I have known this spoiled 5-year old girl who always gets into trouble but her parents don't believe in discipline. She has punched me on the stomach, 2x (im pregnant) and hit me with her fist on the head real hard. (Im the aunt.) When my husband finally got her and her mom, she started crying and said, "There's something wrong with my head. Its always telling me to do bad things. We have to go to the doctor to have it fixed." This is a 5-year old girl...and do you think she's lying or she's really telling the truth?
2006-12-27 09:05:13 · 11 answers · asked by littlepregnantgirl 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Its difficult to deal with the parents coz they always just say, she's just the kid. We talked about it and made it clear but they always justify and say that " You'll understand as soon as you have kids.". Its difficult. :(
2006-12-27 10:17:47 · update #1
Sounds like we have our next Oscar winner on our hands.
She's putting on an act. If her head really hurt, she would be telling her parents that at times other than just when she's about to get in trouble.
You need to confront her parents about this or it'll only get worse.
2006-12-27 09:21:19 · answer #1 · answered by CelebrateMeHome 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Wow. This is serious. First, her parents are doing the child a disservice by not disciplining her. Her behavior will only continue to get worse because there are no consequences for her actions. And secondly, this anger is coming from somewhere. Even if she is lying, something is motivating her to lie. Personally, I think she needs professional help. Mental illness affects the oldest to the youngest. The parents need professional help as well.
2006-12-27 09:10:55 · answer #2 · answered by an88mikewife 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think 5 is far to young to have concocted that kind of story as an excuse for her actions. Even if she's "lying", that is a little girl that needs help.
It's unfortunate that her parents aren't disciplining her effectively, but you aren't her parent, so you can only counsel (and it's often not welcome). You CAN say, "I won't play with you because you hit" and get up and walk away.
2006-12-27 09:37:42 · answer #3 · answered by eli_star 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, just because her parents don't discipline, doesn't mean you can't. You're her aunt, and not saying that you should spank her or anything, but let her know that she will not treat you that way. Sit her down, and explain to her that people are not supposed to act like that. It's totally unacceptable, and if that doesn't help, you let her parents know that you will spank her if she continues and the talking doesn't help. I have a few nieces and nephews and I have spanked them all once or twice, and they know what they can and can't get away with when I'm around.
2006-12-27 09:30:44 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Smart little girl there it sounds like to me. Only complaining about voices when she's in trouble? I had a neice one time (a step neice) who was agressive and her mom wouldn't do anything. When she hit me in Target one day (thinking I wouldn't do anything) I grabbed VERY firmly by her hand and looked her straight in the eyes and said something to the effect of "I don't care who you hit, so long as it's not me." I have not had once ounce of trouble from that kid again.
It would cause problems for us, b/c say for instance, we'd all be at my house and she'd be running around and just generally irritating everyone, not minding her mom and finally I'd reach a breaking point and get on to her. Her mom, who was also my siter-in-law and best friend at the time, would get upset. But I figured, hey, it's my house, my rules. And that's how I explained it to her (the mom) after everyone else had left our house.
I now have a 16 month old and I don't let this child mear mine unsupervised.
If she hits you I think you can do one of two things: You can get on to her yourself, or you can look at her parent/s and say, "Do you seriously think this is ok? Are you going to get onto her or shall I?" Then, if the parents don't do anything--and I swear--I would actually do this......I'd go up to the parent and whatever the child did to me--I'd do it to them. If that kid punched me in the stomach, I'd go punch mom if she didn't get onto the kid. What? She gonna get onto YOU? Probably--but you'll make your point.
The more civilized thing would also be to talk to the parents when the child is not around--like a day or two before you go over there or they come to visit you. Explain your concerns---the safety of your unborn child, etc, explain how you expect the child to conduct herself. If they can't comply, then don't be around them. It's not worth it.
I was at a gathering one time and there was a really mean kid there and his mom NEVER got onto him. Well, he threw lettuce in my face--I was appalled!!! When I saw that neither one of the parents was going to say anything to this kid, I pulled him close to me, again--I looked him straight in his eyes, and I said--DO NOT EVEN THINK ABOUT COMING NEAR ME AGAIN. He left me alone. This was a pre-season party for my soft ball league. It was awful having this kid at games and being completely undisciplined. So, you guessed it--we didn't invite these people to play with us again the next year, I don't know if they know why they were not invited, but if they had asked, I'd have been very honest.
No one is doing this kid a favor by letting her act this way. So, you have to step up to the plate--you have your own safety to worry about.
And--the parents aren't gonna take this kid to a doctor even if they think she ehars voices--why? Becasue then they'd have to admit something was wrong--and they obvioulsy think they have a perfect child.
2006-12-27 09:57:16 · answer #5 · answered by kathylouisehall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if she is hearing something telling her to do bad things or not,but I would take her to get it checked out just in case.I would rather be safe than sorry in the long run. So maybe she need to go to the doctors and find out if the child is telling the truth or not.
2006-12-27 09:20:27 · answer #6 · answered by heavenlli_61 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all Id talk to the parents of this demon child and let them know that her behavior towards you is unacceptable. And if they want their child to abuse them then thats their problem but you will not tolerate or allow your niece to treat you this way. let them know also that you will correct that behavior each and every time she misbehaves towards you or around you. They might not like it but its unfair to allow their problem child treat you that way. They may even keep her away from you which might not be a bad idea considering your pregnant. It could be that she is spoiled and needs some serious decipline. Good Luck
2006-12-27 09:17:20 · answer #7 · answered by Baby boy blue 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She sounds spoiled but probably needs her bluff called. I would say ok we'll take you to the doctor. Maybe they can give you a shot to make you do good things . and then see how she reacts.
2006-12-27 09:57:40 · answer #8 · answered by party_pam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have absolutely no idea, but she sounds really really freaky!
Like, "I see dead people" freaky or "Tony doesn't want to come out to play today" creepy.
Steer clear of this child and pray its not genetic, since she is a relative!
2006-12-27 09:08:42 · answer #9 · answered by EmLa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may have a mental problem or shes just spoiled
2006-12-27 09:08:00 · answer #10 · answered by Alila 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋