13 and pregnant, how do I tell my mom things will be great?

Question

My mom will be mad, but she had me when she was 15 so she should know how it is when you are young and preggie.

She will be a grandma at 28 and it will be great because she will have enough energy for my babies.

How do I tell her I am prego? My baby's daddy said he will marry me and we plan to move into a mobile home near my middle school. His mama will pay for the baby.

Answer 1

I am 49 years old and have one child with my 1st husband, my son is now 26 years old.

I am getting married to a wonderful man who is 57 and hasn't met the right woman to marry and have children with.

We want to have our own biological child, but my family is not supporting our decision.

At Christmas my son and daughter-in-law announced they are expecting their first baby. I am happy for them, but we want a baby too.


Is it too late for me especially now that I am going to be a grandma?


----------------does it sound familiar?? i thought this website was for real questions, and people that really need advice, my question to u is, why are u pretending to be 13 when in other questions u say u are 49...act your age

Answer 2

Oh, sweetie. You are so misguided right now. You have no idea how much your life is going to change and how different your life could have been. The fact that you think it's all going to be ok shows the lack of maturity that you have. You don't have the maturity to be a mother or a wife.

There is no way to tell your mother that is going to change her reaction. All you can do is prepare yourself for the anger, disappointment and sadness that she is going to feel and possibly show. You can also start to show some more maturity than what you have shown so far by allowing her to express these emotions to you without getting defensive and angry at her. You have made a huge mistake. Just because your mother made the same mistake does not make it acceptable. She knows the price you are going to pay and that is why she did not want you to follow in her footsteps.

You have got a lot of growing up to do in a short amount of time if you think you are going to be a good mother. If you don't think you can break this cycle that you and your mother have begun, you should strongly consider adoption. There are plenty of people who would give that child a wonderful home and lots of love. This would also make it possible for you to get an education--a must for breaking this cycle.

Please, please, please don't even THINK about marrying this boy. You are only making the problem worse. Any boy that would have sex with a 13 year old is just not going to make a good father. I would also be willing to bet that he ends up abandoning you and this child.

The best advice that I can give you is to find a trusted teacher, counselor or aunt that might go with you to tell your mother. You both are going to need all the support you can get.

Answer 3

How do you know his Mama will pay for the baby? She is under no obligation to do so. Your Mom has been there she knows it's not about to be great. If anything this cycle is repeating itself. How long before your child is pregnant?

You say it will be great because our Mom will have enough energy for your babies, that in itself shows you think she should be obligated to be taking care of them.

Tell her your pregnant and deal with the consequences of your behavior. Just because your mom was a teen parent doesn't mean she wants the same fate for you nor does it justify your behavior. Part of growing up is taking on the responsibility of your actions even if that means facing the anger of your mother.

Getting married at 13 is just following one bad mistake after another. You aren't possibly ready to be a wife and mother. Not that I'm saying 15 is much better, but even 2 years makes a big differance. How on earth are you going to manage a household when you can't even speak to your Mother about your situation?
Why do you think his parents should have to pay for your baby? You can't honestly expect her to support you.

Answer 4

Baby Girl,
I hate to be the bearer of bad news but most men say things that they don't mean..You are too young to have all that responsibility . True enough you think you are in love and that you will get married and live happily ever after, this is no fairy tale. This is a life you are bringing into this world and regardless of what age your mother was when she had you she might was stable enough and had a support system to help her not saying that she won't do the same for you. So just tell her that you made a mistake and no matter how bad you want to take it back you are about to be a mother at the age of thirteen and you need her to be there for you. She is all you have and that will the best thing in your life.

Answer 5

how old is he cause if u say over atleast 16 then he going to leave u and ur not going to live with eachother so ya he ****** up u life and u should have used a condom and if u did then he needs to learn how to put one on! sorry for being real but ur momma is going to freak and its going to break her heart to know that u are preggie and at the age of 13 and ur mom was 15 so if u thinkl that if 2 years isnt that bad then when that baby is coming out of box and it hurts just think that its ok because ur 13 and that how u and ur "boyfriend" wanted it to be.......and u really think ur going to be able to live in a trailor, remember food cost, electricity cost and water cost, also ur needs and his needs are going to be way more than u can handle with a babe on the way, all i am saying now is good luck cause what is done is done and ur baby deserves a chance, so dont let it grow up to be like u or ur mom! raise it right and if its daddy leaves ur and the baby then do whatever u can do to keep it and dont give ur baby away, its going to need u. be strong and live on.........

Answer 6

You are 13 years old and you are having a baby...do you know what your in for?? a baby is a BIG responsibility...they are not a baby doll, that you dress up in pretty clothes, and put it away when your done. You are TOO YOUNG for such a big responsibility. If I were you, I'd think about giving it up for adoption. I know that sounds harsh, but believe me its no picnic in the park. as for how to tell your mother your pregnant, well theres no easy way of doing it....you'll just have to come right out and say it. This baby will change your life, and will force you to grow up, whether your ready to or not.

Answer 7

It's really not that great. You are damning yourself to a live revolving around the child. You're only 13... why did you even put yourself in the position to be pregnant. You're very nonchalant about this, and that's not good. You followed your mother's bad example... and now, you're going to pay.

A lot of people here are saying adoption, but there are other options, and you should consider them.

You know, this is why children shouldnt have sex... they aren't aware that there are, like, a million kinds of birth control out there.


Babies having babies.

Answer 8

You are breaking your mother's heart. She will not be happy about this. You are still very very very young to be pregnant. Why on earth did you have sex? You are so very young to be having sex. You are making your own problems. You are going to be miserable for a couple of years. I hope you'll get through all of it. Because raising a child is not that easy. You don't have the capacity and the knowledge yet to raise a child. I hope and I will pray very hard that my daughter won't do something like what you did.

Answer 9

First off Sweetie, you can't justify your being pregnant at 13 with your mother being pregnant at 15.

Second, things won't be great because she will not only be raising you she will be HELPING you raise your child at least until you are a legal adult.

Being a parent is not your mom's responsibility it's yours. That's not the way things work. You laid down and got yourself pregnant not your mother.

How selfish of you to determine how her life is going to be. You carry them, deliver them and she has to put her life on hold to raise your children? Is that fair.

You are a very stupid little girl. Your childhood is over.

Answer 10

hi i think you shuold tell your mom that you is pregnant but beford you tell her you shuld start like this : mom i now you had me when you was 15 yeaRS old but before i tell you you got to promiss me that you wont get mad and mom i'm pregnant but i got ever thing plan out my baby daddy got a ever thing plan out so i was hoping you would be okay being a grandma.. Or i might just not have it cuz i want to finish school and be good in life......