. I commend you for holding out on the sex. It really is a shame that so many girls are all too willing to have sex one or two weeks into a relationship when it should really be at LEAST six months, preferably on the day of the wedding (which should come no sooner than two years after meeting in most cases). It's even worse when they go and get pregnant by some guy they shouldn't be getting pregnant by, and then nobody wants to date them. I am 21, and I plan to save myself for marriage. So far, so good . . . . Don't let anyone put you down for being a virgin at any age. It is a very commendable thing, and most girls regret losing their virginity at the time they do.

Anyway, as far as I know, everything you have described is normal. Even men (or in your case, teenage fellows) feel that way. You just have to be patient and strong-willed, that's all. It is normal to want to be touched, held, loved, etc. And I think you probably should get a boyfriend to satisfy those needs. Just don't let him, your friends, or anything else pressure you into having sex outside of marriage. If you have the willpower to do that, you will be a truly great woman. Good night!

Answer 3

Aww Sweety YES ITS COMPLETELY NORMAL! I PROMISE! I felt that way too! And dont take this as good advice but I lost my virginity at 12! Im 18 now and engaged.I always felt like I needed to be with somebody, like I didnt want to be alone. I wanted to confide in somebody...Somebody who knew the REAL ME. Its more then just hormones! lol. You want LOVE not just sex right? I know.Well this is all normal.Im not going to tell you to go get a boyfriend behind your moms back because she does have a point.Do you have a lot of friends? Maybe you should surround yourself with more! Hold off alittle bit...its no fun if you take life too fast! Trust me...when you're 18..you've already done half the stuff you wanted to do! lol :) Do whats best for you.Sex can wait..it'll always be there.I know you're like BUT I WANT IT NOW! lolz Yeah well sometimes other things are more important.LIKE SCHOOL and LIFE ITSELF.Like I said sex will always be there, especially now in 2007 ITS NOT GOING ANYWHERE! :) Then again if you REALLY REALLY REALLY feel the need to have a boyfriend...TRY ONE OUT..WITHOUT SEX! It may not even be all that you expected anyways..wutever you do, do the right thing.Good Luck and Happy New Years Sweety.

Answer 4

It sounds as if your mother wants to keep you close, which is causing you to feel a little confused. She teases you about having a boyfriend, yet she won't allow you to do so. So maybe she really enjoys having you hanging on her, and always wanting her affection. Perhaps she is afraid that if you had a boyfriend, you might not be as close to her.
It is perfectly normal to feel the way you do, and it will probably last for the rest of your life.. but not always. Everyone goes through periods of loneliness, and most people seek the approval of others, particularly of the opposite sex. (or same, for homosexuals). It is an instinct to want to be with another person and feel both romantic and sexual love. Give yourself some time, believe me you are completely normal.
And maybe you should consider having a gentle chat with your mom. I wouldn't directly accuse her of trying to keep you all to herself, I am sure she is just trying to keep her baby girl close and protect you.. but encourage her to think of you as a mature young lady, whom she raised properly to make good decisions, and not to just do something stupid because she can. Maybe that would help.
Good luck!

Answer 5

Oh-sweetie-please know that at your age your body DOES NOT NEED SEX.
I felt the same way at your age and looking back my reasons were emotional, I never felt like a part of anything, my mother wasn't affectionate at all, my father was an a-- I knew I didn't know my real father, I was pretty and boys never seemed to pay attention unless they thought that they could get somewhere with me, and I wasn't comfortable with myself. I was looking everywhere for the love I couldn't get or give myself. Email me and we can talk. I'm a 35 year old mom of a teenaged girl.

Answer 6

it's normal to feel this way. everything is confusing right now but you should really make up your mind if you want sex or you don't. and your body doesn't need it, so don't think that. in my opionion you should save if for someone who you love and are willing to spend the rest of your life with. why give it away to just anyone?

trust me, i'm a virgin and waiting
my boyfriend has had sex with his ex, but only her and he said he wished he never did it, and he's now going to wait till marriage so don't give into any pressure no matter what.

Answer 7

You're a normal girl. Your body is changing and growing, and your hormone levels are rising. You'll experience a lot of different moods and even have some mood swings. Just try to figure out what you feel is important to you and stick with it throughout all of this.

And guys are going through this kind of thing as well, so expect them to behave erratically at times.

Answer 8

yes, it's normal for people of all ages to want to be loved, held, touched, cuddled, kissed..

ask your mother how she expects you to get a bf if she own't let you date? not sure how old you are, but when you do start dating. take things slow. don't rush into anything physical.

and i think it's great you are a virgin. save it until you know you've found the right guy to give it to.. make sure it's a guy you plan on being with forever..

Answer 9

You feel the way you do because you are a teen. You are growing up and in time will be mature enough to have a boyfriend and face all the responsilbities that go with it. I suggest sitting down and having alot of heart to heart talks with your mom, because this is a great time for you to get closer, hopefully she will be willing to listen.

Answer 10

what you are filling is totally normal because of your age. Do not force any situation, if you feel you want to be touched go and play an sport, go to the gym or do some physical activity just experience this stage in your life with patience and listen to your mom because she wants the best for you...