I don't know what to do, What would you do?

Question

Ok i will make it as short as possible.

I am 17 years, i have had derpression and social anxiety disorder for 5 years, and always asking whats the point of life? and i am also a full time carer for my mother.
I am seeing a thearpist, and on medication.


The promblem is the way iam, and how my life is going , is going to ruin it, my realtionship with my boyfriend is not going well becuase i am always confused, and down alot.
i keep getting angry at my mother, i am loosing friends and if i feel if i go on much further like this i am going to loose everything but i just cant help how my mind is.

I have been reading "Journey" its a great book and hopefully looking for there spirtual help, but not sure if it is the best thing is to do.

Now you have some background information, what i am looking for is some practial and understanding help, on how to get better, and spritual help (god/angels).
or if you know of anyone or any place that could help me.
Thanks for your time xxxx

Answer 1

That must be a great responsibility for you looking after your mother at this age, bless you for helping her. Perhaps that's why you suffer with social anxiety as caring for her doesn't allow you to go out as much. Is there a way you can ask doctors to find others to help out so you have some time to yourself? I can understand you are angry at your mother, i also looked after my mother emotionally for a long time & it was really taking away my life but now i balance it & have my own life too, & I moved out which helped. sometimes we have these responsibilities in life but it doesn't have to stop our lives(please forgive me I don't mean to intrude but ignore this advice if it doesn't sound right).

I also like spiritual books, I can recmmmend books by this author (see link) who writes books on angels, I love her books & she writes beautifully. If you're new on angel books, this book is good but go to a book shop (or look in Amazon)& look through her books on whcih one u like. She also has a CD meditaion on healing chakras (the main energy points in body but you can learn about that from the book that comes with it).
also I quite like books by Betty Shine, Louise L Hay (see link), their books are very spiritual & inspiring.

Have you ever tried healing? it's very gentle & non-intrusive, it's done by the laying on of hands (they work on donations only & you can give as much as you can afford or nothing if you don't think it helps)
http://www.nfsh.org.uk/component/option,com_wrapper/Itemid,70/

Also pray to God & angels to help , all you have to do is ask,
just say angels please help me! & they will be there with you. But you need to ask first.Angels don't interfere with our free will so we must tell them what we want.

I hope this helps, & I wish 2007 has wonderful new beginnings!
with luv



PS>Please feel free to email me anytime.

Answer 2

I have a friend that's gone through with what your going through and I also suffer from depression usually when you suffer from depression things always seem to go real bad over time before every thing gets better and when it starts to get better it's not by a whole lot because concrete decisions are almost impossible to make . Hopefully this won't happen to you, there is a new treatment in it's early stages but people who have tried it say it works wonders. It's called trans-cranial magnetic stimulation, the treatment program last a while but the more often you get treated the longer it wards off depression and your social anxiety should wear off also since when you suffer from depression you usually have a few other symptoms. Loosing Friends is some thing you may be should try to get use to because it really is almost impossible to deal with any one in this mind frame. Try calling a crises hot line, if you don't want to call from home then go to a telephone booth. Ask them about drop inns,places to go for people like you. Also what you can try is going to breakfast places to try and meet like minded people and if you make a scene don't worry were all in the same boat eventually you'll meet some one to talk to.

Answer 3

You have a very personal road to walk. It is good that you are looking into spiritual things. I would distrust drugs, even those given by 'doctors' unless there really is something PHYSICAL about your problem. But it doesn't sound like it. Find a good, strong, Bible believing church to lean on. Get involved with helping others, and your own problems will begin to fade away. Pray and ask for direction, then pay attention to the answer. It's not going to come out of a thundercloud, but out of what you read, and the people around you. Listen for God's Voice in these places. God bless.

Answer 4

. . . put the book down and go out and get with real people. English-language classes could be a practical starting point, maybe your local church though you won't find either god or angels (if someone tells you they are, they're probably a pervert). Five years of this disorder - in five years time you'll be 22 - do you really want to look back then and say what the f*ck was I doing when I was 17? . . .

Answer 5

You might find some kind of family therapy more helpful than just counselling for yourself. You seem to have a lot of anger towards your Mum and that needs to be talked about in a safe environment. Could you talk to your GP or a social worker about this. It might help for a professional to explain your side of things to your Mum and help you both to communicate better. You didn't come into the world with these problems; they are most likely caused by your responses to your environment and the relationships that you have. If you can get help with your home situation, your other problems will improve. There's a book called "Pulling Your Own Strings" by Dr. Wayne Dyer that you might find helpful. Also "Self-Help for your Nerves" by Dr. Claire Weekes. You might be able to get them at your library. Keep faith in yourself; your life is challenging and you're doing your best.

Answer 6

I'm so very sorry for the deep rooted pain that you are struggling with. Life can be difficult for everyone and for you it sounds especially difficult. I'm glad you're getting counseling; keep doing that. Besides sending out a hug to you, I'd like to recommend two great books you might want to read. "Don't Panic" by Reid Wilson and "I'm Ok, You're Ok" by Thomas Harris. You might find some good strategies listed in these books for coping with your anxiety and depression. And I'd also recommend that you take extra good care of yourself. Eat healthy foods, take vitamins (especially B and D), and exercise (even if it's just taking a walk for 30 minutes a day). I wish you the very best for a happy and healthy new year.

Answer 7

hunny, I think you already did so well, looking after both your mom and yourself, plus I'm sure you have been through a lot which you have successfully handled well.

I'm reading a book called Purpose Driven Life by Rick Warren, and found it extremely useful. It looks at life from God's perspective which is well suited in our case as we seem to have run out of options in life.

Will you be able to go to your local church? going to chuch enables me to meet people who have a different angle and I always walk out in peace.

Please do not give up, sweetie. You are more loved than you realised. You have done your best and now it's time to leave it to God who will look after the rest.

May God bless you and take care.

Answer 8

Get in touch with social services to get some respite, which will be some one comes into your home or your mum goes some where maybe once a week or some thing and she will be cared for while you have a break. during this break do something you enjoy, go shopping, hill wiv bf, or get pampered or some thing, maybe use this time to go to a support group where you will meet others in your situation and you can help each other by talking about what helps you and them. hope every thing goes well. gud luck. luv Beck.x x x

Answer 9

I think carrying on with your therapy will help. You could look around at local Youth Groups that are run by your local church - that way you will meet other young people and if you are interested in spirituality you can have a chat with the Youth Group Leader.

Do you get any help with caring for your mother, e.g. are there any other family members or neighbours who can help out? It is a big burden for you to carry at your age. I really hope and pray things work out for you.

Answer 10

practical help and understanding should come from your therapist. If it isn't, find another therapist. As for spiritual growth, that happens one day at a time often despite what we do to prevent it. Being a primary caregiver of an older parent is a very difficult thing to do, and with your clinical depression possibly more than you should ask of yourself. You might want to consider placement in a nursing home, or an adult family home for her. You are not responsible or required to care for her if it is detrimental to your own health. Depression often results in circular thinking, making it almost impossible to see a clear road out of your issues, this again is where a therapist can help, but you have to be willing to listen to what one tells you, and you have to be willing to do what you must for your own benefit.