Oaky....so I'm a little bitter towards men. I was with this guy I planned to marry. We both had the thought of marriage in the near future.... but the more I realized it...the more I saw how immature he is. As of recent, we are no longer together... and it doesn't seem to bother him. What is the age where men mature and deal with issues instead of putting it under the rug so to speak?
2006-12-27 10:59:14 · 33 answers · asked by Michelle 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Men have been conditioned to walk all over women. So, most never do because their behavior is reinforced by women who put up with it.
2006-12-27 11:03:53 · answer #1 · answered by Peter N 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
We are just different from women.
We only define situations as problems if we have a solution. No solution? It's under the rug. Potential problems? They don't exist.
You may find a guy who thinks like a women, but you won't find many. This is the source of tension between men and women over the years. I wish I could tell you an age at which men start to appreciate the ability of women to see problems they don't see. Or even better, start to talk about them the way women do.
If you find such a guy, great. If you don't, you either have to adjust or you have to do without men.
The best, most likely solution is for the guy to treat the women's perceptions of problems seriously even though he doesn't believe there is anything to worry about and for the women to concede that maybe everything that bothers them isn't all that serious all the time.
2006-12-27 11:16:31 · answer #2 · answered by jackbutler5555 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm . . . it depends on the individual, as usual. I would say that most have finished growing up by age 28. I'm 21, and I've finished growing up. Of course, I am a bit precocious -- when I was 18, some of my teachers said I was like a 40 year old and one said that I knew more than some of the guys he graduated college with. So it all depends. I don't know what issues you're talking about, but you should be aware that some men do not ever deal with their issues. You just have to go by the individual. Good night!
2006-12-27 11:05:27 · answer #3 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-12-27 11:18:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a question that has been asked often for men and women!
Every one tends to feel they are mature! It seems that most judge
others based on how they percieve themselves. And people have a super high view of themselves! And seldom is it a true view of themselves. Age determins the level of maturity and goes hand in hand with knowledge. I have know many 50/60 year olds who conducted them selves as 13/16 tear olds, male and female a like. I have also know some 12 and 13 year olds who conducted themselves as 40/plus year olds male and female a like!
I hope this helps!
2006-12-27 11:17:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the guy...but there are 2 sides to every story. He may be asking the same about you. When you are mature enough to understand that it probably isn't all his fault, and that you may be partially to blame for the problems in the relationship then we can say you are mature. Maybe to him 'putting it under the rug' is moving on and leaving a relationship that wasn't working. Sorry, just playing devil's advocate.
2006-12-27 11:06:04 · answer #6 · answered by mu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the guy. But for most guys it in there late 30's to mid 40's before they grow up. There are some that get it a little earlier but i have found that the guys that have had responsibility taught to them the hard way grow up faster. I can tell by how you talk that this guy didn't love you the right way.
2006-12-27 11:19:07 · answer #7 · answered by Sarcastic Sid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As with women that depends on the guy. I have known some very mature teenagers and some childish grown men. It is not really the age that matters so much as their character.
2006-12-27 11:04:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think men ever grow-up completely, their toys just get more expensive. I think after 30 men become more serious about relationship issues and after 40 it gets even better.
2006-12-27 11:07:41 · answer #9 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men are never grown up enough to deal with issues.....its and individual thing...good luck finding the right one next time.
2006-12-27 11:03:59 · answer #10 · answered by Rowan1964 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋