I met this guy almost last 2 yrs. He's kinda sweet and evrything but he's one hell of a player.I really liked him so i tried to get along with him. Then i think i freakd him out somehow.So we didnt talk for about 4/6 months.When we started to talk again to each other, more intimately than ever b4, I started to wonder and doubt whatever was that we had because he flirts everywhere. So anyway, around 2nd week of dec(last yr), he found out that he was ill. He told everyone else, but he didnt tell me anything.A friend of ours told me. around earlier this year,I heard that he's kinda like going out with someone else. Since we were 'unofficial', i didnt say anything to him.But whenever we talk, its like nothing else is happening.Fortunately, the girl confronted me and asked me questions.I gave her straight answers. since then, me and that bloody piece of crap (the guy)didnt talk. i was surprised that he sent me an xmas message. we talked and he said he missed me and crap.
what should i do?
2006-12-27 09:18:48 · 13 answers · asked by Emilie Howard 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's not trustworthy......avoid him like the plague. Unless you're into the "friends with benefits" thing......because that what I think your relationship with him will end up as. Best of luck to you.
2006-12-27 09:26:46 · answer #1 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
2 Options...
1--Accept that you are the alternate. If you are OK with this situation and are OK that he's sleeping around with other people too, then there isn't anything wrong with keeping up what you got going. But...if you are looking for something more, then this isn't the best option.
2--Confront this guy about it. Don't wait for him to bring it up. Tell him that you spoke with the "other girl" and that you are not happy that there is someone other than you in his life. He'll either agree and dump the other chick and settle down with you...or he'll tell you that he isn't interested in a monogamous relationship with you and you can reconsider option 1 or walk away.
In the end--it really depends on what you want. Decide what that is and then go for it!
2006-12-27 17:25:14 · answer #2 · answered by Heather 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, it sounds like you are the fall back person or as you say a substitute. I suggest don't waste your time with him, there is a lot of other guys out there that will treat you right. Be nice, but keep your distance from him.
2006-12-27 17:24:39 · answer #3 · answered by Curious 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well- what do you want out of him? are you hurt that he didn'tt ell you that something was wrogn with him?? maybe he didn't think it was necesary to tell you since you guys were only messing around and nothing seroius. Don't get your feelings hurt- seems liek you're no one to him adn it's sad that i'm telling you but- that's what it seems like.
2006-12-27 17:24:13 · answer #4 · answered by Cheesy Stuff 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It kinda seems like he is using you. I say just don't even waste any more time on him.
2006-12-27 17:23:18 · answer #5 · answered by You Don't Know Me! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he doesn't have the same feelings for you that you have for him. Move on.
2006-12-27 17:22:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes get used to it.
2006-12-27 17:20:26 · answer #7 · answered by Chris from West LA 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
move on honey, he will only cause heart-break. sounds like he needs to grow up.
2006-12-27 17:25:28 · answer #8 · answered by spyhopper 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
*Starts singing along to the All American Rejects,...*
"Move Along Move Along like I know you...
uh,.. oh,. wait,. what was the question????"
2006-12-27 17:28:28 · answer #9 · answered by Z 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
loose his number and 4get his name. because Honey he is
2006-12-27 17:25:55 · answer #10 · answered by sahar el2amar 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋