Ok I don't know what I'm doing wrong here but everytime I try to make friends with a guy or talk to them, they always seem to come on to me eventually. All I want to do is just be friends and hang out with them sometimes without out it leading into something.
I don't know if i'm just flirting with them or what but I mean I can make them laugh, talk to them like a person, etc...
I don't know if there is something wrong with me or there is just honey guys all over the place.
It's not my intention to come on to them but do you think it's possible that I'm doing it in a round about way and it's just part of my personality or something.
2006-12-27 09:06:11 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What I've learned is that the girls just want to be friends, but guys are hardly ever used to just being friends with a girl. If they see a HINT of friendliness from a girl, they take it as a come-on. It can't be helped unless you tell them you just want to be friends.
2006-12-27 09:14:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG I totally know what you mean, yes it's part of your personality, It is the way you smile, you look at them, the way you talk. I have the same problem... I DON'T COMPLAIN THOU.
It is kind of good when you learn how to control it, because a lot of people out there don't know exactly how to flirt, and they get nervous and think too much about it, but we don't. So it is good. Just try to control it. If you want to make friends, just start talking to them like a little bit more serious so they don't get the wrong impression, try not to have the sparkle in your eyes, or the sexy smile... Just be yourself but in the same time be aware that you must show them no interest in a romantic relationship with them (make sure to read a few articles about body language, just search it on google.com. It will help a lot)
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2006-12-27 17:29:11 · answer #2 · answered by Latina Hottie! W.Chocolate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are really pretty and from what I can tell very friendly. But guys have guy friends and mostly they prefer a girl as a girlfriend rather than a friend. I think there is absolutely nothing wrong with you it's just maybe you send out the wrong signals. But that's Ok. Try changing your ways of making new friends like how you treat them and stuff.
2006-12-27 17:15:32 · answer #3 · answered by SHE'S A DANCING QUEEN ! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All the guys that said "men don't WANT to be your friend" are right. This has been my experience, too. I've even had guys "stick around for awhile" pretending to just want friendship, and then, ( when they thought the moment was right) try the whole "more than friends" thing. If you are attractive (and I'm guessing you are) it's not going to work. I'm not saying you can't EVER be friends with a guy, but I think for an attractive girl, it is a VERY rare thing. Get used to it.
2006-12-27 17:31:35 · answer #4 · answered by wendy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're attractive and you talk to a guy he will eventually hit on you. That is how the world works.
This is why many attractive women are so unapproachable. They get tired of being hit on just by being friendly. Threfore when an attractive woman DOES get friendly with a guy then the guy thinks he has a chance.
A smart guy never lets an attractive woman think he likes her except as a friend. This drives her crazy. She will eventually give him so many signals that he know it is now time to hit on her......when he DOES finally hit on her she is hooked.
2006-12-27 17:15:21 · answer #5 · answered by hardbodied_romantic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It definitely doesn't sound like anything is wrong with you, I guess you just have the knack of attracting guys. If you want to be just friends with us guys, you have to make it clear right away that you just want to be friends and you are unavailable for a relationship, just be upfront.
Guys will continue come on to you, its part of our flirting when we are in the presence of an attractive woman we can't seem to help it.
2006-12-27 17:36:37 · answer #6 · answered by Curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a rule, most guys don't WANT to be friends with you. We have friends already. If we're seeking out a female, it's for a relationship.
Get used to it.
2006-12-27 17:08:54 · answer #7 · answered by Steve 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it can be a personality if you do that enough times. It then becomes part of you.
2006-12-27 20:11:28 · answer #8 · answered by Stephanie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u dont love me and iknow it
2006-12-27 17:08:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋