im only 20 butt my 3 stepchildren are 13 and 7. help ?
2006-12-27 09:03:04 · 7 answers · asked by the sun should burn out tommorow 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i am 45 and i have 4 step children, all girls. i told them right off that i didnt want to replace their mother. i just wanted to be their friend. do you offer them allowance if they do their chorse or let them do something special like go to a movie with their friends,. my advice is to be their friend but tell them you must have respect too.
2006-12-27 09:23:37 · answer #1 · answered by wondering 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may sound rude but why now?
You and He should have confronted this before they were step-children.
First, You are going to create strife no matter how you look at it.
Do this a couple of times and times may change quickly if not your in for a long haul.
1)sit them down with their father and mother and lay down rules as to what you expect.
2)have them relay the new rules to their children as their new rules and that you have responsibilities that require them to follow these rules with you.
3)First fail call mother or father at work ,YES, either will work have them talk to the children. This will get real old being bothered at work.
Try this for a couple of weeks then:
4)call one of the parents home from to deal with them as you are not going to be in the middle anymore.
If this don't work.
5)Find a child care provider.
Nobody wants to pay for this.
What going to happen is everyone is going to get mad at you.
But unless the children's parents are no longer together because of you. Then it is their job to raise them and secondary job is yours in raising them. So don't let the children off the hook and don't let the parents off the hook.
Children should always come first but you have to enjoy life too.
Remember no abuse verbal, mental or etc...
2006-12-27 17:40:39 · answer #2 · answered by Tim D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully their father is backing you up. Why are they not listening? Is this a sudden change? How long did you date their dad before getting married and how was your relationship with his kids before marriage? Lots of unanswered questions that may play a big part....
2006-12-27 17:18:22 · answer #3 · answered by Darth Darwin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding me? Step-kids especially the teen agers don't listen to their step-parents. Ask your spouse to help with this situation or trouble will only get worse.
2006-12-27 17:15:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Their daddy needs to tell them that the rules change when you have new people in the house.
2006-12-27 17:12:46 · answer #5 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not many kids of that age listen try and be patient? they may be confused and think you are trying to replace the other parent....
2006-12-27 17:05:47 · answer #6 · answered by kim 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you EARN their love and respect, they will listen to you. If you DEMAND their obedience and submission, they will resent you.
2006-12-27 17:07:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋