Woman A is attractive, smart, and very assertive personality. However she can say some mean things to her own kids.....even belittling them. She also is very possessive of me.
Woman B is DROP DEAD gorgeous with a super sweet, but somewhat passive personality. She's smart but not as educated.
I've dated Woman A for 3 years but Woman B just admitted she has a crush on me. I really want to spend more time with Woman B to be sure but Woman A will drop me like a rock if she finds out because she and I have broken up a few times already. She has pretty much told me this is it. I was soooooo close to committing to her but then Woman B has JUST become available to me (we've just kinda flirted for the past two years.
I really like traits about both of them. Wish I could have them both but I feel I have to choose to be fair to Woman A. Could I keep seeing Woman B on the side (but no sex) til I know more? She's aware of Woman A but not vice versa. Any advice?
2006-12-27 09:08:08 · 21 answers · asked by hardbodied_romantic 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Clearly you have chosen woman B. Meanness (in A) is not something that a person can overlook. Be free of her before you pursue B.
Do not see anyone on the side. Tacky.
2006-12-27 09:12:29 · answer #1 · answered by anirbas 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Somone who belittles her children and you doesn't have much respect for herself or those around her. But be very careful leaving one to go to another. It sounds like Woman B is sensing your relationship issue and is waiting in the wings to be your rebound. Make sure if you do leave A, you're leaving it because of her and your relationship, not because of B. You might just end up by yourself. Which may not be such a bad idea.
If you keep up the No Sex thing for a few months after it's over with Woman A......maybe Woman B is for you.
2006-12-27 09:14:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anna Simon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your relationship with woman A seems to be a volatile one simply waiting to self destruct...if she talks to her kids that way, she'll talk to you that way too and then you'll want out even more because of the possibility of a relationship with Woman B...
Woman B, you are just getting to know and she may be a little more assertive once you get to know her...My boyfriend says I am a lady in public and a freak in the bed...so maybe woman B might be more like that...
Bottom line is, you need to be out of the relationship with woman A completely before you actively start pursuing anything with woman B. Best wishes to you.
2006-12-27 09:16:44 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Woman B, is the one I would choose. Woman A, well she has some major issues and flaws #1 the way she talks to her children, she is an abusive person, and I feel sorry for her kids. You have a choice they don't. Do you want to be on the other end of her abusive behaviors. Go with women B and do what I always do in every situation. Pray and ask God for guidance. God bless****
2006-12-27 09:13:35 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to forget about them both. Two timing...not cool. Making sure? That isn't really your motivation for wanting to try out woman B, and you know it. If you have to even ask a question like this, you weren't close to committing to woman a....or this wouldn't be an option. You shouldn't be with anyone right now it seems...at least until you figure out what it is you want.
2006-12-27 09:12:56 · answer #5 · answered by nottashygirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Woman B
2006-12-27 09:12:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really feel this way about woman b then be with her, you said that you have dated woman a for 3 years, im sorry to say this but give someone else a turn.
2006-12-27 09:12:10 · answer #7 · answered by Jus call me "BUBS" 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who do you think about the most?
Which do you think will be better for you in the long run?
Do you think you can live with whatever bad traits girls A and B have?
Whichever girl you choose for these three questions might be your better of choice. Otherwise, because A is so possessive of you and B knows you have a girlfriend already yet she still tells you she likes you, then maybe its better to stay friends with B and introduce A and B together so they can be friends as well (and so A won't think you're cheating on her).
2006-12-27 09:20:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should continue to date woman A but also watch woman B. If woman B is the one you were meant to be with she will wait around for you no matter what her obstacle is. Good Luck with your choice and I hope I was a help.
2006-12-27 09:18:09 · answer #9 · answered by smores 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I'd get very tired of someone being possessive of me. That is simply jealousy (meaning she's insecure). Insecurity also makes people bully others. Sound familiar?
I'd go with B and let A know it's over. But, that's just me.
2006-12-27 09:14:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋