So my boyfriend has 3 girls who are his best friends and they all are about 4 years older than him (their 20) and he calls them his "sisters" but one of them well he told me a while ago one of them asked him out (before me and him were) We've been together for 9 months and i really love him but lately I haven't been able to spend time with him, because he's always hanging out with them, every time I call it seems like at least one of them is with him, it gets me so mad! and my the time he gets home he just calls to say goodnight. I thought I would get used to this by now, but I havent because none of my previous boyfriends have had girls as a best friend and always were with them...so its totally new for me...I've told him that I didn't really like his best friends awhile ago but he told me to give them a chance...I have given them a chance and I dont think I can take it anymore, I honestly dont know what to do?
2006-12-27 09:59:37 · 10 answers · asked by Morgan Love 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If the 4 girls are good looking, then your man is either my hero or a fag who hasn't come out yet.
2006-12-27 10:05:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very possible for a male to have close female friends. They can provide valuable insight into the minds of women: something men can never fully understand without help. That part is well and good: think of them as someone that could help him understand you better -- they are your allies.
But in this case, it sounds like the real problem is that he is not making you a priority in his life. After 9 months he should be wanting to spend time with you. If they were male friends, the problem would be the same: why is he not spending time with you that he should be spending.
The gender of the friends is irrelevant: that he would rather be with other people than you is a sign that he isnt taking your relationship as seriously as you want him to take it. You will either have to accept that he isn't willing to have a serious relationship or move on.
(since you imply he is 16, he is most likely just immature... dont take it personally -- guys are idiots, and we remain idiots most of our lives.)
2006-12-27 10:11:37 · answer #2 · answered by snarlydwarf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be truthful I don't really think that's out of the norm. But of course I'm the only guy out of fifteen students in one of my classes. So I don't think it's totally out of the norm for a guy to have several friends who are girls. However it does beg to question if you ask him to hang out does he sometimes say that he's busy because he's hanging out with his other girlfriends. If that is the case I'd be worried. But again that's if he uses that excuse more than say 3 times a week. If he doesn't then I wouldn't be worried about it. But if you want to know what to do I'd tell him you still aren't comfortable with his other friends and see how he reacts then go from there.
2006-12-27 10:06:20 · answer #3 · answered by Cyborg Farmer 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i don't think he should be hanging out with his friends that are girls and that like (or used to like) him more than he hangs out with you!!! you need to get together with him and have a talk. say something like "i really love you a lot, but sometimes it worries me and makes me uncomfortable when you spend more time with other girls than you spend with me. it's great and all that you are friends with them, but i need my time with you, too. i'm your girlfriend, and they're your girl FRIENDS. i just hope that you're not forgetting about me and getting all caught up with these other girls. i'm just worried that i'll lose you." i hope everything goes well!! cuz i know that if my boy was hanging out with 3 other chicks, i'd beat those f*ck!ng b!+ches with a bat!!
2006-12-27 10:04:30 · answer #4 · answered by scoot 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i does not be to in touch. He probaly likes you and would not options fantastic out with your mutual acquaintances. possibly he bailed because he didnt favor to be the basically guy. i'd carry close out with your girlfriends and then in a while invite him over for dinner, basically both of you
2016-12-01 05:53:06 · answer #5 · answered by jaffar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The idea behind dating is to find someone you like and can be with. There is a problem here so maybe it is time to just be friends with him and find you a new boy friend.
2006-12-27 10:02:47 · answer #6 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well i know how you fill about that, it is normal to be like that but maybe you sould just let him go since this cound of thing is not normal.
You know it is okay to have girl friend but calling them sister is WEIRDOS,LOL
write back if you want more info
2006-12-27 10:03:32 · answer #7 · answered by sabsc13 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like hes gay and just wont admit it...its very unusual for a straight man to have nothing but female friends
2006-12-27 10:03:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he in to this relationship you might want to find another lover that willing to love you and spend time with you.
2006-12-27 10:09:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i do not think so at once 3 gf
2006-12-27 10:04:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋