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when i started talking to this guy, i did not anticipate a relationship. I knew he had ex issues. i just wanted to have fun. We go 2 college together. then he started telling me all these sweet things. it seemed as if he had deep feelings for me.

im usually the one who falls first, and it never works out. so i thought it would be ok to let myself go with him. this time, since he started it.

3months go by we spend all our free time together. maybe 3 months isnt long. mayeb im rushing? i think he should know if he wants to be steady or not.

i bring it up and he says: "i want to be with you. its just if i get with u now it wont be fair to you b/c me and her (the ex) have unresolved issues that i need to figure out and dont want to be thinking about while im with you. when im with you it should be all about you."

so now i wonder what to do. am i wasting my time. should i stick around. do i leave him alone

2006-12-27 10:53:13 · 19 answers · asked by Tian 3 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

19 answers

I humbly suggest giving him some space, while keeping YOUR options open at the same time. :-) I do wonder... if he has all these issues why has he been spending so much time with you as of late? Has the "issues" come up lately? Why is he whispering sweet things in your ear but "backs down" when you bring up where the relationship is going? He can't have his cake and eat it, too. Proceed with caution, take care of yourself, and keep your options open. I'm sure there are plenty of guys available who would love to have the chance to treat you right. Good luck!

2006-12-27 10:58:05 · answer #1 · answered by gabound75 5 · 0 0

My advice is leave him to deal his issues alone. Give him time to decide and solve the unfinished business with his ex. You continue being his friend but don't give him too much rope for you also deserve to know where you stand. Wheteher you're wasting your time or not is just a matter of having to wait to find out. Good luck!

2006-12-27 18:59:41 · answer #2 · answered by shygal 5 · 0 0

I think he is full of it. Dont waste ur time. The truth is, whether u choose to accept it or not, he feels like he wants the ex more than he would ever want you. When him and his ex broke up he was looking for a rebound girl. sorry sweetie but u were his rebound, find someone better and u know u can do better than that moron

2006-12-27 18:59:34 · answer #3 · answered by one tuff babe 3 · 0 0

He still has "feelings" for his ex to the point he cannot ever have a relationship with you . He is holding out for her. You need to move on to a guy that will make you #1 from the very beginning.

2006-12-27 18:59:38 · answer #4 · answered by Daiquiri Dream 6 · 0 0

it might be true. trust anyone and everyone. always think ;positive and remember that this is the best of all possible worlds. if things don't pan out just hop in bed with the next one. a new bus comes along every 15 minutes. just smile but stay detached. enjoy the drinks and laughs and then someday you can understand what a permanent relationship might be.

2006-12-27 18:59:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Drop this CHUMP.
Tell him to take a hike and stop wasting your time with him. How long does this guy need to resolve the problems he had with his EX. This guy is a joke and seems to be wasting everybodies time.

2006-12-27 18:59:16 · answer #6 · answered by Skull F'r 2 · 0 0

I personally would leave him alone now and tell him to resolve his isues with his ex, if he does this for you then great he was worth the wait and maybe in the meantime you'll find another man, Mr. RIght, enjoy life your young!

2006-12-27 18:56:09 · answer #7 · answered by MomofThree 4 · 0 0

Sounds like he is trying to figure out if he wants his EX to remain his ex or be with you. If he's spending so much time with you how does he have time to think about the ex.........

2006-12-27 18:57:23 · answer #8 · answered by Deb 5 · 0 0

that is difficult but on one hand it sounds like he is making an excuse to not get in to a relationship perhaps he isnt ready and if your willing to sit around and wait then go for it bur remember you may be losing out on dating other guys that can offer you a more stable relationship

2006-12-27 18:56:59 · answer #9 · answered by nisey1928 2 · 0 0

If I was you I would leave him alone completely until his issues are resoloved with his ex. And what exactly is the issues with her?

2006-12-27 18:57:51 · answer #10 · answered by fiestylady 3 · 0 0

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