She had me dress up and go to the photographer with the entire family (brother in-law, nephew, sister-in-law, my husband and children, etc.) at Thanksgiving. Then when it was time for everyone to get in the picture, I was told to sit on the side. My husband had a great time with his family laughing and smiling for every picture while this was happening to me. Everyone acts like I shouldn't be very hurt that I was left out of the picture. I have been married to my husband for twelve years. What do you think?
2006-12-27 08:46:30 · 18 answers · asked by StormyC 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm so sorry this has happened. Very ignorant of the in-laws to treat you this way. As for your mother in law, i'd call her up on the phone and demand an explanation.
As for your husband, I'd demand an damn good explanation, from him about this.
If he say's you shouldn't be upset or try's to smooth it over, i'd tell him to get his butt over to his mother's and live with her and the next time he wants sex he should go see his mother.
God i hate families that do this, and it clearly sounds that your mother in law did this deliberately.
I'd make their lives a living hell and then they might begin to see what they allowed to happen was cruel.
2006-12-27 09:01:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was wrong of them to do this and I think you need to speak directly to your husband about this and explain why its unacceptable. If you were a girlfriend and not married I would say its different but you are a family member by marriage. If they wanted a seperate portrait with just biological family they could have taken that picture seperate. We had a family portrait done a few years ago then split up and took another picture of just my family and one of my sisters. The photographer is only too happy to do this because it means they sell more pictures. My advice is that this is a sign of a bigger issue as to how you are percieved by your husbands family but the bigger issue is how you are percieved by your husband who should have insisted you be in the picture
2006-12-27 08:57:45 · answer #2 · answered by snoopy22564 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that happened to me I would be hurt and very upset. Why were you even invited, if you were not to participate? I'm sure that made you feel left out and isolated. Nevertheless, holding on to anger, resentment, and hurt will only hurt you in the long run. It sounds like you have already attempted to discuss this with them because you said they act like you shouldn't be hurt. As you certainly can not MAKE anyone understand how you feel, all you can do is try to explain, and hope that they would be the least bit empathetic. Do not hold it in. If you choose to hold it in, you should find a way to let it go internally, so this won't continue to burden you any longer.
2006-12-27 08:59:31 · answer #3 · answered by Queryous 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geeze, she's a real b-word and your husband doesn't sound much better. You should send this posting to your mother in law & husband to show them all the responses so they realize what other people think of their actions. If you slap them both I don't think anyone would blame you. But honestly I think you should ask your mother-in-law why she didn't want you included in the family picture. Confront her, and then next your husband.
2006-12-27 09:09:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The women is crazy. You do not leave your husbands wife out of a family photo. What is her problem. When you get the pictures back you should cut her face out of all them and ask her how does it feel to be left out of the pictures. I can not believe your husband did not say any thing. What comes around goes around she will get hers sooner or later. Good luck!!!!!
2006-12-27 09:03:30 · answer #5 · answered by red1967 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would feel very hurt and sad. I would tell them just what I felt. If you have been married for 12 years you deserved to be in the picture!
2006-12-27 15:25:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is the matter with your Hubie is he a man our a mouse who wont stand up for his family that is if he considers you as part of his family why did he not stand up for you to include you in the photo,
you should be asking weather you should even be in a situation like this is this good for your children to be seeing?
2006-12-27 09:02:11 · answer #7 · answered by arthur3home 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So everyone but you was in the picture. I'd be pissed and tell my hubby he needed to tell his family just what they did way wrong. He should have said something right then, but since he didn't he should tell his mother now. Get things strightened out, fast!
2006-12-27 08:49:21 · answer #8 · answered by Dizzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry about them if u cant be apart of the family after twelve years u never will.
2006-12-27 09:05:46 · answer #9 · answered by wildpalomino 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is deplorable!!, a similar thing happend to my bro. in law,his daughter was in an x-mas play and most of his family came to see it....my sister and mom were there also....he sat with "his"family and left my sister and mom sitting alone. this made my sister sooooo sad, she was crying. in my opinion he treated like the "help" you need to tell him what he did to you and how it made you feel. he needs to attend my finishing school to be tought how to be a "real" MAN.
2006-12-27 09:04:03 · answer #10 · answered by feelinliketanto 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋