I met this guy on the Dinsey Cruise. I'm 16 (almost 17) and he's 15 (almost 16). He is the sweetest guy ever!! I think I may be in love with him. I know.... how is that possible. I just have a feeling that won't go away and I just can't stop thinking about him. How do I know if it's really love?
2006-12-27 09:13:12 · 35 answers · asked by trackbrunswick 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's really infatuation. It can grow into love once the infatuation wears off but your brain is overcome by the crush and cannot process real love yet.
It's not about age - it's about time.
2006-12-27 09:15:17 · answer #1 · answered by anirbas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is love anyway?
This is the age-old question. The simple answer to your question from an old fogie like me is; probably not.
You are more likely in a serious case of like.
You must also consider the circumstances. On a ship is a very dreamy situation. Everything is taken care of for you. Wait untill you get this guy home and see how he acts in a more normal situation.
I have found that the time you tell when you are in love is not when things are really easy; but when they are hard. That's when ltrue ove shows through.
Also, at 17 years old (or in the case of the boy, 16) you guys are not fully formed. Your teens and twenties should be spent refining the person you are. Define your likes and dislikes. Be clear on who you are and then practice teaching someone else who you are and what you are about.
Basically, a guy at 16 has only one thing on his mind and it is not love.
And why love? Isn't it for the hope that you meet someone who you can make a life with and have kids with and grow old with?
Can you really see all of that with this guy who you've know for the partial duration of a cruise.
Remember, the eyes are the footsoldiers of the heart. They scout for a suitable genetic match. But you have to use your brain to determine if he is a right-on guy and will treat you right.
You will have to kiss a lot of frogs to find your one Prince.
2006-12-27 09:32:56 · answer #2 · answered by SolarFanatic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can tell you it's not or it is. Love is love. If what you're feeling feels as if it's love. Then for you, it is love. Is it something that will last forever? I don't think so. Mature love is mature love. And it has nothing to do with age since there are people in their 50's who still have no idea what real love is. I've been married since 1968 to the same man. I had 5 children and I have 13 grandkids, and all of them felt what you're feeling right now. Only thing that is different from their (and your) feelings is simply maturity. Sweetie, love isn't lust so no need to go there either. Esp. if this person says if you love me you'll...blah blah blah. Since your reply should be, if you love me, you should go away and never return...or better yet, go on the Disney cruise only this time jump overboard. Ok??? Love will happy my sweet, just wait for a few more years where it has a better chance that it will last a lifetime.
2006-12-27 09:24:34 · answer #3 · answered by AnnG 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Girl just be careful honey. Love comes in life and it goes time to time. It can be love but it can't be true love if he doesn't feel the same. Age is just a number so no worries. When I was in the fifth grade I fell in love two times in a row but they didn't feel the same. So just wait and see. Let him crack the questio0n first. If says he loves you well hope you enjoy. If he says no don't break down. be strong, beautful, happy, free, and just be yourself. Someday prince charming will come. And they day may be today!
2006-12-27 09:32:47 · answer #4 · answered by cow_girl_808 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too Young. Right now your brain is a stew of chemicals designed to get you to spread your legs and breed. Its nature, and no matter how civilized we are, we will never get past that. You are "in love", but the "love" you are feeling is just those chemicals. Later on those chemicals will wash out and you will understand love differently. It happens to everyone. You might think that nobody could ever feel like you do, but that is just narcissism. Sorry; Its llike I just told you there's no Santa Claus, but you did ask.
2006-12-27 09:26:35 · answer #5 · answered by swylie2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At your age it is more like infatuation than love. It may feel like love to you but trust me, it is infatuation. Anyone can be nice and impress a girl or a guy at your age. You like him and I can understand that but love? Trust me, it is not. With love you get to really know someone over a period of time and see them in bad moments as well as good ones. You begin to lvoe them despite everything and want to be near them for the rest of your life. Your heart tells you it is love and of the deepest kind. Now that is love. When you can love someone despite everything then it is real.
2006-12-27 09:18:32 · answer #6 · answered by Lewis P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can get ur permit at age 16. you can go to war when youre 18. you can drink when youre 21. you can retire when youre 50, 60. so how old can you be to fall in love?
you can fall in love at any age, and im the same age as you and i might not know much, but i dont there u can set a limit as to when u kno youre in love with someone. somehow, you just know.
2006-12-27 09:20:40 · answer #7 · answered by Riley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age is just a number, you can fall in love at any age. But from my experiences you would think it's love but it may not be true love. You probably gave a lot of feelings for him but if you feel like you're in love then thats great. It depends on what you feel
2006-12-27 09:17:11 · answer #8 · answered by simplelove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is an amazing feeling that isn't at all restricted by age. Love isn't really a feeling, it's actually a compassion toward another person. You'd do anything for him, right? It could be love. If you guys break up, don't think it wasn't love. It was, but love can be for more than one person, but not at one time.
2006-12-27 09:16:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you are feeling is love at this point in your life. But believe me, it's not the love you feel for someone at age 40. You feel hormonal lust/love. Real love is companionship. You will be "in love" with many guys over the next 10 or 15 years. Keep your head on straight about it. ;-)
2006-12-27 09:16:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋