I was watching the news with my 5 year old and my ex husband's father in law to be ( not sure if there married or not) was on the news charged with two felony counts of predatory criminal sexual assault of a child and my daughter was like that's her ( ex's new wife or wife to be) daddy's mom
Do I have the right to petition the courts for my ex husband not to bring her anywhere where he will be, my ex says I have no right to or to be upset..
Any helpful suggestions would be wonderful and thanks
2006-12-27 09:30:57 · 12 answers · asked by twistedsingle 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
The Child in this case is 6 years old 1 year older than my daughter
2006-12-27 09:43:13 · update #1
I have the same kind of issue going on right now in my life. You can go to court and get a protective order against him so he can not be within 100 ft of your daughter. If he is anywhere near your daughter he has to be supervised by another adult when interacting if the father chooses to not abide by the courts laws and decisions he can be revoked of his rights also in the fact that he is endangering your child and subjecting her to abuse. You as the mother have the right to place in any legal matters to protect your child. Also explaining to her with a doll about special places that no one is allowed to touch but her at this age is vitally important. Letting her know clearly that is such a thing does occur she should tell a trusted adult right away no matter what is juat as important. An abuser will use scare tactics on small children telling them all sorts of BS to get them not to tell on them. Like I will hurt your mom or dad if you tell or you will be in trouble or loved less and such and such. Let her know clearly that the only person who will be hurt or unloved or in trouble is them and anything they tell you after it happens is a lie and to not be afraid of telling someone who loves you and that it is wrong for someone to hurt you in that way. Hope this helps. Also there are childrens books out there that expalin in simple terms about naughty places and how children should protect themselves and be aware of it when it happens to them. Check with social services or online and see what you can find.
2006-12-28 03:23:14 · answer #1 · answered by amanda b 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, to explain it to your 5 year old, I would just tell her that it's when an adult touches or does anything that makes a child uncomfortable and make sure she knows it's inappropriate for any adult to touch her in certain areas.
As far as petitioning the courts...I would think that if he is convicted, then he won't be allowed near children so hopefully that wouldn't be an issue. Also, could it be that he's being brought on charges of something that may have happened with an older girl, around 16 or 17? Just a thought. Not that it makes it ok, but it might mean had relations with an older girl, her parents found out and are pressing charges?!?!
But I don't know...ask a lawyer or call CPS...better safe than sorry!!
Good luck!
2006-12-27 09:40:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a parent, you have every right to keep your child away from a sexual predator. Obviously your ex believes in this man's innocence (since he feels you have no right to be upset). To make you feel more secure and keep your daughter safe, I'd do what you could to make visitation with YOU there, so you can be assured of your daughter's safety. Obviously your ex is living in a fantasy land, and since he's your ex I'm assuming he probably isn't too interested in making you feel more secure or happy, so just be firm with this, be the royal pain if you have to be, and stick to your guns.
As for telling your daughter, I wouldn't tell her anything about the abuse at this point. If it comes down to her asking you why she can't see this person, say that this person has some things he must take care of before he can see her again. Don't spoil a five year old's innocence with something she can't even really understand.
Good luck.
2006-12-27 11:05:42 · answer #3 · answered by Wonderin' 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You DO have every right to be upset, especially if your child was exposed to this man.
However, I wouldn't know what your legal recourse is. Try contacting your local legal aid office for help from a pro bono (free) lawyer.
If the ex's FIL is convicted, he'll likely have to register as a sex offender and won't be allowed anywhere near kids anyway. I hope your ex isn't so retarded as to put his children in harm's way!
2006-12-27 09:38:14 · answer #4 · answered by luvablelds 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is a very good possiblity that the man will be ordered to stay away from children without other adults present and you do have the right to ask the courts for a restraining order.
2006-12-27 09:39:42 · answer #5 · answered by knittinmama 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have every right that is your child. And don't let the court system bully you by saying it can't be done because yes it can. And for the safety of your child do it now.
File into family court for a modification of visitation.
2006-12-27 15:41:14 · answer #6 · answered by mistyjlr 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to request that your daughter be kept away from a sex predator. Your ex must be insane to want his kid anywhere near the man...
2006-12-27 09:35:32 · answer #7 · answered by JR S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you do have a right and as this person is being charged, he has to stay away from her (any child) as well.
2006-12-27 16:25:21 · answer #8 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You definately have complete rights. If your ex is any type of a father, he wouldn't have your childeren near that person.
2006-12-27 09:37:10 · answer #9 · answered by fuzzyfoot1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, he has to be found guilty of something first. If he is, you would hope your ex would not put a child near him.
2006-12-27 09:35:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋