Does anyone else find this weird for my mom to do?

Question

My mom wanted to get me clothes for Christmas, but she knows and I know we have VERY different tastes. Everytime she has bought me clothes in the past, I have not liked them, and she knows this very very well. So this Christmas she asked me to go shopping with her so I can pick out clothes so she can buy them for me for Christmas. We spent hours picking out the perfect outfits for me. On Christmas when I opened my presents, I recieved NONE of the clothes I picked out. They were all clothes that I didnt even look at, from different stores! And they were DEFINATELY not in my taste. I dont want to complain for getting presents, because I do appreciate them, but does anyone find it weird that we would go through all that trouble picking out clothes not to get any of them? I mean we even spent hours picking out the perfect coat for me (because mine is ripped and my mom is so nice), and she got me a completely different coat! An ugly one too! Isnt that weird? Should I say something?

I went to my mom's last night wearing my old coat. She asked me why I was wearing my old coat, and not the new one she had bought me. I told her that I liked my old coat, because it matched my style. She started SCREAMING at me, something like I wasted her money that she spent on a coat I wasnt wearing. I told her I appreciated the coat she got me, but I didnt want to wear it today. I calmly asked her why she bought me a coat I clearly did not want (I told her I didnt like it when we were trying on coats) instead of the one I wanted. She said "I didnt like how the collar looked". I said that I did, and thats what matters, isnt it? She got mad and said she will never buy me clothes again and stomped away and refused to talk to me. She is a very strange woman, I really dont understand her. I guess its better if she never buys me clothes anymore.

Answer 1

As a Mom (of a daughter too) myself, I hate to "let down the side". But I think your Mom made a huge mistake!
I gather that she never said anything to you while you were shopping about the outfits you selected or that she tried to steer you towards other stuff.
What she did was really unfair, to say the least! What was the point of the shopping trip and asking your opinion and input if she was just going to do her own thing anyway!?!
I definitely think you should say something. Can you calmly put these points to her? You are not complaining or being ungrateful.
I find the whole event totally weird!
Good luck!

Answer 2

Definitely odd!

Can you get the receipts and return the clothes and buy some of the ones you chose? Would your mother agree to that?

Wonder what is behind this odd behaviour? Is your mother on medication? Depressed? Could she have forgotten that you chose clothes? Didn't she buy them when you were in the store at the time of choosing?

Maybe the ones you chose were too expensive and she tried to get similar ones and is a hopeless rememberer

Odd is the word. Very odd.

So sorry. You know your mother better than we do, so to tell you if you should say something would be risky for us to do.

Answer 3

She is a pretty determined (controlling?) person! She pretends to listen to you and then insists upon getting you what SHE wants. Talking to/with her does no good, as she operates "under cover". If I were you, I'd ask her to spend time with you to shop and then take her with you as you return most of her gifts of clothing--particularly the coat and expensive things. Point out specific things you like about the gifts--the color, pattern etc., but that you NEED "XYZ". Keep some of the gifts, of course, but those that you can honesty wear. Maintain a cordial attitude and stop for lunch to talk and enjoy time with her. On the other hand, you could go on and "play the game" and be resentful having to make excuses why you're not wearing her gifts.

Answer 4

♥ maybe she's saving the other clothes 4 ur birthday or something like that. maybe u should ask her. i sure would if i spent hours looking 4 clothes & then didn't recieve n/e of the clothes i picked out. tell her that u adore the fact that she buys u clothes every Christmas, but tell her that u have very different tastes than her. ♥

Answer 5

I think your Mom was using an excuse to be with you. That is weird but it is also sweet to want to spend time with you. I would take the clothes back and exchange them for ones that you picked out but keep a couple that you could possibly handle wearing. That way she doesn't feel bad. Tell her they didn't fit right.

Answer 6

Yeah that's weird ..why would she do that ? un less she tough again she knows what is best for u , even that wasn't like this. I think u should tell her the true and better that she stop buying u clothes , she will understand if u tell her nicely . Some parents still see them children still babies even if its not true anymore ..Give her some time , she will change when she will understand that, and its up to u to show her that.

Answer 7

Be honest with your mother. Why did she go through all the trouble to take you shopping so you could pick out what you liked, then she totally bought you the opposite? Is this a test? Maybe she wants you to confront her (in a good way) to make sure you're not wishy washy- like letting people walk all over you....Hummmm????

Answer 8

Be thankful your mom cared enough about you to shop with you for hours.

Be thankful your mom cared enough about you to buy you new clothes. Many mothers don't do either one.

Apparently your taste in clothes is not appropriate for your age, and your mom loved you enough to get you what you needed rather than what you wanted.

Be thankful and don't say anything to hurt your precious mom's feelings. You won't be sorry!!!

Answer 9

I think when you both went looking at clothes you like she was trying to get an idea of your style.... Then later went out and purchased clothes she thought was your style and failed. I would just tell her cause that sucks!!! ask her for the reciept.

Answer 10

Yes...she needs to understand that what she did was uncalled for. Start by asking if she has the receipts so you can exchange the items she bought for items that are more to your liking...have her go with you to make the exchanges. Don't let her blackmail you with your affections for her. Communicate your disappointment and see if the two if you can agree on a few outfits...