I have to give detail here,My older brother remarried she thinks she knows everything. She started out nice to me,then one day tells my mom she saw me at Wal-Marts hanging all over a man(I was then married)and it wasn't true at all, I called her and told her not to be telling my mom crap on me, she called me a slut and that she wasn't lieing!I just hung up on her and told my very churchy mom I was telling the truth, so then a few months later I divorced my hubby due to him threaten me and kids by shooting us while we slept, I get back with my babies daddy and she then tells mom more junk, so I called her again and got into it with her ,I ended up hanging up on her before I got really nasty. Thinking totally I love my bubby so let it go. my mom had heart op. and she told me I wasn't to go see my mom! And one day she called to jump me over my neice getting her phone turned off,I blew up !And I called her everything ! She then called my mommmy! My brother wont look at me, what to do?
2006-12-27 09:59:58 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She probably really likes it that she gets a reaction from you. Ignore her, as hard as that might be. When you allow people to affect you like that, you are giving them power over you. Don't give her that power. Stay calm and be the better person.
2006-12-27 10:09:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOW!! She sounds like my haggy step-mother! Anyways, she has absolutely no right to tell you that you can't go and see your mom after her surgery, and I really hope that you did not listen to her commands. I can't think of anything that you could do to make her stop talking trash on you, because it really doesn't matter what you say she will turn it around to make you look like the bad guy. Maybe you could set up a lunch date with your brother and set the record straight with him. Let him know that you love him but you really don't appreciate the way his wife has been treating you but it shouldn't affect the relationship between the two of you. Then call her up and tell her right in front of your mom (preferably on speaker phone so both sides can be heard, but trick her and don't tell her your mom is there too! Sounds childish I know, but it could work!) how she makes you feel when she is being that way, and then her reaction should tell your mom who is telling the truth and who isn't. Stand your ground though and don't let her rule your life or ruin your day by starting her bull.
2006-12-27 10:16:31 · answer #2 · answered by melody g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from her and do not talk with her. Do not keep the fussing going on your part. If your mother or anyone is told things about you by her and they say something to you just ask and who else has saw this? We know how she is. Then move on to a happy subject. Do not let people like this make you mad. This is what she is trying to do. She wants there to be fussing and fighting in the family. It is her intertainment. It is you being an adult and not antagonizing this that lets you be the bigger person. People will know how she is shortly and not believe anything she says.
2006-12-27 10:10:44 · answer #3 · answered by ronnny 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A sister-in-law you hate and a brother who won't look at you. Sounds like you can write that part of the family out of your life. Tell your mother you think S-I-L's a pathological liar and that your brother believes what she tells him. Then explain to mom you don't want any further contact with them while she's married to him. Don't put any more strain on your mother by arguing through her. Just tell her not to believe what they tell her and not to pass any lies from them on to you. Then do not speak about them again. If your mother does, then just tell her you love her but you've got to run and leave. Your life will be much calmer and your mother won't be put in the middle of this mess.
2006-12-27 10:11:26 · answer #4 · answered by Sam C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Problem is with ignoring her that it's just going to end up hurting you and your family if it cuts you off from your brother - and worse case scenario would be that you'd end up being blamed for it. I'd say be nice to her, grit your teeth and make sure the people who know you and care about you know she's talking rubbish. Some people are wierd, some people love people who are wierd - your brother seems to be one of them. That's just life.
2006-12-27 10:09:53 · answer #5 · answered by Alex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've got faith for you i individually be attentive to the sensation basically shop some distance n if she threatens ur wellbeing tell ur husband tell ur family participants cuz u never no whilst loopy is gona hit the fan plus if so permit her be attentive to as quickly as that u will seek for a restraining order then surely do it greater effective risk-free than sorry. In those loopy circumstances u dont desire to depart the door open ( U be attentive to? ) Be risk-free n sturdy success buddy
2016-10-28 12:13:21 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest that the both of you learn to tolerate each other because SHE is married to your brother. Or you can simply not have anything to do with her OR your brother at all.
2006-12-27 10:14:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your hubby threatened to shoot you and your kids while you slept, but you're worried more about your sister-in-law?!
Dump the hubby. And ignore her. Everyone will firgure her out.
2006-12-27 10:03:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
family meeting at lunch no alcohol , in this case you cant prove that your right or wrong so compromise with her at family lunch only if she do the same and then you start winning you family trust all the best
2006-12-27 10:07:35 · answer #9 · answered by security 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a jerry springer episode to tell you the truth. just cut her out of your life.
2006-12-27 10:02:45 · answer #10 · answered by Tanya 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋