Have 1 kindergartener, a 3 yr old and a 4 month old. My sister in law lives with us, watches the kids while we work. Need to figure out a reasonable rate to pay her. She's lived with us since 3/06, she had a bed in our kids playroom and paid $300 rent. We moved, she has her own room. She started watching our kids 10/06. Our house bills (rent, pg&e, water, cable, etc) total $2665. I say since she has her own room, her rent should be 1/4 of the cost, let's say $650. We've been paying her $400 cash. So I say we've been paying her $1050 per month. She's on SSI, $850 a month, which she keeps because it's under the table. If she worked, SSI would take 1/2 of her check so I think she should count that $425 into what we pay her since she gets to keep it all. And she can't hold a job. We want to put the 3 yr old in part time daycare to get some social skills, she keeps him in the playroom, no interaction, same with baby. Daycare for all 3 is $1800, part time is $360. We can't afford daycare.
2006-12-27 09:00:15 · 10 answers · asked by kmamamoo 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
There's no way we can afford to put them in daycare, cost of living in CA is outrageous.
2006-12-27 09:10:38 · update #1
OK, I want to point out that she can't hold a job, I've know her for 5 1/2 years and she's had 3 jobs for about 2 weeks each. She's doing us a favor, but we're also doing her a favor by letting her live with us, AND paying her to watch our kids. She could go rent a room, and spend half of her SSI on rent, or she could live with us and keep all of her SSI. I want to know if it's fair of us to cut her pay to help us pay for part time daycare for the 3 yr old. She sits at home all day and watches TV or listens to music, which she would do anyway even if she didn't watch our kids. She gets the oldest ready for school, drops him off and picks him up, makes breakfast and lunch, and changes diapers. Other than that, she sits around all day, and gets paid for it. Thanks for all of your help, by the way, I need different opinions :)
2006-12-27 09:21:00 · update #2
Live in nanny at your beck and call? You are lucky. I wouldn't charge her any rent and call it even. You both are getting a good deal.
2006-12-27 09:05:45 · answer #1 · answered by kiki 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is this all you do? Do you watch them after college ? i'm a stay out nanny for 2 young ones a while 18mnths and 3 a million/2. I paintings 5 days a week, 8-5 for $one hundred an afternoon with extra beneficial at situations. SOrry i'm no longer lots help. i've got in basic terms worked complete time in the families abode. in no way in basic terms transportation. it is the dad and mom activity. No offense.
2016-12-15 09:15:21 · answer #2 · answered by mundell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think of her as a live in Nanny, she wouldn't be paying you rent and would get a monthly salary on top of the room and board you are providing, which in California can be quite generous for a full time nanny. If you value her contributions toward the family the $400.00 under the table plus room and board is fair. Who knows, when you find you no longer need her as a nanny, she might realize she has found what she is really good and and explore other employment options in this field.
2006-12-27 09:36:22 · answer #3 · answered by knittinmama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest paying her by the hour. If you piad her minimum wage
$5.15 an hour, and paid in social security on her as a domestic employee, it would be a better deal for all involved.
Because 1. You and your spouse could claim (legally) more exemptions on your W-2 because you could document that you paid a domestic employee more than $1500 a year. That means more money in your paychecks.
2. Your sister in law would have some work credits built up with social security so that she could get it when she turns 65.
3. If your sister only got minimum wage, she wouldn't lose all of her SSI, just 25 percent of it.
4. Also, if you paid her minimum wage, she could take out an inexpensive health care and life insurance policy, listing you as employers. (which would be beneficial if she gets sick.)
5. Also, she could qualify to set up her own 401 k, that
she pays for.
6. Also, if your sister in law got really mad at you, she could report you for not paying her minimum wage and not withholding social security. This could get you in big trouble.
Suggestion if you work 40 hours a week. Pay her for 40 hours at $5.15 an hour. Make her fill out a W-4. Call IRS and get a Employer ID Number for yourself. Send in her Social Security payments quarterly.
You send a report to SSI that she is working and how much you are paying her.
Give her a W-2 each year. Since she is making minimum wage,
legally, as a domestic employee, you could withhold 30 percent of her paycheck to cover room and board.
In the end, you'd end up with more money because you could deduct it, legally on your taxes and she'd end up with more money because she could file an income tax return and have some money paid in so she could draw on it when she retires.
2006-12-27 09:39:31 · answer #4 · answered by txharleygirl1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say cut out her rent all together.
What's the point of charging her rent if you are going to give it back as pay?
What if she wasn't there? You would be paying $1800 a month.
Sounds like to me the only thing she should be paying is her own food and MAYBE part of the utilities.
Remember...She's doing you a favor.
2006-12-27 09:11:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
does she have freedom to do what she wants? goes out of town or quits anytime she wants? she doesn't. so she is doing you a favor, you wouldn't be able to work if she is gone. you should treat her as a babysitter then. i think a live-in-nanny should be paid at least $1200, but since you guys are helping each other out, she should be paid at least half or $600.
also, putting 3 kids in daycare is sooo inconvenient... i say you are lucky to have her.
2006-12-27 11:12:58 · answer #6 · answered by kbelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably decide what you would play a complete stranger, without living in your house. Decide what you would charge a stranger who was living in your house without watching kids (room and board) and pay her the difference.
2006-12-27 09:05:10 · answer #7 · answered by memyselfandI 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
heck i'd love that type of pay...i watch my niece 7 days a week..8am-5:30pm mon thru fri and sat and sun 8 am to 4 pm or later and i get $100 total
2006-12-27 09:05:13 · answer #8 · answered by eightysgurl04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i argee with you .one hand washes the other. she'll choose to do it
because she won't find it any better and she should be better to your children what else does she have to do all day.she could also help out with some chores around the house.god she's got it good ... i think your right ..
2006-12-30 16:49:09 · answer #9 · answered by chan72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I babysit and usually get 85$ an hour.
2006-12-27 09:19:57 · answer #10 · answered by Nicoletta 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋