Mother that is overly comfortable?

Question

My mom is constantly walking out of the shower without a towel, she doesn't wear a bra or panties to bed, and she leaves the door open when she uses the bathroom. She knows all this really bothers me but she doesn't do anything to avoid it from happening. What do I do to make this problem stop?

Answer 1

Depends how old she is and how old you are. Maybe threatening to video tape her for AFV for something?

I had a girlfriend a few years back whose father was like that - he lived with us for 2 months and he just walked around in our apartment wearing nothing or wearing his boxers and leaving the bathroom door wide open even while doing an hour- long #2 and she just ignored him completely and I learned two things:

Why she did the same when we were alone together (learned from example I guess that it's okay in her family to walk around nekked, sleep nekked, leave the bathroom door open) and:

Her father got angry and furious with me when _I_ started walking around the apartment nekked, leaving the bathroom door wide open, sitting down to breakfast nekked (like on Malcolm in the Middle, 1st disk of 1st season lol) and I nearly died of embarrassment doing this (pretended I didn't mind) but do you know the next morning the old man was fully dressed when he came to the breakfast table and actually shut the door when he went to the bathroom?
I guess he didn't like seeing what he'd been showing?

Maybe this tactic would work for you. I don't know.

I also like the previous suggestions of inviting friends over. Nothing like some unexpected "peep-show" viewers to make her put something on.

Answer 2

You don't say how old you are but since you are voicing your discomfort in seeing her naked, I will assume that you are in your early to mid teens.
Maybe if you tell your mom that you have something that's really bothering you, and you need to sit down with her and have a serious conversation...she might realize that something is obviously very wrong, and she will appreciate that you want to confide in her and that you respect her honest input.
When you sit with her privately, tell her that you feel modest about the display of the naked body. Explain in serious, calm tones, that it really makes you uncomfortable when she casually allows herself to be viewed in moments that should be private.
Tell her that you love her and that you are happy that she is so comfortable with her body that she doesn't care who sees her and when. But explain to her that not everyone is the way she is, and since she is not living in the house alone, that you would really appreciate it if she would be aware of the way you feel, and maybe modify her behavior just a little bit in consideration for your feelings.
Maybe you can ask her how she came to feel so free about doing things that others would normally do in a much more private manner...she might give you a little insight into why she does the things she does.
Honest communication is a good thing, and it can help to ease some of the tensions of your situation.
Good Luck!

Answer 3

If your mom cares about how you feel on this situation then she should listen and respect your feelings. If she doesn't then she has a problem. Your friends, relatives or whatever should be able to come to your house without you having the fear that your mom will streak thru the house or go to the bathroom exposing the situation. I would talk to her one more time give her my feelings and if that doesn't work go to dad and see if he can get her to comply.

Answer 4

Have a serous talk with her... You tell her assertively, and respectfully that her actions bother you. I do understand where you are coming from, you should feel comfortable in your home... However, your mother is the owner of your home and should be able to live comfortably in the home she pays for... I would say it is always worth expressing your concerns, but if she wishes to live that way in her home, there will have to be some sacrifices, and adaptations made hopefully on both of your sides... Good luck!!!

Answer 5

Uh, I have a friend kind of like that; goes to nude beaches, etc. I still think everybody needs to be treated with a little respect and everyone should realize they need privacy. She might think that it's her house and she'll do what she wants. If you have already told her how you feel, then just leave or close your door if she's around like that. She's not thinking of your feelings, only herself.

Answer 6

You need to sit down and talk about this calmly. Not when she does it but some other time.

Tell her how you feel. She is entitled to be happy with her body but you are entitled not to be made to feel embarrassed in your home.
I dont think she has the right to wear what she wants (or nothing) in bed but should wear a robe to walk around in.

Answer 7

i do the same thing. i was raised with a lot of sisters and it never bothered me. it is hard to get out of the habit. she is about to graduate now. there is probably a good side to that. you can approach her with questions that most teenagers are afraid to ask their straight laced parents. sorry you are uncomfortable. that doesn't mean she doesn't care for you. it has nothing, nothing, to do with feeling sexual. and it is not unusual to many families.

Answer 8

Start doing it yourself, and inviting lots of friends over. But you know-feeling comfortable in your own skin is a good thing.

Answer 9

hmmm, that does seem a bit unusual. have you ever talked to her about it? try to find out why she does this.. i can understand wanting to be naked and feel sexual, but it isn't appropriate for her to walk around in front of her kids like that, at least not now that you are a teen.

Answer 10

talk to her about it. tell her how it really makes you uncomfortable and its setting a bad example for you. its teaching you to be careless. i hope this helps!! good luck!!