There is this girl that I know that just went through a bad marriage. She is an only child and has said that she thinks of me as her brother. In a way, she is the kind of girl that I am looking for but here is the problem...I am married and she does things that wife does not. This girl is independent while my wife relies on me to take her everywhere.
I think about this girl but I am afraid in a way, she might be thinking about me as well. The bad news is that her family is friendly with my in-laws so that puts more of a damper on it.
We do speak sometimes on the phone and by e-mail as well. What I am getting at is...should I just walk away and close her off?
2006-12-27 08:40:48 · 11 answers · asked by The Dark Knight 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Too complicated a situation to continue even being friends with this girl. Even if you do promise to yourself only to be friends with her the feelings that are lying under the surface will wreak havoc with your relationship with your wife.She may be dependent on you but that's not a good enough reason to hurt her, her family and yourself as well. No one guarantees that a relationship with that girl will be happier than your marriage. Think with your brain don't let lust drown your logic. Are there any serious problems with your wife? If not, work out any '' misunderstandings'' with her before running away. Good luck!
2006-12-27 09:18:15 · answer #1 · answered by Tess@ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are falling in love with someone else, remember you are just friends with this girl and people are different once they get married. Just remember this girl could be too independent and maybe not have the same qualities you like about your wife.
Ask yourself, are you happy in this marriage you are in now? or do you want someone more independent?
If you are not happy in your marriage maybe it is better to find someone else that is more your type.
2006-12-27 16:48:44 · answer #2 · answered by drunken_monkey1988 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok you like that girl, but you are married with another girl. If you really love that girl the only thing that you should is talk to your wife and tell her that you can't be with her anymore because you like somebody else. And then, talk to the girl that you like and tell her that you like her a lot.
2006-12-27 16:48:27 · answer #3 · answered by Maria C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love beats out lust.. what is it more about this woman, is it only a sexual attraction.. lust or do you think its love.. the thing is do you love your wife more than the other woman..
dont have an affair it just emotionally deepens a situation and brings hatred among the family, from parents to children, from husband to wife. if you just have a crush on this woman dont risk things, just be friends and dont let lust over take you
2006-12-27 16:46:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't control it, yes. This is disaster waiting to happen. You need to voice your concerns about your wife's dependence to your wife. Solve the problem. I know that burden is heavy for you. Get it lifted the right way before it gets worse.
Teach your wife how to drive. Was she driving when you met her? email me.
2006-12-27 16:45:40 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most men would be happy to have their wife depend on them more. I know my husband loves to have me depend on him and in certain ways i do. I think you got your self in a tough spot. You go with the girl and her being independent it might feel worse then your wife depending on you. In my opinion its because she knows or thinks she can do everything herself she isnt going to need you and youll feel left out. Your wife on the other hand shows you she needs you and wants to be with you.
2006-12-27 16:45:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you want to hurt her and you both a whole lot more than you hurt now, you should walk away. Even with the best of intentions, people get hurt, and it destroys even the good memories.
2006-12-27 16:43:38 · answer #7 · answered by donnabellekc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. To do anything else would be disrespectful to your wife & your marriage & ultimately to yourself. Walk away before it goes any farther.
2006-12-27 16:44:34 · answer #8 · answered by wanda3s48 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with being friends with someone as long as you don't cross the that line.
2006-12-27 16:46:26 · answer #9 · answered by Marina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you are married.
so.... yeah of course walk away. and these relations with her people and your people in laws...
puts ya in a little hole here if you decide to take the chance.
2006-12-27 16:45:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋