i've been single for a month i do realize my ex is a no good who really really hurt me. I know he is not for me. I want to get over him, forget him. the problem his my heart longs for him even though i don't want to i'm very concern I know people who claim to be forever in love with someone and settle for second best. I am afraid of never getting over it since I was so committed to him last year we were separated for a year went out with other people but I knew I was still in love with him and we went back. I know this time is DONE we lasted 5 years and he messed up I messed up. Is it possible to be in love all your life with just one person even though you want to move on with your life and not be with them? I know I'm not going back to him but I want hope that i will get over it.
2006-12-27 08:48:17 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You know, being in love with someone can be a lifetime thing, but as with anything, there are variables. If this is a damaging relationship, you need to get on with your life and that doesn't mean you don't hold a special place in your heart for who this person was to you, but isn't necessarily now.
Don't keep a scorecard like this is a failure, this is a part of evolving into the person you become and that happens from life experience which includes the pain of losing a love.
Just start taking baby steps and soon you'll be walking onto a better life that you never could have imagined for yourself.
2006-12-27 08:53:10 · answer #1 · answered by OPTIMIST 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really fell what your saying. My ex and I sopped talking a whhhile back but I still think about him. In fact i even have unrealistic thoughts of us meeting again and picking something up. Even worse I almost called him on a few occasions.
The best thing you can do is not to think so pessimistically. After all there is a reason you two are not together anymore. Occupy you're time with other things (volunteer work, hanging with some friends, joining some kind of club or even writing/talking about out everything you feel) to get your mind of him. Chances are he isn't thinking half as much about you, so why worry so much hon.
Since you guys just broke up, yes your relationship is fresh on the mind especially if it was a long one with some sweet moments. Its ok. The most important thing is not to go back into it because most likely...its not worth it.
2006-12-27 08:59:46 · answer #2 · answered by PalmBeachNative 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just like the hurt feelings, the love and longing you feel will pass. It's only been a month. They say to give it half the time you were together to get over that person. You'll be fine. Just remember why you left him to begin with.
2006-12-27 08:52:13 · answer #3 · answered by water.bratz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand that the heart never listens & does things that you don't want to do. You have to just wait for the right tme to come, and one day you will get your true love, who deserves to be yours in your heart forever. Love is a great sensation, your love for him is great, & he should cooperate with you so that you both don't break up always. If he continues to do all separations and arguments, then maybe you should leave him & find someone else, because he will not be worthy for your true love.
2006-12-27 09:02:13 · answer #4 · answered by Yen M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hope is the biggest thing out of it. you want something.... it takes time to heal. but you never know. maybe.. maybe in a few years you guys will be perfect for eachother.
you know..
to tell you the truth. i'd kill to be madly in love again with my ex. even though his with someone else... i'd still love to look at our memories and our past stuff and able to tear up. or even be able to look at him and see this great blubberbutt jackass that i love.
hope things get better for you. dont lose hope. you just never know.
and yes it is possibe to be in love with someone all ur life. sometimes everyone thinks moving on is the best well. life goes on but love doesn't. and it takes time to fall out of love as much as it takes to fall in love.
good luck and take care.
God Bless.
btw if somehow you ever get back with ur ex.... i hope things go well. better then before.
2006-12-27 08:53:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was in a situation like yours once before, couldnt eat sleep nothing compared even remotely to this person, sex was horrible with other girls, i was devastated, the pain lasted what seemed to be an eternity, then she met someone else, and my option to keep going back was gone, that broke my heart, but ya know what, it was the best thing for me, these days i hate her and the sound of her voice makes me cringe i think that you will get over this, it will take a very long time , in the meantime, exercise and get yourself focused on you, you will be beating them off with a stick and will say to yourself i cant believe that i was with that..... best of luck to you
2006-12-27 08:56:02 · answer #6 · answered by waterboy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's only been a month. Give yourself time and don't jump into another relationship for a good long while. You'll heal. Figure out what you like and what makes you happy and then you'll know what to look for when you are ready again and it will be more fulfilling.
2006-12-27 08:51:49 · answer #7 · answered by anastasia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me. Time heals all ills. You probably won't get over him completely but you will reach the point where you can live with the hurt and pain. One day you will meet some guy who is considerate, fun-loving, kind, gentle, loving, and affectionate and he will sweep you off your feet and you will be in love with him and he will be in love with you and all will be right with the world. Just keep this thought uppermost in your mind as you continue dealing with your feelings from day to day.
2006-12-27 09:01:14 · answer #8 · answered by Lewis P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you know what you do need to get over it. Find someone else youll realize who is really meant for you. If he gets a gf or has one dont be the one who has to go and screw it up because you wouldnt want someone doing that to you would you. Find someone or something to occupy your time.
2006-12-27 08:52:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible,but if he really hurted you,u gotta go forword,forget on him,try to test yourself:Try to think bout him less and you'll have gud score if that number is gettin lower from day to day....n don't worry,thats not just your problem,many otha ppls are dealing with the same thing,but u will see that u'll find "Mr.Rite",
glad to help you
2006-12-27 08:54:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋