I'm seeing a guy, we're very close. He has two kids to two different women but they're living with their mother's in the states. This guy has never told me he loves me, but he told me the other night that he wants me to have his baby. Which I was shocked to hear, but pleasantly surprised. (Hes not the only man to ask me this). He wants a kid in the next two yrs, but I wanna wait until I finish my studies which will mean he's gonna be 43. I'm curious if he's just using me to have a baby wit him cuz he getting on or if he loves me and really wants ME to be the mother of his kid. PLEASE HELP.......thanks in advance. xx
He told me a while back that if he has another baby, he'll marry that woman, cuz it ain't fair on the child. He pays child maintenance for each of his children and is in constant contact with them, his job in the army means he's stationed over here in the UK so he rarely sees them.
2006-12-27 09:15:48 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wait, stop and take a really DEEP breath here, okay? First, the guy already has TWO other children by TWO different women. Yes, he has contact with his other two children and pays child support, but that means nothing. You didn't mention your age, but you did mention his. 43 years and getting older. Your a UK citizen and he's a US citizen. How is he going to pay for transportation after he's out of the military? Is he going to get you US citizenship or is he going to get UK citizenship? As harsh and even vulgar as this may sound to you(and I apologies if it does offend you), he sounds like a baby factory. I don't know what this condition is called, but it is in the psychological books. I just can't remember which one off the top of my head. Take a good deep breath, get some tea on(I'd recommend winter-mint for this one), and work out how to tell him to find someone else to do his dirty work for him.
2006-12-27 09:28:04 · answer #1 · answered by mangamaniaciam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask for the ring first because with out the ring he may just want to have the baby and that is it. You see he had baby's with the other two women did he marry them? Follow your heart and make the right choice.
2006-12-27 09:29:49 · answer #2 · answered by red1967 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is taking care of two children already at least financially he would not be interested in more children unless he is very wealthy. Let him parent the two he already has. Sounds like he thinks he can spread his seed as much as he wants because there is no consequences for him financially or emotionally. Stick with your plan for an education and let him spread his seed elsewhere.
2006-12-27 09:35:12 · answer #3 · answered by puzzled 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I concur with the first answerer, and look at his track record. You'd be his third women and all with a child. There are red flags in relationships dear, and the fact that he has never said he loved you is a glaring one.
2006-12-27 09:21:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Army guy. They never work out as you can see by his history. Are you dumb and can't see that this is really a bad idea or just naieve?
2006-12-27 09:19:51 · answer #5 · answered by Chris from West LA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless he asks you to marry you, don't bother being the mother of his children. Plain and simple. If he doesn't propose to you, he's just using you.
2006-12-27 09:18:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
he is a player but if u like him then go for it
don't llisen to anyone follow your heart
he might be using and maybe not just follw your heart xxxxxxxxxxx
2006-12-27 09:22:53 · answer #7 · answered by erikaolsen12 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a player and he's telling you what he thinks you want to hear so that he can continue to get in your pants.
2006-12-27 09:19:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋