I have been dating this guy for 9 1/2 months and he left his ex-girlfriend for me. We have had issues with him still talking to her in the past. He swears up and down that he is over her and they are just friends. The bad thing is when he runs into her he never tells me about it and i always find out from someone else. When i confront him about it he tells me the same thing. Shes 2 years younger than me and really ugly. I dont know if i should believe him. What should I think or do???
2006-12-27 09:27:22 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you want the relationship to work you will need to trust him although i understand this can be hard but trust is the key.
It also sounds like you are also insecure and you could become argumentative or jealous in this situation.
My partner is friends with many other girls many of which he has met at work and clubs at first I was a little bit insecure but have since learn that there is nothing more involved. I have met these other women and they all have partners.
Give him a chance, trust him and encourage him to talk about his ex girl friend when they have met. Most of all don't judge him and break off the relationship with him untill you are certain that he is cheating.
2006-12-27 09:42:42 · answer #1 · answered by vampire_crazy2003 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it's hard to let exes go since they were a part of your life for so long. But the truth is, if you keep an ex in your life, there are bound to be "flare ups" since likely the only times you see them you think about the good stuff that was between you and not the bad. Because the bad stuff only happens when you are around eachother all the time and then you bicker and have fights. So, chances are that if your boyfriend still has her around and attempts to say things like she's ugly, thats just a stupid attempt to win your trust. But I wouldnt believe him because if they really were "friends" he wouldnt say such a thing about her, and the other girl knows that you are in the picture and may be trying to win him back anyways. Having exes in the picture is not a good idea period. At least not unless there was a huge gap of time in between the break up and the "friendship". It takes a time to get over someone and you cant do that if they are still around. I would be very wary, but if he always has to convince you that he's not cheating, its probably not a good sign anways, because if it bothered you that much, and he's calling her ugly anways, then he should have no problem ending his "friendship" with her until you can get comfortable. I would cut my losses and try tostart the breakup healing process. Life is too short to date someone who doesnt make you feel good and safe.
2006-12-27 09:37:55 · answer #2 · answered by Stephanie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been through this before, You've been dating him for nine & a half months right? & he left his ex girlfriend for you? Then who's to say he wont leave you for someone else. & then again. If you keep pushing him about the ex girlfriend & being all jealous why is he gonna tell you? & start a fight? that'd be stupid dont you think? You gotta let go of some of the jealousy & deal with it, I mean trust is a big thing, & if you dont trust him. then maybe you shouldnt be with him..
Good luck.
2006-12-27 09:34:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sorta know what you mean. My ex boyfriend was like that too. Breaking up with someone and saying can be friends is like your dog dieing and having your mom say you can keep it.
But sometimes it just works out where they weren't good as a couple and are better as just friends. Maybe he thinks that it's not that important to tell you every time he runs into his ex.
You need to listen to your heart. Not anyone's answers or thoughts. It's all up to you because he's YOUR boyfriend. Good Luck!!
2006-12-27 09:34:22 · answer #4 · answered by trackbrunswick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are overly concerned which is why he does not tell you about running into the ex.
I had a high school gf that was always concerned about me talking with an ex so I never mentioned it; it was better for both of us that way. Forget the ex and move on!
2006-12-27 09:29:56 · answer #5 · answered by ICARRYABIGSTICK 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all...putting down another person for appearances is really mean.
Second of all...if you can't trust your boyfriend you need to leave the relationship. Without any trust at all your doomed.
Third...he smells like a cheater to me.
Obv. talking to him doesn't work. Spying on him just increading the distrust. I think your better off without him.
2006-12-27 09:30:48 · answer #6 · answered by * Kittles * 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is not cheating, you will drive him to it. Try not being to paranoid and he may open up to you about the young and ugly ex. Trust him and he may be a little more comfortable around you. Plus, if you take care of all his manly needs, he won't need anyone else.
2006-12-27 09:34:00 · answer #7 · answered by DWAUNA L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldnt trust him at all because you started your relationship off alllll wrong. He left his ex for you? It isnt that he hated her and couldnt wait to get away from her, he was just waiting til the next best thing came along....and that happened to be you. Trust me, when the next best thing comes along while he is with you, he will turn tail and leave you too. Dont trust him.
2006-12-27 09:33:26 · answer #8 · answered by an88mikewife 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-01 05:52:03 · answer #9 · answered by jaffar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok it doesnt matter about the age or the uglyness of her, he obviously went out with her anyway. and dont hold a grudge against her, she was the one who was dumped. you boyfriend was the ******** who dumped her, for YOU, which actually makes her the most innocent person.
if he left HER for YOU, he may leave YOU for HER again. hard to know. but if he will do it once, he will do it again.
2006-12-27 09:31:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋