I've been with my lover for over two years now,i lost my virginity to him. I have always loved him and never thought i could be with anyone else. I dated other guys because i knew he could never offer me anything being married and all and the guys i dated never interested me and when i was with them all i could think about was my lover. I couple of months ago i met this guy at work who asked me out,we clicked and i have been with him over two months now. When i was with him i forgot about my lover,and i'm getting feelings. Recently he's been having family problems and shut me out completely and dont bother ringing even though he says he will. I came close to ending it with my lover because i liked this new guy but at the moment i dont know where i stand. Should i wait and see what happens?i'm scared if i dump my lover i might regret it and what if this new guy messes me about again?
2006-12-27 09:32:06 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should dump your married man. Don't you think you deserve the whole package, not just a few hours here and there? Are you not better than that? Time to grow up and experience life. Your married man will only break your heart in the end anyhow. So, if you really like this other guy, break it off with the other and grow a spine. See what happens, maybe try being supportive of whatever family problems he's having.
2006-12-27 09:39:17 · answer #1 · answered by Zenobia420 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is wrong with you? You don't need to be with a married man. What if the shoe was on the other foot? What if you were married in your husband was cheating on you? It wouldn't feel nice, would it? Think of that other women.And this lover of yours is just using you. Did he tell you the same story ever married man using. The list goes something like this 1 there wife is no good in bed or there not happy or there only there for the children or a divorce will be to much, they will lose there money or to much child support and the list goes on. And you thought you would be his saver. You need to get out of this saturation with this married man.And you need to stop finding guys that put you on hold. First you got this married man who call you when he wants company someone to have sex with and talk, And now you found a new guy who put you on hold because he has family problems. Something is wrong here. Your probably a really nice person but your choices you make are not healthy ones. Please go to the book store in read ten stupid things women do to mess up their lives by Dr. Laura C. Schlessinger. you really need to read this book.
2006-12-27 09:48:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump your lover. He is married and you have no business being with him!!!
Don't predicate dumping your lover on whether or not you have a replacement. You sound needy, as if you cannot function without a man in your life. Take some time to focus on what you want and need out of a relationship and don't settle for anything less.
The new guy may or may not come around, but in the meantime, get rid of the lover and get back your self-esteem and integrity. That way you will attract decent men who are available and ready for relationships.
2006-12-27 09:39:41 · answer #3 · answered by schweetums 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's obvious that your married lover is untrustworthy. What happens if his wife finds out? Those things have a way of being brought to light. You need to understand that you have no future with your married lover. He's not going to leave his wife for you...and if he does...do you think he'll be true to you also? Nope. Seems like I'd give this other guy a chance and dump your married lover. If neither of them work out, then find another guy. Best of luck to you.
2006-12-27 09:39:50 · answer #4 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definitely need to get rid of your married lover. He cannot offer you anything because he is married. Maybe your boyfriend just needs time to himself. I would wait and see what happens.
2006-12-27 09:36:39 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First i would Say family problems are big and love is valuable follow your heart it will lead you to your place of domain and desire and if i were you talk to your husband and see if their is something you and him can do to fix it be4 you jump to any hurtful decisions and cheating is wrong it can lead you to hell dont be a dumb ***
2006-12-27 09:36:48 · answer #6 · answered by deelishis101 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let go of the married guy. You don't have to share a man .
2006-12-27 09:37:37 · answer #7 · answered by Miss Marilyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on!
2006-12-27 09:44:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋