20 years married and now i thing i am horrible to get someone agaim, I am not looking for a prince but a mature and gentle man. I am so down...
2006-12-27 10:30:00 · 17 answers · asked by naria21@btinternet.com 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The same way stella got her groove back.
2006-12-27 10:34:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't love you first, don't expect me or anyone else to, period! You only have one you!
Nothing is more unappealing or unattractive then a person, especially a women that has a low self esteem. I don't even like to be around a "whoa is me" type person, because it tends to bring others down.
Stop being down on you and get your azz out there and live. After 20 years the one thing you should have learned from it is what you will not put up with for the next 20 years. I know you have it in you. If you can admit you have a problem, you obviously have what it takes to change it.
Cut the crap and got out there and live your life and put the old one behind you. Don't let TV, Cosmo or those other beauty magazines define what beauty is.
2006-12-27 18:43:21 · answer #2 · answered by BionicNahlege 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
With a seven year relationship gone to waste I had the same problem. The first problem was the thought that he got somebody else and I didn't want nobody else I wanted him.
You have to let the past go. Start gaining friends your age or just people you can really talk too. Go to church more or join groups, become a volunteer so you can stay busy. Start to tell yourself that I love me and pay attention to you and only you when it comes to love because if you don't love yourself no one else will because to them they comes first. Do you hair and try new clothes, put your hair up your not too old. Keep your head up, and always smile a happy face is a welcomed face and politeness with a good attitude brings desire.
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2006-12-27 18:48:47 · answer #3 · answered by gettysdeemer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey there, don't worry I have just gone through the same thing but I picked myself up and dragged my *** to the gym. It's the best thing I have ever done.......it makes me feel great has given me confidence that i didn't have before and as an added bonus my body is the best it has ever been. You never know you may even meet the man of your dreams there too. Hope this has helped.
P.S
I know the idea of the gym is boring but once you get into a routine you love it x
2006-12-28 06:20:46 · answer #4 · answered by December 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First u cant find a great man, start out small, find a guy u know will want u more than u want him, then move ur way up a little at a time, Get a guy that is cute and u like but just cant really enjoy. These guys will want u so bad they make u feel like a princess.
2006-12-27 18:34:19 · answer #5 · answered by one tuff babe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, if you just got out of your marriage you should give yourself some time before you go looking for someone new. Spend some time on yourself. If you have low selfesteem then do things that make you feel good. Go get your hair done, get your nails done. Buy yourself a new outfit, or two or maybe three, shoot go crazy...And when you start to feel like a new woman, you will feel better about yourself. Still concentrate on yourself, learn to enjoy life, go out with friends, spend time with family and sooner than you think you will find some one. Good luck..
2006-12-27 18:35:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Start to love yourself before you attempt to love anyone else. start buying some new clothes and make up to make yourself feel better. start looking at your diet. eat plenty of fresh fruit and veg. good balance diet will make you feel better, honest!! go and get a life for yourself by going out and meeting people and doing things you have always wanted to do. what are your interests? what sort of job are you doing? may be a change in career could be just the thing to boost you self esteem. but first write down a long list of things you like about yourself and look at it daily.
yes some of what i said, you problely heard all before but its so true. LOVE YOURSELF! make friends or get some new ones!!
try something new like a part time course at college. go for long walks in the parks, you can meet people in parks!!
2006-12-27 18:48:19 · answer #7 · answered by b1uecee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How can I improve on the last answer????
Appreciate yourself and others will apprecaite you too! Make an effort to meet other people, you'll meet some who will like you, maybe you will not like all of them but hey, that's life. But going back to the previous poster - if you like yourself and make an effort then you'll be bound to see a change.
best of luck to you x
2006-12-27 18:40:26 · answer #8 · answered by Wessex gal 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You cannot find self-esteem in finding another man. I don't know what your husband did to damage yours, but it really p!$$e$ me off! How dare he take something so precious from you!
Look at yourself the way I see you: an incredible, amazing human being.
You will see on this page lots of love poured out to you. We care!
Remember that.
2006-12-27 18:35:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck, but don't make yourself a easy mark either! I can easily see someone taking advantage of you...just be careful!
2006-12-27 18:33:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋