i was taken away from my mum when i was 5 (i'm now 13) because she used to beat me and always get p***ed up, fighting etc... she is a changed woman now and i go down to see her nearly everyday but i want to start sleeping there and my nan and grandad won't let me (i live with my nan and grandad) they are forever getting on at me and its getting me down. they are pushing me away and i want to go and live back with my mum, do i have the right to? how do i tell my grandparents i want to live with her? please help
2006-12-27 10:51:38 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
you need to sit down with your grandparents and tell them the way that you feel. your mom has to also prove to them that she has changed. they are worried that you will get hurt again and they are just trying to look out for you. if you have a case worker you need to let them know that you would like to live with your mom or at least stay the night a few nights out of the week to see if she has changed as much as she says that she has. its hard for your grandparents to let go show them that you love all that they have done for you and you just want to try to see how your mom is .
2006-12-27 10:59:35 · answer #1 · answered by jam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your grandparents probably feel as if they still need to protect you - also, they may know something you don't. Request a family meeting, with your grandparents and mother and explain that you would like to spend one week-end night a week there and eventually working on living with her if it works out. If they are hesitant, suggest that your mother come and spend the night with you at your grandparents sometimes so they can get to see the two of you together more and feel more confident about the situation. If that fails, talk to your school counselor and see what she/he can do to help, maybe they'll call a family meeting, or at least give you some good suggestions.
2006-12-27 10:56:44 · answer #2 · answered by wellbeing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends if you have the right, were the police involved in this? If you grandparents just told your mother that they were taking you to their house, and they've kept you since then haven't filled out any forms, you should be allowed to go live with her. If they were signing some papers, it's up to them to give you up. Just say you want to live with her, but their sayinng no because they don't want you to get hurt again. When your 18, I'm sure you can go live with her. You'd be an adult! Hope I helped!
2006-12-27 11:13:41 · answer #3 · answered by The Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Their might be other reasons why they don't want you living with her yet, if she was abuses towards you. Their just trying to protect you. You should be glad someone has you're back.
You're still very young. Give it sometime. Maybe when you're a little older you could try to ask. Just enjoy the time to get to know you're Mother better, then see from there.
2006-12-27 10:57:47 · answer #4 · answered by ~ Ruchira~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depending on where you are
I know in Minnesota at the age of 13 you can choose where you want to live at. Whether it your mom or grandparents.
Your in a hard situation just make sure you think your decision through.
You are gonna bring hard feelings on both sides no matter what.
but all you can do is explain how you feel and your choice.
And the choice you make is the one you have to live with.
Best of luck to you
2006-12-27 11:02:22 · answer #5 · answered by mcdspurple 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋