My boyfriend broke up with me 3 months ago, and im still heartbroken by it because he was my first love. I tried to remain friends with him but, for some reason he has turned into somebody i dont really know..he tells me he doesnt wanna see me, he tells me i wasnt the only one during the realtionship, he tells me he didnt love me as mush as he said he did.. he tells me i was a waste of his time, and wit that..i wasnt his first..he lied and told me he was, but it turns out i wasnt. I feel like i was being played the whole time..i just dont know how to act towards him, dont know if i should call him sometimes, just to ask how he's doing, or should i just just have no kind of communication at all...i love him so much, and i feel like a fool because of it, because he has made it clear, i mean nothing to him anymore..im 15 years old..wat am i suppose to do, because this is gettin the best of me..
2006-12-27 09:50:18 · 12 answers · asked by POOKIE 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Baby Girl, you have a lot of living, loving and learning to do. Sounds like he was a jerk and doesn't care that he hurt you. You should turn your back on him and not contact or communicate with him at all. He used you then and will only do so again if you give him the chance. Rise above it and be better than the likes of him. You don't have to be hateful or mean, no need to stoop to his level, you just have to learn from this and not let it happen to you again. I wish you all the best.
2006-12-27 09:56:46 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were foolish, and now you know it. We all regret things we did as teens, now you know why.
Things to do:
Learn the right lessons from this, not the wrong ones.
Remember the lessons, dont forget them.
If you get a chance to help someone not learn the same lesson the hard way, try, and if they dont listen remember you cant save them by force, and you tried to prevent the heartbreak.
You gave your heart away, and you cant get it back, you will never get it back. You are never going to forget this, and this is never going to stop hurting. The sad fact is that other sad things will come that hurt much more, and the happy fact is that other happy things will come that are good.. and eventually though you still hurt you wont just hurt. Welcome to adulthood.
He wants to be peter pan, and you got to be wendy. Im sorry. Im sorry you gave your heart. Im sorry you got it crushed. I really wish that you hadnt, and didnt have to hurt that way.
Boys selves dont congeal until they are at least 22. If you give your heart to someone younger than that you can expect this situation to repeat itself. If you give it to someone that age or older while you are a teenager, they only want one thing, expect to be used. Wait until you are an adult and can see through the ploys without your heart throwing itself at them. Wait till they are mature enough to not always only be ruled by hormones. Just wait on love until you are really actually ready, prepared, capable, in a healthy place for it.
2006-12-27 17:59:15 · answer #2 · answered by Curly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl stay away from him! You dont need him! And be thankful you broke up because if he lied to you then he mght of continued liyng to you still to this date be thankful tht hes out of your life! Anf no dont call him tht only gives him a chance to belittle you which you dont need. Now if he calls you o you run into him say hi as if nothing and tht will get him wondering dont sweat him and youll see the difference in his behavior!!! But by all means dont call him make yourself a todo list until it becomes custom so tht you dont thk about him it will be hard but life goes on and hes not the only man on earth better things are yet to come youll see. Remember your only 15 yrs old theres alot more to live!! Dont run girl walk through life and enjoy it believe me things get better when you surround yourself w/possitive and good people!! Best of luck!! Hope I helped!!
2006-12-27 17:58:36 · answer #3 · answered by B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good news! You WILL get over it. A similar situation happened to me when I was 16 and I gave up the whole GF/BF thing entirely for a while. It worked out.
You'll be fine. Give it time. LOTS of people in this world.
2006-12-27 17:54:07 · answer #4 · answered by Cameron L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gurl your only 15 how you get so wrapped up saying love big words ,and its time for you to forgive because new years is coming up and you want a clear conscious and forget because hes missing out it happens and will continue for about 5-7 even 10 years so just think about it lots will be coming in and out of your life for years to come people will play games
2006-12-27 18:08:41 · answer #5 · answered by detroit_wildcat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. Love is uncontrollable. He's obviously not the one, but you can still care for the dude. Even if it isn't romantically. If he says he doesn't want to see you again, either you did something wrong, or he's having trouble coping with his love for you.
2006-12-27 17:54:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you should do is never speak to him again. EVER.
Show him that treating you like dirt will squash any hope he ever had of being your friend.
Never speaking to him again will also help you get over it.
I know this sounds simple & it's not what you want, but it is what you must do.
Stop talking to him & move on. Be brave darlin.
2006-12-27 17:54:23 · answer #7 · answered by Miz D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your situation is the same as mine but I found a way to not like him. You just have to find your way. Were still friends.
2006-12-27 17:55:49 · answer #8 · answered by britani 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he did play you. that's all there is too it. he was with you until he found somebody better. Next time just don't give up as much and he'll stay longer.
2006-12-27 17:56:10 · answer #9 · answered by Greg 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You think you love him because you gave up your V to him. This will pass in time and you will find someone to love who will love you back.
2006-12-27 17:55:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋