I can't stop asking myself if he is going to change. I know I have talked about this subject but its still on my mind. He hates my parents and parents don't like him but he says he loves me and what he did in the past he is sorry for but he has always said i will change and he does for about a couple of weeks and then he is back to his old self. and i don't know what to believe should i give him another chance after i have given him many or try someone new that is showing how it feels to be treated nicely? but the bad thing is i really do love him ...but he is my first love though but i just want to find happiness and sometimes i feel like he can give it to me but then he just treats me bad again and then we fight again?
2006-12-27 08:22:45 · 6 answers · asked by Lisa H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have had similar relationships. I'm 23 years old now and it just seems that younger guys are not really mature enough to truly understand the need for change to make a relationship work. Love doesnt come easily, I mean its a meshing of two different people and that takes a lot of compromising and understanding. I'm sure he wants to change but imagine trying to change things about yourself that have been your nature for the past 20 years or so. Those things likely can't be changed in a day or in a week or a month and if they are things that are serious (things that either really hurt you when they happen or things that you simply can't accept) then you should take some time away from him or move on. At least that way he'll know how serious you really are. And as far as the parents thing goes, I've had that too. If you are close with your parents its going to be really hard to have a boyfriend that they hate and visa versa. You end up being caught in the middle being made to feel badly by both sides. Its rough. You sound young so from my exerience, its really hard to let a love go however over time you start to see that life shouldnt be filled with stress and anger and drama and feelings of sadness, jealousy or hurt. Hope you can find the strength to do what's best for you. Good luck!
2006-12-27 08:34:11 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he keeps falling back into old, and especially bad habits, he is not worth the time or effort you are wasting.
Get on with your life. You are worth much more than this.
Okay, he's your "first love", but that doesn't mean he has to be the only love.
You need to find someone who will treat you the way you are supposed to be treated and you need to stop making excuses to stay with someone who can't see what they're doing is wrong.
2006-12-27 16:27:53 · answer #2 · answered by lyoskowitz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you dump this loser and find a good guy? Do you think he is going to change since he knows he can get away with it? He will never change because you keep giving in.
2006-12-27 16:27:06 · answer #3 · answered by Venus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the words First is what your operative word. he won't be the last and it sounds like you need to find someone who is good from the start & remains that way.
2006-12-27 16:30:09 · answer #4 · answered by jenni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust your gut and follow through
2006-12-27 16:25:57 · answer #5 · answered by neicee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only one way to find out and see if he is truely meant for u
2006-12-27 16:25:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋