everyone in the U.S. knows that Denver International airport was closed for about 3-5 days when the blizzard hit. the air traffic took a schreeching halt like always. with that i lost over 700$ in air tickets, AND i couldnt see my mother for xmas... wich when i found out i couldnt leave i tore up and down San Antonio International air port to find an alternate means of getting home to Salt Lake International. my mother was furious that i didnt even "try" to make it home for xmas, even though i was at the airport for 6 hrs just focusing on HER ALONE. when i found i couldnt make it i took an air ticket to little rock to be with my fiancee, and now my mother feels that i intended it to be like this, and i dont know how to talk to her cuz all she says is that im lying to her and i have hurt her more than she ever thought imaginable. what do i do or what can i do? all shes doing is pushing me away. please help.
2006-12-27 10:23:32 · 9 answers · asked by lucas s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
So your mother thinks you're God, does she!?!
As if you could control the weather!
Luckily you were able to spend the holiday with someone you love and who loves you.
Give your Mom some time and space to cool down. Right now it sounds as if she's pulling out all the stops -- trying to guilt-trip you, using emotional blackmail, pushing all those volatile parent-child buttons.
Although NONE of this is your "fault", you might try writing her a (loving) card or a letter reiterating your original intention -- that you were headed to spend Christmas with her -- and the UNAVOIDABLE facts which prevented that. Tell her you're sorry that she was upset and that you never intended to hurt her (you admit no "wrong doing" in saying this). And then, leave it.
She IS pushing you away with this kind of behavior, but you telling her that may only aggravate things between you.
Hope you have a Happy New Year!
2006-12-27 10:38:21 · answer #1 · answered by pat z 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok well im not going to call your mother childish.Second, she's a bit jealous. She wanted to see you for X-mas and she might have felt like you ditched her and didnt even give a second try to go and see her! Thats normal.Its mommy, she loves you! You're her baby! BUT I know you didnt mean for it to come out like that.You figured im stuck here, I cant go see my mother...why wait here any longer? Might as well go see my fiance and atleast be with somebody! RIGHT? Thats ok.You didnt do anything wrong.She's just seeing things in a different way. She's angry right now so you're going to have to give her some time.Only time will tell.Call her occasionally telling her you love her.If you still have some money, GO TAKE A SURPRISE VISIT AND SEE HER! If you dont have money, then send her a realllyyy realllyyy NICE GIFT! She'll love it. But time eases everything so if all else fails, just back off for a while.She's your mother, she's always going to be your mother...it's not like she's going to break up with you! LOL Happy New Year And I hope everything goes good for you.Dont worry, it'll be fine :)
2006-12-27 10:33:11 · answer #2 · answered by ♥ Loving My Babyboy ;) ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you call your mother at all during your 6 hour plight @ the airport? It sounds like you and your mother have had issues prior to this incident. It also seems like, based on past history, she is coming to her own conclusion about what happened that night. If you did, indeed, try to find a way to get to her for 6 hours, then you cannot do anything but what you've already done. You cannot MAKE her believe you. I wish you the best.
2006-12-27 10:32:38 · answer #3 · answered by Terri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
holy cow! you are lucky she lives far away because she sounds like that woman who boiled Mike Douglas's rabbit.
There is NOTHING you can do with irrational people. You cannot change the people around you, but you can change the way you react to them. My mom likes to be down on life, and I always point out silver linings (even ludacris ones, it makes her laugh). My siblings just complain that she whines all the time. You could point out that her accusations cut you to the core, and that you don't think you can heal without an apology. (make it her fault). I recommend saying that in a letter. Do not accept any calls from her until you get a written apology. and whatever you do, don't invite her to the wedding unless you get an apology. If you cave in now, she will rule over you for the rest of your life.
2006-12-27 10:31:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry your Christmas turned out to be such a fiasco. I'm glad you got to spend it with your fiance in Little Rock.
Your mother is being childish and selfish. She's probably going to be a total pain in the butt after you marry too. She's probably always going to try to guilt you into doing what she wants. Now is a good time to start ignoring her guilt trips and start setting her expectations. When you marry, you will be putting your wife and your children first; not her. Good luck.
Also, I hope you discover how to use capital letters in the future. They will make your posts much easier to understand. Capital letters are our friends.
2006-12-27 10:31:00 · answer #5 · answered by krinkn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to grow up and tell mother dear that you're a big boy now. And wait for the fake heart attacks.
2006-12-27 10:32:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do except hope that your mother comes to her senses. It's not like you PLANNED the weather to be the way it was...or did you? LOL
2006-12-27 10:30:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow...that's a tough one....see if you can get the report of cancelled flights and send her the info...keep trying that is all you can do...good luck
2006-12-27 10:28:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her time to get over this then it will be bettr and you can talk.
2006-12-27 10:26:30 · answer #9 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋